other people problems

If you don't remember me, I met My Pisces at a yard party through a mutual friend. I am a —lil hobo?? type girl meaning I drop into a group of people, hang out for a while... then I'm on my way. These relationships are usually short, intense and memorable. Like traveling and meeting people on vacation.

Anyway, I was introduced to this group of people through a friend and stayed for the Pisces. Our mutual friend died a couple years ago so the only connection was my man. These are his people. I made some female acquaintances in the group that I shared laughs and some good times. I guess I was there for them thru some hard times, too... but when gossip, interference and backstabbing started to happen it was time for me to go.

It's easy for me to cut ties like that and my Pisces didn't want me hanging around these girls anymore. I used to see these people all the time so my disappearance was abrupt. Poof. But months later I was very honest and let them know why.

Tonight he was at an event, some of these ladies were there and they were giving him a hard time blaming him for keeping me away and saying how much they miss me. I was invited to this event also but didn't reply to it.

Now he's really pissed because he feels they??re guilt tripping him. It's not the first time people have given him a hard time about my absence. I don't know how I feel about it. I don't miss these people. I mean I enjoyed their company but I don't miss the drama and pettiness that went on with the interaction. I have my own friends I see sometimes who don't cause me grief.

Do you think he's being too possessive not wanting me around these women? Should I be more forgiving and give these ladies another shot?

I'm a bit confused here when you say that he's being possessive in not wanting you to hang out with the girls when clearly you described to us that YOU don't want to hang out with these girls.

I didn't catch the sense that this was him being controlling ..... when I read this, I took it that you wanted to cut ties, and he's standing by your decision.


And of course, I remember you 🙂

I don't want to be around them, either.

I guess we're both feeling a bit guilty. But wondering if the guilt is ours or is it just because guilt was the desired effect.

what is it you are guilty about?

Posted by shellshocker

Now he's really pissed because he feels they??re guilt tripping him.

It's not the first time people have given him a hard time about my absence.

I don't know how I feel about it.

I don't miss these people.

There's nothing wrong with your decision in not hanging with these people ... however ...

If he's catching grief about it, and it bothers you that he's catching grief ... then maybe you should make an occasional appearance for his sake.

That's funny you said that P. Our friend who passed used to tell me to, "Go show your face."

haven't heard that in years. shit. now I'm emotional

Posted by djbuck1
Or maybe you both need a new set of friends.

I wonder if Baba Ji is looking for some?

Posted by shellshocker

I used to see these people all the time so my disappearance was abrupt. Poof. But months later I was very honest and let them know why.

If you were very honest with them about your disappearance why would they guilt trip him?

Why is he still associating himself with them?

If someone hurts the one I love, they hurt me to.

@PiscesLove7 . I told them both reasons. I disappeared because of 1) your gossiping, lying and interference. 2) Pisces doesn't really want me hanging with you. Brutally honest and equally true cause as I said before, this is his circle. The first reason requires accountability for their actions, not always easy to do. The second reason could be used to put the blame solely on Pisces.

@DG - The men are friends he's known for years, they share common interests. Why wouldn't he associate with them? The women are acquaintances that come with the men.

Posted by shellshocker
@PiscesLove7 . I told them both reasons. I disappeared because of 1) your gossiping, lying and interference. 2) Pisces doesn't really want me hanging with you. Brutally honest and equally true cause as I said before, this is his circle. The first reason requires accountability for their actions, not always easy to do. The second reason could be used to put the blame solely on Pisces.

@DG - The men are friends he's known for years, they share common interests. Why wouldn't he associate with them? The women are acquaintances that come with the men.

I see. His circle? How long you two been together? is it serious?

Are these women their wives? I don't see why you even told him anything, sounds more like women bullshit, handle it yourself.

I would have just re-adjusted how I interact with them. Gossip begins; "ok ladies, have a good evening, I have to go, you don't have to give anyone a reason why you need to leave.

Backstabbing begins;

Keep your conversations superficial, don't tell them your personal business, cus now you know they can't be trusted.

You now have the upper hand because you got their number, if anything, things should be better now.

Plus when your man is surrounded by double-dealing, trifling, bitches, all the more reason to stay close.

"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer."

yes, it's serious. we have a life together but we also have separate parts that don't interact.

it's cute that you ask this. 🙂 I just had a Gemini friend of mine come into town with her Cancer husband. These two have always been joined at the hip, even when they were just friends, lol. She couldn't believe I didn't bring my Pisces when we all met up. I mean, it was a completely foreign to her.

The idea of bringing him to meet them was completely foreign to me. Why? to listen to us reminisce? LOL, he'd be so uncomfortable.

Anyway, I have me answers. It's been over a year since I went MIA and I think we may have to be more balanced.

Posted by shellshocker
yes, it's serious. we have a life together but we also have separate parts that don't interact.

it's cute that you ask this. 🙂 I just had a Gemini friend of mine come into town with her Cancer husband. These two have always been joined at the hip, even when they were just friends, lol. She couldn't believe I didn't bring my Pisces when we all met up. I mean, it was a completely foreign to her.

The idea of bringing him to meet them was completely foreign to me. Why? to listen to us reminisce? LOL, he'd be so uncomfortable.

Anyway, I have me answers. It's been over a year since I went MIA and I think we may have to be more balanced.

Agreed, balance is the key....and "wow" at a Gemini and Cancer getting along.

Posted by DeeG

Posted by shellshocker
yes, it's serious. we have a life together but we also have separate parts that don't interact.

it's cute that you ask this. 🙂 I just had a Gemini friend of mine come into town with her Cancer husband. These two have always been joined at the hip, even when they were just friends, lol. She couldn't believe I didn't bring my Pisces when we all met up. I mean, it was a completely foreign to her.

The idea of bringing him to meet them was completely foreign to me. Why? to listen to us reminisce? LOL, he'd be so uncomfortable.

Anyway, I have me answers. It's been over a year since I went MIA and I think we may have to be more balanced.

Agreed, balance is the key....and "wow" at a Gemini and Cancer getting along.

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They're so in love, too. Adorable

You say you don't miss his friends, so if it were me, I'd stay out of it. They're not going to suddenly change so you have to decide if you want back in that, dramatics and all.

You haven't described very well the pisces being possessive so I can't say for sure. He may not want you around them for reasons that benefit you, reasons that benefit him, or reasons that benefit both of you. I'm not sure if he's told you the reasoning, but if he hasn't, then only he knows which of those categories is correct. I mean, usually people do things for themselves so #2 is what is usually assumed, but still, you never know (unless you do! Haha)