Pisces men?

Are they generally good communicators?
Do they mind hearing from old flames?

I know it sounds silly but I can't forget one I dated recently. he ended it as he was in a mess in his personal and working life.

Fell very hard for his watery charm.

Nothing bad whatsoever happened between us. He said I was a great person etc.

Any point opening lines of communication?

I think we are usually good communicatirs but we don't like hurting people's feelings. If he really did like you; he wouldn't mind hearing from you but if he doesn't feel as strong; he would have a problem and might just ignore you. Give it a shot since you say nothing bad happened and give it some time. Mostly we don't go back to our exes if something bad had happened unless if we have some unfinished business. I don't think I would end a relationship because of personal and work issues coz that's when i need somebody that I like or love by my side but people are different.

What should I say?

Posted by RoseAngel81
What should I say?

Say something like hello stranger, how are you. Then wait for his reply. Might take him a couple of days to get back to you tho'

This has nothing to do with whether Pisces men are good communicators or whether they mind hearing from old flames.

"he ended it as he was in a mess in his personal and working life"

Consider this ^^^^^ when looking at your motivations for getting in touch with him.

I say don't bother. Your wish to get back in touch appears to stem from your missing him more than any regard/concern for his well-being.

At the end of the day he ended it and made it clear he wanted/needed space. I'd give him it.

If he wants you he'll come back once he's got his shit together.

Whether you want to wait around in the hope that happens is entirely up to you.

Posted by MissPirate
This has nothing to do with whether Pisces men are good communicators or whether they mind hearing from old flames.

"he ended it as he was in a mess in his personal and working life"

Consider this ^^^^^ when looking at your motivations for getting in touch with him.

I say don't bother. Your wish to get back in touch appears to stem from your missing him more than any regard/concern for his well-being.

At the end of the day he ended it and made it clear he wanted/needed space. I'd give him it.

Not quite, I have a lot of water.placements in my chart and I have a kind of savour complex. With all of his issues, messy life, being treated like crap at work, I wanted to help and support him as I like to do that for people I care about.
The taurean loyalty thing I guess.
And I do miss him and how nice he was.

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Posted by RoseAngel81
Are they generally good communicators?
Do they mind hearing from old flames?

I know it sounds silly but I can't forget one I dated recently. he ended it as he was in a mess in his personal and working life.

Fell very hard for his watery charm.

Nothing bad whatsoever happened between us. He said I was a great person etc.

Any point opening lines of communication?

Sounds like a very "Pisces-male" story.

If he's in a mess, why not let him sort it out first? You don't need a dependent fish.

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what do you mean, very pisces - male story. is it typical ofntjem?

no

Posted by RoseAngel81

Posted by MissPirate
This has nothing to do with whether Pisces men are good communicators or whether they mind hearing from old flames.

"he ended it as he was in a mess in his personal and working life"

Consider this ^^^^^ when looking at your motivations for getting in touch with him.

I say don't bother. Your wish to get back in touch appears to stem from your missing him more than any regard/concern for his well-being.

At the end of the day he ended it and made it clear he wanted/needed space. I'd give him it.

Not quite, I have a lot of water.placements in my chart and I have a kind of savour complex. With all of his issues, messy life, being treated like crap at work, I wanted to help and support him as I like to do that for people I care about.
The taurean loyalty thing I guess.
And I do miss him and how nice he was.

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Exactly my point. YOU want to help him. I don't see him asking for help from you. Quite the opposite he's made his position quite clear.

I'm not trying to be harsh I'm just calling it as I see it.

It's your life though. If you're determined to attempt to rekindle things with this man then by all means crack on.

Posted by theie
Dont listen to this people...


You want pisces guy ?

He is weak pussy trust me


You gotta take action

What are your words of wisdom for her then pray tell? What would you suggest she do?

Posted by theie
Dont listen to this people...


You want pisces guy ?

He is weak pussy trust me


You gotta take action

So what exactly should I do?! I'm plum out of wisdom.

Is he not a pisces? I didn't know that I'm really new here.

