Pisces woman strange behaviour

Hey guys,

Long story short I was in a relationship with a Pisces woman for 4 years. All was well, going great, no issues and couldn't ask for anything better - especially as feelings were definitely mutual. The only thing that used to be a slight tension is that she was ready to commit and I wasn't quite ready.

Fast forward to a year and I finally made the decision to commit. However, I also had some personal circumstances that prevented me to move forward. This is also caused issues with us meeting often, which led to a 3 month gap where we never met. We did manage to continue the relationship via phone/text but text conversations and misunderstandings started happening - which caused issues. I also suffered from depression at the time, as a result of my personal circumstances, and don't think she was being too understanding of this.

These misunderstandings led to disagreements on text, so had ups and downs, but we recovered ok. The last one was however the final straw for her. We had a disagreement and I said some words which weren't nice but basically just called her stubborn and asked why is she lying to me (it was trivial things and it was a conversation, not a accusation). I a few times said I don't want to speak to her when we had disagreements as I had enough on my plate. These were trivial arguments but for her they were horrible and bad things to her. She wanted to speak one day and I was busy so said can we speak tomorrow - she didn't like this and basically dumped me. At the same time she blocked me on everything.

I tried to contact her, I even spoke to her parents - who confirmed that she is really upset and she still loves me and that they'd try to convince her. She did call me after straightaway and things were fine for a day or two, we were going to arrange to meet again but instead she called to dump me again and say bye. I did try speak to her in person but she just cried a lot and didn't say anything.

Two months have passed and I tried contacting again but no response. I know she had a lot of feelings for me and I'm confident that she still does. I only wanted to sort it out as I do miss her a lot and am having a hard time to even contemplate forgetting her. At the same time I've exhausted all my options. With this can anyone help me with what is going on and is there any scope and what can I do?

It could be that whatever hardship you are experiencing revealed a side of yourself she doesn't like and can't cope with. On the other hand, her reactions are also speaking loud and clear. Maybe you didn't know each other well until now. If you can't face both ups and downs together, you were not meant to last. Feelings should be your last concern.

If you are stubborn, let her know that you are working on your issues, your personal circumstances, and that you are sorry for the distress you caused her with your hurtful words. I hope you really do! Write her from time to time (like once a week) even if she doesn't respond. Don't act entitled, and don't set your hopes high. The most important thing is to work on yourself.

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What do you mean by saying commit? So you weren't in commited relationship? You might have done something that made her really sad , she might have expected something serious and you might have hurt her by either dating someone else or i don't know, but the thing is, you mention commitment and that mean's the problem starts right there, prob inflicted some pain or damage . I'd like to hear her part of the story so i could put a picture together. Either way, you had 3month break , and now after 2 month's you're trying to reach her. I mean 4years is a long time, but if you hurt her in any way, you were not there for her these 3 month's and ended up inflicting more damage, i'd say she either moved on, or she's trying and you're not leting her do that. She might have decided to move on longer time ago than you think, might have took her more time 2 execute , first she needed to distance herself from you so she wouldn't feel that much pain and only after that she dumped you. Anyways that's just a couple of reasons out of milion why this came to be, i can only guess. You know the full story and you should try to understand her point if view. If i were you i would move on with my life, it's not worth wasting time trying to reach person who's not available for you. Work on yourself , if she wants to comeback you can think about it and solve the problems ,if not, you're better of without her. She sounds like she's confused and might be in a bad place and is trying to go thru shit before she makes something up, but if you try to reach her you might fuck her up even more and she will distance herself even more. Work on yourself.

Thanks for your reply.

So commitment was marriage. We were commited otherwise, i.e. exclusive, not seeing anyone else etc. I can firmly say we both had trust on that front. I did also made my intentions for commitment clear just before this too.

Unfortunetely I dont have her side of the story except shes upset. No further details. Which is one of the reasons why I've reached out to her.

Posted by Undine It could be that whatever hardship you are experiencing revealed a side of yourself she doesn't like and can't cope with. On the other hand, her reactions are also speaking loud and clear. Maybe you didn't know each other well until now. If you can't face both ups and downs together, you were not meant to last. Feelings should be your last concern.

If you are stubborn, let her know that you are working on your issues, your personal circumstances, and that you are sorry for the distress you caused her with your hurtful words. I hope you really do! Write her from time to time (like once a week) even if she doesn't respond. Don't act entitled, and don't set your hopes high. The most important thing is to work on yourself.

