Pisces women and men who arent good enough

Do any other pisces woman always seem to end up with someone that everyone else knows is not good enough? sometimes criminals, drug addicts etc.... i always seem to go for the most damaged men...and i think they are fantastic and everyone else i know just cannot understand where the attraction is...Id really like ta break that habbit

I have also been like that. My children's father was an alcoholic and drug addict at the age of 16 and he was 17 and I was 18 when our daughter was born. He also got in trouble with the law numerous times and has been in and out of prison. We had our son when he became "saved" and our daughter was two when I became pregnant. I was naive at that time and thought it was truly going to be different but unfortunately he returned to his old ways. I ended it in July 1993. I had no relationships with men and actually was celibate for 7 years because I was in the church and living my life in purity. Well, when I decided to stray from this life style I ended up with an alcoholic and very controlling and jealous man that I actually married!!! Why, why, why—? I don't know! Now I finally realized I needed some help in this area so I started reading some books and getting some counseling. I have now started dating much higher caliber men because I know I deserve it because I am a wonderful person with so much to offer and I have the confidence I was lacking in myself previously. I think this makes a big difference for sure! I also think Pisces tend to see the good in others when others can't and that makes us think that it will work. I have been trying to date a very wide variety of men so that I can find out what I truly like and who will treat me like the lady I now consider myself to be.
Good luck to you on your quest to detach from the damaged! 🙂

So, are you saying that you think you are better than someone else?

I would wager that everybody thinks they are better than others .. probably even those drug addicts think they are better than others.


Perspective



What is a higher caliber of men? A poor man can be a gentleman. A rich man can be an asshole.

When a woman talks about having a man who will treat her like a lady, where does this measurment of higher caliber come from?


Higher ... like how?



Because he drinks Patrone rather than MadDog?

I have had only one bad experience with somebody who was extremely jealous and violent. but that was when I was 17...
Then I generally had healthy relationships which ended up being boring and I dumped the guys..
At the moment Im dating my first Cancer man and I must say that this is what I need, he is so changeable and unexpected that he keeps me interested.
I have never liked drug addicts or people with problems......

P-Angel: I am not saying higher caliber man in relation to finances. That could be a part but not a requirement. He can drink MadDog at times as long as he is not dependent on it and the same for Patrone. I mean a man that takes care of himself and the people around him like his family and friends. A man who treats me like a person and not a piece of meat. A man that takes care of his affairs in life and is intelligent and makes wise decisions for his life. I don't mean that he has to have formal schooling either if he is one who has learned on his own and can hold nice conversations. Someone that takes an interest in the things going on around him and in the world. A caring person that is polite and has nice manners/etiquette. A man that makes me feel special and I will make him feel special in return.
I am not trying to be better than others but I have been with drug addicts/jealous men/alcoholics and I have found out that is NOT what I want. They are not doing positive things with their lives and they are the types that were holding me back from being the person I want to be.
Hope that helped clarify b/c like I said I do see the good in most people and I know that they can be good in some ways as well but still not what I want to attract into my life anymore.
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Posted by dunners
i always seem to go for the most damaged men...and i think they are fantastic

Erm, why? This seems like a case of "I think I can change/save him".

I can defintaly relate to the fact that when your with a nice person who treats you right it gets boring...I feel like my dating life is swinging from a-holes den gettin sick of their drama to nice boys...den gettin bored of their stability...it's awful...i alwasy end up with men who are really heavy drinkers or drug takers. its terrible your not even having a relationship with a person your having it with a substance...at the moment im just finished seeing a guy who got really drunk and was takin drugs and then ended up physically fighting with a friend of mine to which i (who was probably equally as drunk) called him out on and now he hates me...and its like i feel bad for pointing out something that was obviously not okay yet hes annoyed because i embaressed him in front of people by pointing it out (hes an aries)...round and round and round we go.....SOOOOO un healthy!!! dont know how to break the cycle of falling for these idiots

Erm, why? This seems like a case of "I think I can change/save him".

I dunno if it is even that...I don't think so maybe subconciously. I never really try to change them though I just idolise them and excuse away their behaviour to myself and others and get dragged down with them. its all very pleasant ha

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Posted by dunners
i always seem to go for the most damaged men...and i think they are fantastic

Erm, why? This seems like a case of "I think I can change/save him".

No, it's not about saving or rescueing. In reality, we don't want to save the person, we LIKE the person they way they are. See below .....

Posted by PiscesArgie


Then I generally had healthy relationships which ended up being boring and I dumped the guys..

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Maybe its like when your depressed u thinking about all the other bad things happening in the world it makes u feel better.

people who dont feel too good about themselves side with another half that is damaged because the love that they give to them makes them love themselves more because its like daily charity love. and they feel theyre making a difference by bringing love to a wanker

Oh my God for me P Angel is actually spot on...I dont want to change or save these guys I actually attracted to the fact their loose cannons and anything could litreally happen at any minute.


I hope its not thta I use them to make myself feel better!!! I genuinely dont think thats it though because I alwasy follow them down there road til Im no better anyway..Bonnie and Clyde mentality haha

I shud really grow up

It's more probable that it's about not having to be serious.



It seems that people, mostly women, want every relationship to be so serious that once they get the dude to say any words that even resemble the word, "love" ... that all superficial presentations cease and her true colors come out = she attempts to bind, to straddle him down into marriage/children.

Every little inkling out there is a potential for her to trap .. and this is serious to her because she requires another to carry her bullshit for her.


With Pisces females ... we aren't in need for a man to support us emotionally and we don't really want a serious relationship anyway. We don't want to conform.

So, we hang out with the ones who are easy to bounce on ... see?

So, it's not about them, at all.



It's not about rescuing them, or changing them, or trying to save some poor miserable sod .... it's about ourselves, it's about being able to just swim away from someone that we were never serious about in the first place .. but, was fun as hell at the time.



Get it?

it must be sad and unfulfilling not having meaningful relationships but each to theyre own

I feel sorry for the pisces female that is too old to lure any more fish in the sea and is stuck on the last miserable sod.

Stuck on?


Did you not read?


There is no sticking .. we're not Aqua's, you know.

Im not really too old either im only twenty two... so i have plenty of time to not get stuck with an old sod i just alwasy seem to go for them...dats different...

Posted by seavixen2
a Pisces female is never too old...Just look at Liz Taylor. As rough shape as she is in now...bet ya she could still nab a young whipper snapper, cougar's, puma's, jaquar's..it only gets better!

because u see so many guys these days to snatch up a 75yo ~shudder~ that woman is a mess


i find it endearing how pisceans advoid a point so badly that is in response to P angel