Just leave the dude ?completely alone or try and be friendly

as was covered previously....

if you have to "try and be friendly" - it means you have an agenda.
if you have to ask if you should "try and be friendly" - it means you have an agenda.

so the answer SHOULD be... just leave him alone. But you appear to have your mind made up, and you have to live it out the way you are happy with. There's no magic answer though - of how to make it work out in your favour.

I know I know.

Maybe he'll remember how I was nice to him if he hasn't found anyone else later.

By all means, take the advice of our resident Pisces expert here.

Do let us know how it pans out.

🙂

I don't know. don't wanna lose him altogether.

Will he mind me contacting him?

guhhhhhh *shakes you*

you don't want him to not mind you contacting him. you want to see if he is open to dating again. because based on how hard you are thinking on how to and whether you should contact him.... you will carry on driving yourself crazy overanalyzing what he responds with, or wjy he didn't respond...etc.

and that is why the pisces ladies are telling you to just let it be. despite alternate interpretations.

if you want to drag it out... by all means, but I'm taking a wild guess that you won't be satisfied unless he responds how and when you want.

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Everyone one is right, even Scorpy. In a nutshell, Rosie, you have given your heart to this Pisces and in doing so, you have also given away your ability to take control of this situation. So since the Pisces is in control here, not you, he could come back or be receptive to EITHER decision you decide. He is in control. Not you and you have made that painfully obvious.

My advice. Love God first or a higher power (Whatever you believe in). That's first and foremost. Second learn to love yourself. Invest in yourself. Think about it. How do you expect someone else to love or invest in something THAT YOU DON'T. Once you truly start loving and investing in YOU, You will take your heart back and control. Then you will finally realize, you always had it but you never wanted it and tried to force it on others and sadly, they didn't want it either.

Once you love You and invest in you, you will see a change in your life for the better. Trust and Believe.

Piranha his life had hit him hard over many things when I met him.
Things seemed to be improving for a bit and it was good. Then he had some more issues and pushed me away. literally inwas like nihy and day. had a great date one evening and a fee days later after some lovely texts, gone: can't do this.

He said I'm a great person and all that and its not me.

We weren't together long enough to have him lean on me etc.

Funny thing is just as he left I am in hell at work and.need some comfort 😢

I am pretty strong willed, not a yes girl. Never have been never will be.


What about no agenda then. Just ask him straight up what happened.

I did screw up then. I kinda got upset and defensive when he ended it and he apologise over and said sorry he upset me.

Thing is he really didn't make me feel good when we we together. he confused the hell out of me and it revolved around him. He was a gentle and attentive guy when I got to see him. maybe I'm taking altruism too far.

Posted by RoseAngel81
I did screw up then. I kinda got upset and defensive when he ended it and he apologise over and said sorry he upset me.

Thing is he really didn't make me feel good when we we together. he confused the hell out of me and it revolved around him. He was a gentle and attentive guy when I got to see him. maybe I'm taking altruism too far.

I get that you're hurting but you're not going to do yourself any favours by obsessing over what you did or didn't do wrong (trust me I've been there) or how you could have done better. And who says you screwed up? So you got upset and defensive when he ended it, so what. You're not a robot.

If you want to get in touch with this guy that's your choice at the end of the day. Just consider the facts though, which speak for themselves. Pisces or not, this man ended it with you and does not appear to have expressed any wish to stay in touch.

Also, his troubles are exactly that, HIS troubles. Focus on yourself. Go out and have fun girl!

Posted by MissPirate

Posted by RoseAngel81
I did screw up then. I kinda got upset and defensive when he ended it and he apologise over and said sorry he upset me.

Thing is he really didn't make me feel good when we we together. he confused the hell out of me and it revolved around him. He was a gentle and attentive guy when I got to see him. maybe I'm taking altruism too far.

I get that you're hurting but you're not going to do yourself any favours by obsessing over what you did or didn't do wrong (trust me I've been there) or how you could have done better. And who says you screwed up? So you got upset and defensive when he ended it, so what. You're not a robot.

If you want to get in touch with this guy that's your choice at the end of the day. Just consider the facts though, which speak for themselves. Pisces or not, this man ended it with you and does not appear to have expressed any wish to stay in touch.