Thanks for the reply. Im not a stubborn person it was just a situation where she was being stubborn, so I pointed it out. I can sometimes be direct but she knew this. Id say even she isnt stubborn as a whole.

Not strange.

We normally give lots of chances to show that you care enough but once you disappoint us and we think you don’t care we are gone for good.

You must have done something in the last day that make her had enough.

The only thing you can do is to apologize deeply for your part, make her feel really loved and make her a priority until she forgives you. If you don’t she won’t come back.

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Not strange.

We normally give lots of chances to show that you care enough but once you disappoint us and we think you don’t care we are gone for good.

You must have done something in the last day that make her had enough.

The only thing you can do is to apologize deeply for your part, make her feel really loved and make her a priority until she forgives you. If you don’t she won’t come back.

Thanks for the reply. I always used to make sure she was happy, spend alot of my free time with her and always used to communicate with her. However as I was depressed I went a little quiet which may be the cause. However because I had no communication i'm struggling to find the real reason.

The problem is she just won't talk to me and sending text messages are just digging a hole. I can't explain my issue, I can't apologise.

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Not strange.

We normally give lots of chances to show that you care enough but once you disappoint us and we think you don’t care we are gone for good.

You must have done something in the last day that make her had enough.

The only thing you can do is to apologize deeply for your part, make her feel really loved and make her a priority until she forgives you. If you don’t she won’t come back.

Thanks for the reply. I always used to make sure she was happy, spend alot of my free time with her and always used to communicate with her. However as I was depressed I went a little quiet which may be the cause. However because I had no communication i'm struggling to find the real reason.

The problem is she just won't talk to me and sending text messages are just digging a hole. I can't explain my issue, I can't apologise.

The only reason she is like this is because she believe that you are not committed enough.

Can you meet her in person?

You have to do something outside of the ordinary for her to consider you again. Even if she still loves you if she think you don’t she will move on, and in her mind right now she thinks that you don’t care enough.

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Thanks for the tips 🙂 Unfortunately I've now exhausted those routes to explain how much I care.

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Not strange.

We normally give lots of chances to show that you care enough but once you disappoint us and we think you don’t care we are gone for good.

You must have done something in the last day that make her had enough.

The only thing you can do is to apologize deeply for your part, make her feel really loved and make her a priority until she forgives you. If you don’t she won’t come back.

Thanks for the reply. I always used to make sure she was happy, spend alot of my free time with her and always used to communicate with her. However as I was depressed I went a little quiet which may be the cause. However because I had no communication i'm struggling to find the real reason.

The problem is she just won't talk to me and sending text messages are just digging a hole. I can't explain my issue, I can't apologise.

Another thing. She doesn’t seem to have lots of understanding about depression.

It looks like she just felt left out.

It all seems like a miss understanding so I hope you have the opportunity to make it work. Open up about it with her and make her feel involved.

What sign are you?

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I am an aquarian and an emotional person too - one of the key things I always got told is that I understood her well and to be fair, she understood me well too. I'm perplexed as to what went wrong this time however, but I've also put it down as a misunderstanding. I'm very much open to listening to her side of the story, but I'm just not getting an opportunity to have a two way communication 😢

so you refused marriage, then stopped communicating for 3 months

so you refused marriage, then stopped communicating for 3 months and you wonder why she's mad lmao.

You are not any more at the stage where you wonder who should text first .

You should leave her alone unless you really want to commit

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Posted by pisceswoman123

Not strange.

We normally give lots of chances to show that you care enough but once you disappoint us and we think you don’t care we are gone for good.

You must have done something in the last day that make her had enough.

The only thing you can do is to apologize deeply for your part, make her feel really loved and make her a priority until she forgives you. If you don’t she won’t come back.

Thanks for the reply. I always used to make sure she was happy, spend alot of my free time with her and always used to communicate with her. However as I was depressed I went a little quiet which may be the cause. However because I had no communication i'm struggling to find the real reason.

The problem is she just won't talk to me and sending text messages are just digging a hole. I can't explain my issue, I can't apologise.

Another thing. She doesn’t seem to have lots of understanding about depression.

It looks like she just felt left out.

It all seems like a miss understanding so I hope you have the opportunity to make it work. Open up about it with her and make her feel involved.

What sign are you?

