Pisces Playing Games or Just Crazy?

I've been lurking the forum and thought this situation would be worth of a post, as I still don't get this Piscean.

Met early this year Feb/March and getting to know him was nice at first (maybe first month), then things started going down hill for me as it seemed like he wasn't very forthcoming, secretive and manipulative. Each and every time I had issues with him, I would address it (sometimes nicely, others not) and he would then do this push/pull tactic to minimize his actions.

Needless to say, about 4/5 months later, I decide to just break it off. I really just pulled the plug and told him he was a taker and to not call me anymore. I left some things at his place and asked for them back, but he stopped responding to my request to get my things. I eventually left it alone because I felt like I've already poured enough of myself into figuring out this hot/cold mysterious creature.

Fast forward, I see him hanging out at the bar of the restaurant we first met. I happen to be there picking some food up and acted like he wasn't there. The bartender asked beckoned me to come and pay, which required me to walk up and stand right next to the Piscean. So while standing there, he asks me if I come here a lot for takeout. I respond with a one liner, "yes". Then moments later he asks me some more questions "how was your holiday". I say "good". Then he compliments me on my glasses (I got a new pair) and says I look really nice in them. I say thank you. By this time, I signed the receipt, grabbed my food and said "well happy new year" and walked out.

What I really wanted to do was go back and talk more with him, maybe even entertain the magnetic chemistry we still have. So, I succumb to my weakness, give in and send him a text the following day saying it was nice to see him and I would have loved to hang around but I had to run. I stated that regardless of the bad breakup, I do miss him and to enjoy his afternoon. I didn't expect a response because he never responded to my request for my stuff a couple months ago.

Well, today I get a text from him stating "Please refresh my memory". He's said this in the past about certain things like when he would have a great date and the next day I would tell him that I had a good time and he would then say "refresh my memory" and I would say okay "do over". It was a silly way to continue on yet another good date together. But this "refresh my memory" was odd, so I respond with something to the extent of "s

The immature, stupid ones will play games when it comes to relationships. They do it for shits n giggles.

Hell, my pisces friends do that stupid shit. They love to fuck around with people just solely for the response.

Don't bother entertaining this guy if you don't want to get sucked into that mess again.

^pretty much

If you want to go through this all over again and maybe even have it become a cycle of breaking up then go for it.

People who play games usually aren't crazy but rather immature. Maybe even a bit confused or selfish, but mainly just immature.

Just crazy walilibra

Pisces are runners (or swimmers). Most of them do have commitment issues and become distant as soon as they get insecure or unsure.
That doesnt mean he doesnt love you or just wants to play. water elements in general take feelings very seriously...and for a fish that means he??ll leave if it gets too close

Posted by walibra

Met early this year Feb/March and getting to know him was nice at first (maybe first month), then things started going down hill for me as it seemed like he wasn't very forthcoming, secretive and manipulative. Each and every time I had issues with him, I would address it (sometimes nicely, others not) and he would then do this push/pull tactic to minimize his actions.

Needless to say, about 4/5 months later, I decide to just break it off. I really just pulled the plug and told him he was a taker and to not call me anymore. I left some things at his place and asked for them back, but he stopped responding to my request to get my things. I eventually left it alone because I felt like I've already poured enough of myself into figuring out this hot/cold mysterious creature.

I didn't read where any gaming was being done.

You didn't like him, so you broke up with him ... and he let you break up with him without a fight.

Maybe that's what it is? He just let you walk away, and your ego can't handle that .... so you go tell people he was gaming you.


::: shakes head :::


Looks like you are the one gaming ... if you deliberately stick your nose up in the air to give him the false impression that you don't like him, while secretly wanting him.

P-Angel, to a certain extend you are correct. In the beginning, I broke it off with him several times and he would often ask why. There were a couple of times where we bumped into each other and he would refute my ability to just drop everything and walk away. I will say that yes, to a certain extent I was gaming, mainly because I'm not really used to his type and I was afraid to make myself vulnerable. In the majority of my relationships with men, I've always had the upper hand and the one catered to the way I want. But with him, its been different.

Quick update, he ended up calling and threw it out there that he wanted to meet up, so I bit the bait and had dinner with him. It was like we picked up right where we left off, although he again asked the infamous question of "did you really think we wouldn't bump into each other a 3rd time? And you wasn't going to speak to me yet again?". What can I say, I'm stubborn. Anyway, needless to say, we are back "on" if you want to call it that. I don't like the fact that he challenges me, but it also keeps me coming back (ughhh). I do like him (a lot) and learning that "we do better" when I let go and let things evolve organically.

I've noticed the less I ask/inquire, the more he voluntarily shares. Again, something I'm not used to. If I don't ask him about his day, he will open up like a book. But the moment, I ask, he'll give me a one-liner. Before, I would always ask about his family (mom, dad, siblings, kids) and he would brush over my questions. I'm an open person and talk a lot. He is reserved and doesn't open up as easily as I do. Since getting back together, without me asking he's opened up about his parents, siblings and kids. He recently showed me all of his family photos going back to him as a child-- something, I wouldn't have even imagined he would share. Whilst looking at the photos, he came out and said he realized that I needed him to talk more in order to connect with me (which is true).

Although, I'm not a fan of his bouts of secrecy, I realize it's who he is and it doesn't mean anything bad or negative. He'll open up at his own pace and not based upon my expectations. He claims that I'm a control freak and I suppose I can be at times or what I would prefer to call it "the only child syndrome".

I'm happy we're back spending time together and he's definitely shown himself as wanting to compromise in areas to meet my needs, but he's also keeping firm to his too. So, we'll see how

it goes...

And, my stuff is still at his house, including my favorite pair of shoes. When I asked him about it, he said his dad told him to keep them, as "when you give a woman a pair of shoes, they will walk out on you".