Also, his troubles are exactly that, HIS troubles. Focus on yourself. Go out and have fun girl!

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you're very kind.

Maybe it's best I showed emotion that proved I cared about him

the only thing that got my attention is that I've seen so many threads on here saying pisces always cone back.

Ever true? Do they?

Posted by MissPirate

If you want to get in touch with this guy that's your choice at the end of the day. Just consider the facts though, which speak for themselves. Pisces or not, this man ended it with you and does not appear to have expressed any wish to stay in touch.

Also, his troubles are exactly that, HIS troubles. Focus on yourself. Go out and have fun girl!

+1

To be honest it's kind of pathetic seeing you so deep in denial, trying so hard to convince yourself and grab onto hope that he "will come back to you". Regardless of sign, everyone is different. Some Pisces will return, and some won't. If you really want to be with him, you can fight for it, but if he's not trying to make it work just as much as you are, the imbalance will probably result in failure. If his problems are rooted from something in his personal life, don't be his savior. So many people want to "save" their S/O, and I find those relationships the most unhealthy and destructive. See, you don't actually want to save your significant other. You want to feel needed by them, and "helping" them gives you some sort of unhealthy self-validation. If you really want to help him, let him figure it out for himself.

I'm a Leo woman currently involved with a Pisces male who had been my good friend for two years prior to anything romantic happening between the two of us (mostly because I didn't realize I liked him until very recently). In those two years I've seen him go through a lot of personal and mental struggle--with unhealthy relationships and drug abuse, and through all of it I've stayed in the background, not trying to actively help him, because sometimes, fish especially, really need to learn how to lean on only themselves. And he learned it. And now he's in a really good place right now and ready to cultivate a relationship without negative emotional baggage. And it makes me so happy that he was able to achieve that harmonious state of mind with just himself and nobody else to lean on.

I want to contact him but don't know what to say. I guess you're all right. he really doesn't want me.

I want to contact him but don't know what to say. I guess you're all right. he really doesn't want me.

Eh, my brothers and I have a bad rap.

I communicate with decent people I care about.

The oddballs, miscreants, troublemakers and other jerks...

Not so much.

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He was an oddball.

We used to text all the time and he was so sweet. I don't know what I did wrong 😢

gahhhh rose... you didn't do anything wrong. it just wasn't a match. why does it have to be more complicated than that??

you are going to hurt your own psyche the way you are looking at it.

the reasons why people do AND don't get together - are infinite..

just accept that if there was a connection the timimg was off. and if there wasn't a connection it doesn't make you a deficient person or potential date. pretty pleeeeease.

I am speaking from a place of knowing, and I hate to see you beating up on yourself for things of which you cannot control!

I'm just having a hard time of everything at the moment.

I think the timing was off.....I hope.

Hopefully the pisces will do the reappear I keep reading about. But I guess not.

I read your post before you hid it. If that would work he wouldn't have left in the first place.

How about friendly contact? pleasant bullishit.

Rose - in one of the other threads... fear was holding the woman back, from speaking up in her situation.

It got me thinking of your story... and your fear is controlling you. You are fearing his reception, his response. Things you have no control over. The only reason I suggest you leave it be, is because I feel as though you are going to be crushed if it doesn't go the way you hope.

Do I think his reception will be rude, or unwelcoming, certainly not. But you have to tread lightly, and keep yourself in check. It's very easy in such murky waters to read into everything and anything, both good and bad, when you will probably not have any evidence to support either way (based on how he has left things with you).

So it is fairly clear that you wish to speak with him. If you can handle the possibility (not probability, but possibility) that it may not fulfil your expectations, then I'm always an advocate of doing what you want. You have to do it responsibly though, as in understanding that once you do what you want, it is out of your hands and now in his. Does any of that make sense?

I contacted him friendly and he replied in less than 15 mins really friendly. now what.

lol this is the problem of taking the lead. you either dance around in some small talk, or you get right to your point with him....

I guess just feel it out. see if his situation is any better than it was previously.

