need some info from u 3rd decan mermaids..

hey so for all of you brilliant 3rd dec pisces girls over here, please tell me if u were once deeply in love and in a long lasting relationship with a guy. did u ever break up with him and did that transform u in anyway? if so, then what changed in you exactly? was it for the better or worse in your opinion?

March 17th here

I have been in 3 long term relationships from the age of 15-21 each lasting a year or longer.

I broke up with all 3 of them. The relationships became dull, I was/am young and wanted to experience more. Felt like there was no longer any growth.

The first was easy, compared to the others. Aqua with Venus in Pisces. I simply moved on. We talked for a few months after but eventually grew apart and do not talk now. Maybe once a year a passing on Facebook but that's about it.

The second I would call my "high school sweetheart." This relationship I have delt with to this day. It's hard to remember years ago when we split, but after we did we still messed around in the bedroom, for a while after. Never got officially back together but were still attached. Would have conversations every so often about how it had to end, the fwb, the attchments. I felt terrible for "breaking his heart" -his words, and "ruining his life" -his words. He was always very jealous when I would meet someone new, and even when i got into the relationship with the 3rd boy, would send me "I miss you texts" and picture messages of himself. He is also a Pisces.

Third relationship was with a taurus. We messed around a bit after we broke it off too.. But currently we are just friends, ive had to create boundaries, and he confides in me about his relationships with other women. He makes comments that he is still in love with me, half joking and partly, depressingly serious.

Not to be conceded, cause I'm certainly not, but I'm pretty positive the 2 latter guys would take me back. Idk what it is. I guess I'm a decent catch.

To this day, I have a 1 yr old son with the high school sweetheart. He was conceived drunkenly, which is how most of my fwb situations with the ex boys happened. I am no longer the partier i once was, and haven't had sexual contact with anyone for over a year (it's really terrible lol! But I told myself I was holding off until in another committed relationship). I lived with the Pisces for 3 months on his army base this past year with our son and there was 0 chemistry. (i thought so anyways) I care about him to pieces, but this has prompted me to finally be strong enough to tell him that I am completely moving on. Our relationship and the pain of each others presence had lingered for years.. But I think it's finally over. I just had to have the guts to let go and not let his attachment to me fuck with my head and future actions any longer.

I appreciate everything I learned in my relationships, and the experiences gained. I care for the guys stil very much and if they needed a shoulder, id be here for them.

I reread and it sounds like I was being slutty with the exes but that wasn't really the case, when my son was conceived I hadn't even hung out with the Pisces for a few months. Our hangout was very casual and I wanted to spend time with him before he went into the army which he had decided to do. And well.. Drinks got involved and you kno the rest.

But I guess I was sleeping with the taurus a bit outside of the relationship. But hey, he was a good "lay" lol...

Also, why are wondering phooey? What's your story?

Although my life/love story reads more like tangled string than a book, I have had deep feelings for a few guys. And I have had to move on past those guys.

It always seems to go the same way. It's hard at first - to walk away from someone you care about so much. Torturous even. But with time and space comes clarity, and then I'm able to take from it what I hope makes me a better and stronger person. What that is? Hard to say. Growing past those people is key to moving on. I am hesitant to say (but will anyway), that once a relationship ends for myself (3rd decan Pisces), I will eventually move forward with no looking back (don't be fooled by the times that things SEEM to be over, but aren't yet done running their course), once it's over/over, re-visiting is not really in the cards.

(SEE, this post... is probably why my life story is tangled string), damn you Merc in Pisces.

I also have merc in Pisces, and can relate to this tangled string ...

Thank you 2 very much for your replies. Theres a lot that makes sense now.

LouLore, i have so much to tell u but im currently at work so ill post my story when i get back home tonight. have a nice day. 🙂

1st decan.. but Merc in Pisces as well.. and my string is tangled thusly too LOL

Oh man, i dont even know where to begin... but ill try and keep this short and sweet. LouLore, your story reminded me of her.

So im a second decan fish, and ive been in love with her for nearly a decade. we've also been best friends for over a decade and that didnt make things easier. she was deeply in love and had been seeing another really close friend of mine for over a decade until about a year ago. he's our mutual classmate and her high school sweetheart (just like in your case). well she broke up only a yr ago but apparently lost interest much prior to that. the only reason i didnt tell her that i loved her was because of him... although it was quite evident and most of my friends knew.

Anyway, so i returned home from new york last december and in the 2 yrs i was away she changed so much because of all her pre-breakup reservations. She became more cynical of love saying that it never lasts. she became hardened becaue of it and as i had mentioned earlier in some previous posts, she put a layer of armor around her so she wouldnt get hurt. ofcourse hes not the only one shes been with.. shes did have a few flings in between out of whch only one other was kinda serious. ofcourse i used to get really jealous and posessive even though i wasnt dating her. but things have changed with me recently. since the past yr shes adopted this new total honesty policy in which she doesnt lie at all. she'd rather not reply than lie... to any1 if she can help it, even for tiny ones. so about a week back took adv of that fact and decided to have a heart-to-heart with her about anything and everything that was on my mind. i asked her about personal things in her life- abt her love interests, sexual relationships etc. ho holds barred. ive come to understand a whole new part of her (because it was relatively new in the first place). shes suddenly taken a very grown up and cynical stand on life. in her bid to be completely honest with herself, shes going straight for whatever she wants and doesnt mind leaving ppl behind to get it. its kinda scary thinking abt it even as a friend. ofcourse she will try quite hard not to hurt any1 but if she must, shes ready and willing. i dont know what it is, whether shes jaded or just damaged but she tells me things like she sometimes invites conflict or finds it necessary to have ppl around her who can hurt her feelings so that she knows that shes still able to feel emotions deeply. i on the other hand look for harmony and usually tr

i on the other hand look for harmony and usually try and end fights as quickly as possible. she just wants a lot of excitement in her life and doesnt care about stability and and what she needs... its just what she wants.
as in any relationship, the person who loves the other more wont be on the offensive in a fight. and she almost always is these days.. with any1. so from now i guess shes only goign to take things as they come... not worrying too much abt anything except her career and indulging herself with whatever excites her. so ive decided to do the same too... my outlook on my feelings for her have taken a turn for the better. i actually feel good now. i still love her company to no end because both of us get each other on an extremely deep level and things are never boring with her. so now that i know how she thinks i know that ill always have a chance with her (even if it lasts for a short while) as long as shes really happy around me and im not going to get jealous if she fucks around with other guys. yes, im going to fuck around too even though i may not feel the same about another girl until i meet one as amazing as her.

you know, earlier she used to be the sweetest thing on the planet. she was not in the least scary. now shes now equipped with weapons such as brutal honestly and biting sarcasm- pretty scary at times. lol

the reason for this topic was to find out if this thing about hardening feelings is some kind of natural progression for third decan mermaids and i do find that it is. it varies in degree but its definitely there. oddly enough i havnt seen this happen with the other decans.

March 18

march 12th, the day of her birth.

no no trust me even the second decans know the diff btwn reality and our dreamworld. we just like to take it easy on the dreadfully serious aspects of life thats probably why we're a little more chilled out. thirds def harden if they are bitten... the girls at least.