Oblivion

I was just thinking about something and wondering if it was just me, or if it's all Pisces .. or, maybe it's everybody, except a few, or, maybe it's just my Virgo husband. But, he is oblivious to his environment most of the time.

For example: In an aisle at the grocery store, I'll notice every person and move appropriately .. whereas my husband will just stand with cart in the middle of the isle and he has to be asked by the person to move so they can pass. He has manners, it's not that .. he just doesn't even notice anything around him except what he is doing.

Or, if he is talking about something and the other person gets into a sneezing, or coughing frenzy, he just keeps talking and has no clue that at the moment they are sneezing their fool head off and are no longer paying attention. Or, if the phone rings, he won't stop for you to answer .. he doesn't notice that the other person's attention has been caught by something else .. he only acknowledges that he has somethign to say.

Or, driving .. I see all cars on the road and attempt to anticipate whether someone is going to turn by their speed slowing down, or anything they might do on the road .. whereas he doesn't notice. For instance, he'll slam on the brakes cursing because someone stopped short in front of him .. and he never noticed that 3 cars ahead the brakes lights came on, which would be an indication that traffic is slowing or stopping, or maybe somebody pulled out in front of a car further ahead in traffic which would make everyone have to stop abruptly .. he only notices when the car in front of him has to stop and then gets irritated because he thinks it's done for no apparant reason.

Anyway, this isn't about bashing anyone .. I'm trying to figure out, if this is sign related. Am I just extra tuned-in to my surroundings and so everybody is oblivious, not just him. Or, is he this way because he is a Virgo, or is it just him.

Or, maybe there is an awareness of all these things .. and a person just doesn't care because they are on their particular mission in life and only have to worry about themselves. I don't know ..

so, it's not a Virgo thing, then .. I wonder if all Pisces are like this, or just me, 'cause I notice a leaf blowing across the garden.

If you weren't paying attention to your ipod, would you notice other shoppers?

When talking to someone, do you notice if you no longer have their attention?

"what brahn is a big black man?"

Yes

Yeah, I notice if someone isn't listening .. I notice every person in the room, who they are talking to, who they are listening to, if they scratch their face, everything.

So, pp, you notice everything, too? Maybe it's a Pisces thing, then.

So are Cancers .. maybe it's water. My Scorpio son notices, too.

pp, what does being a big black man have to do with beating him up?

archer, mainly, it drives me nuts that other people are oblivious to things .. as you can see in here when I start yelling at someone, "How can you NOT be aware of yourself". It boggles my mind.

Well, at least I know that this isn't just my husband in his Virgoness ..

I know that question was to pp, but, one thing I like about Virgo's is their drive, their tenacity .. most people would throw in the towel under duress, or if they thought they were losing .. Virgo's rarely falter when they feel their aim is accurate.

Mine can't multi-task very well .. usually his focus is on one thing at a time. I think it's because of his desire to see something to completeness .. if he spreads too thin then something might not get done to perfection ..

What do you find interesting, archer?

I had the opposite scenario with my ex... I was always completely aware of everything around me.. and he was always off in lala land.. especially if we hit the toy aisle at Walmart... he gets into his own little world and is compeletly oblivious to everything around him...

Defense mechanism? To just go off into his own little world in the toy aisle? I don't see why he would get defensive about that..

I guess so... I mean he's not totally up to speed... he's not mentally ill or anything... but he's just not as quick as most... it takes him an awfully long time to register anything... and you have to keep repeating things a lot before he understands them... I guess you could call it a learning handicap... he's always been tht way apparently.. maybe that's why he gets like that...

Maybe... but I still love him just the same.. and I still want him just the same... 😢

I don't think so, S702 .. for example, my husband will say something to me and if I don't respond according to his expectations, then he feels compelled to say it again, and again.

That doesnt' mean I didn't hear it .. that just means he had an expectation that didn't come to fruit, so he only thought I wasn't aware. That happens a lot to Pisces because we don't always respond according to how other people think we should.

S702 .. you have to let go of this, or you'll go crazy.


To quote Mickey .. You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.

Think it's hyper-vigilance P, and yes, I also think it's a Pisces thing to be that way. We're driven so much by what we feel that we can tell when we've lost another's focus during conversations (or worse, relationships in general) and we "sweep" a room for other people's emotional clues.

Sometimes it seems like self-protection; like to get a read on everyone's emotions in the room before I decide whether or not to stay in that environment....and it updates every so often during the course of the evening. Maybe because we suck in other people's emotions we are built to be careful about where we let ourselves hang out?

Sometimes it drives me bats.

why, pretty pisces? what's going on?

Are even DC's posts missing? I'm only here sporadically and didn't interact with DC too much....was new and a Pisces, too, right?

Thanks, dreamer. I knew it was a full moon or impending full moon, but for some reason I'm thus far strangely unaffected. Hope DC returns!

I do that same thing....

I swear I am in my own world somethimes