He was very nice and asked me how I was and said he hoped I was ok.
What should I say?

my dear... you have to do what you want. do you want to put yourself out there? or do you want to play it off and see what happens?

you have to be you.... if it is meant to be it will be

Play it off maybe. I haven't replied yet. Be friendly to him?

they are great communicators if you are receptive to they way that they communicate. often it is all the undercurrent non spoken stuff, body language and guestures - it is really dependant on how comfortable and truly safe they feel with you. trust is a huge thing. it is important to understand that every person will have an aspect of themselves that belongs to just them - but aside from that - sometimes it can be hard for pisces to put exactly how they feel into words - as they are considerate of your emotions too. so you sorta got to feel it out and just express yourself openly first. i can normally sense a change in his presence when my fishie has something up. often he will sorta swim about and work it out - and sometimes SPACE is the best thing. and sometimes i can feel that he wants to talk about something up has trouble sorta saying without it being what he sees as hurtful so it comes out all jumbled. you can normally feel when they are ready to talk cause they swim about. just let him voice it in his own ways and let him know how you feel but be sensitive to his emotions too!

He did seem receptive to me. He told me lots about his family and his issues. he trusted me.

I don't know how to play it: be honest or be cool.

Posted by deezie


you have to be you.... if it is meant to be it will be

+1

I think you may have made the classic female mistake. you have gotten way ahead of the game here. it isn't about choosing between honesty and playing it cool it is about appropriate level of interaction. you have had how many dates with the guy? you lnow he isn't looking for anything serious right now. so if you wish to interact with him you have to dial it back. or... if you are looking for something serious immediately then you must look elsewhere. he has been upfront about his level of availability.

this doesn't mean you have to be dishonest. it does mean if you like the guy you have to adjust what you expect from it right now.

who you must be honest with is yourself and what you actually want. you can't simply adjust when you know it isn't what you are looking for. he wants to keep things fairly open from what I am understanding of the situation.

Its a tough one deezie. his decision to end it with me shocked me. what I knew is that he was a nice guy, good lover, caring and sensual. I was just enjoying it to see what happened. I was not thinking of this man as a marriage partner for Christ sake we hadn't known each other long. I put no pressure on him, no demands, no expectations, I just enjoyed his company and that was fine for now. I have a good job and friends and hobbies and was not demanding to him.

I was happy to just keep dating and to get to know him a bit better. That was the only expectation I had at the time. Id like to keep seeing him, have some more amazing sex but am not about to start expecting a proposal.

Idk how or what to do or say.

to be honest... uou have covered all of that before.

and I am still not buying it. I am not saying that to be a confrontational jerk... I am saying it because of the amount of time and worry expended on behalf of this guy.

his decision to end it with you, the fact that it shocked you... means that you had a different expectation than he did. it doesn't have to span the spectrum from fuck buddy to marriage partner, but it certainly appears you were still on different pages. extremism is not necessary for that to happen, nor was I suggesting you were waiting for a proposal.

I think I have run out of ways to explain how to conduct yourself to a guy you have ated and I don't know. sometimes if you don't know how to conduct yourself authentically aroynd someone.... don't know what to say, or how to just be yourself.... there is a deeper reason for why it isn't working out. think about successful relationships you have had or seen.... were the people needing others to tell them what to say or how to behave? likely not right? it just seems to me that sometimes self respect isn't about giving up too easily, it is about not forcing something that already isn't working.

I am seriously trying to help here, but I am still not seeing what is so pressing about this guy himself? what... you won't ever enjoy someone else's company again? or have amazing sex with some other guy? you would rather pine for this guy? who, may be friendly with you back, because he is a nice guy, OR because he likes you... but you are chasing him... so you will never know.

i am giving up again for a while....

I don't know. I just really liked him. he didn't put on a front he was ordinary and flawed and deeply insightful.

Quite vulnerable and different too.

He just vanished so suddenly after a lovely date. don't get it. he had been really attentive.

life gets in the way sometimes. that is all you need to understand really...

I know. But it always seems to happen to me 😢

He shouldn't have been dating at all.

lots of those out there...

and a word to the wise... the more you embrace that victim mindset, the more it will hunt you down with bloody hungry teeth.

put your strong panties on! 🙂

Ok so I just talk to him as I would a friend and leave it at that?