I am an aquarian and an emotional person too - one of the key things I always got told is that I understood her well and to be fair, she understood me well too. I'm perplexed as to what went wrong this time however, but I've also put it down as a misunderstanding. I'm very much open to listening to her side of the story, but I'm just not getting an opportunity to have a two way communication 😢

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Well in my book Aquarius- Pisces is the best couple ever 😍

I believe you when you say that you understand each other.

This time is just one little thing too many. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but it has been accumulating for her.

The most important thing you need to understand is that she is giving up on you because she doesn’t feel loved. If you love her and want her back you have to show her that you mean business and do it in a over the top way. Because it’s hard for us to get back to feeling loved when we are feeling hurt.

I know you can do it !!! 😄 Aquarius when they want, are experts at sweeping us off our feet.

Pisces F and Aqua M is not a good romantic pairing, unless she is actually a mislabelled Aqua (aka 18-20 Feb).

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Posted by pisceswoman123

Not strange.

We normally give lots of chances to show that you care enough but once you disappoint us and we think you don’t care we are gone for good.

You must have done something in the last day that make her had enough.

The only thing you can do is to apologize deeply for your part, make her feel really loved and make her a priority until she forgives you. If you don’t she won’t come back.

Thanks for the reply. I always used to make sure she was happy, spend alot of my free time with her and always used to communicate with her. However as I was depressed I went a little quiet which may be the cause. However because I had no communication i'm struggling to find the real reason.

The problem is she just won't talk to me and sending text messages are just digging a hole. I can't explain my issue, I can't apologise.

Another thing. She doesn’t seem to have lots of understanding about depression.

It looks like she just felt left out.

It all seems like a miss understanding so I hope you have the opportunity to make it work. Open up about it with her and make her feel involved.

What sign are you?

I am an aquarian and an emotional person too - one of the key things I always got told is that I understood her well and to be fair, she understood me well too. I'm perplexed as to what went wrong this time however, but I've also put it down as a misunderstanding. I'm very much open to listening to her side of the story, but I'm just not getting an opportunity to have a two way communication 😢

Well in my book Aquarius- Pisces is the best couple ever 😍

I believe you when you say that you understand each other.

This time is just one little thing too many. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but it has been accumulating for her.

The most important thing you need to understand is that she is giving up on you because she doesn’t feel loved. If you love her and want her back you have to show her that you mean business and do it in a over the top way. Because it’s hard for us to get back to feeling loved when we are feeling hurt.

I know you can do it !!! 😄 Aquarius when they want, are experts at sweeping us off our feet.

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😄 thank you for your thoughts. Really useful. I'll have to give it some thinking I think 🙂

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What do you mean by saying commit? So you weren't in commited relationship? You might have done something that made her really sad , she might have expected something serious and you might have hurt her by either dating someone else or i don't know, but the thing is, you mention commitment and that mean's the problem starts right there, prob inflicted some pain or damage . I'd like to hear her part of the story so i could put a picture together. Either way, you had 3month break , and now after 2 month's you're trying to reach her. I mean 4years is a long time, but if you hurt her in any way, you were not there for her these 3 month's and ended up inflicting more damage, i'd say she either moved on, or she's trying and you're not leting her do that. She might have decided to move on longer time ago than you think, might have took her more time 2 execute , first she needed to distance herself from you so she wouldn't feel that much pain and only after that she dumped you. Anyways that's just a couple of reasons out of milion why this came to be, i can only guess. You know the full story and you should try to understand her point if view. If i were you i would move on with my life, it's not worth wasting time trying to reach person who's not available for you. Work on yourself , if she wants to comeback you can think about it and solve the problems ,if not, you're better of without her. She sounds like she's confused and might be in a bad place and is trying to go thru shit before she makes something up, but if you try to reach her you might fuck her up even more and she will distance herself even more. Work on yourself.

Thanks for your reply.

So commitment was marriage. We were commited otherwise, i.e. exclusive, not seeing anyone else etc. I can firmly say we both had trust on that front. I did also made my intentions for commitment clear just before this too.

Unfortunetely I dont have her side of the story except shes upset. No further details. Which is one of the reasons why I've reached out to her.

I wish you best of luck in whatever you do. 😉 You have a long and good life in front of you, make sure you have the right people around you .

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Very true. Thank you for the kind words and your input. Very helpful 🙂

How did you get on @darthvader?