Please help with a Pisces man!!!

I have been with a pisces man for about 1 month, we do have an electric chemistry and connection. Things have been going really well, until one evening things were dull and disconnected as I wasn't my usual self. Anyway after that one particular night he decided to end it saying I'm not the right women for him / don't have a connection. Before this one night he was the complete opposite, ie. we have connection, I'm lovely etc. and couldn't give me enough compliments. How can someone just flip & change their mind after one occassion, I did tell him I wasn't myself that day but it didn't make any difference. I have been trying to contact him but he won't respond. It doesn't make sense, you can't just adore someone for a month and then after one day not like them!! How do I get him back, what's the best way to entice him back?

Oh I forgot to say I'm a scorpio woman.

We don't do "adore" .... it's likely that his decision was based on the relationship with you being superficial, and never a real connection ... if you believed he adored you.


You might want to try a Leo or Gemini .. they do "adore"

Well you can't really "win" or get back a pisces.

Ok I used this analogy before and it puts a good image in your mind and helps you understand the mind of a fish.

Think of a spaceship in a fueling station (in space of course, duh) so there are two units together in a cohesive bond and then if things aren't right the spaceship (fish) will start taking off our lines of connection from the fueling station (other person). After a while or short period of time once all those lines that connected us to the fueling station are gone...we are off floating in space. Zoom, pow, warp speed. GONE! Finito.

So I dunno what caused the disconnection and with all due respect if he is a true pisces who is done, you will never know yourself.

Thing is with pisces we are all lovely dovely one minute the next we disconnect and want our space and we can come back, when WE want to. Now if you push us expect the time apart to be extended, cause will can be quite stubborn. NOW this is to say if he just wants some breathing room.

I think he may be done cause if a pisces really likes you even when they want breathing room we won't go for a long period of time without giving you some lame ass excuse for our absence, which equates to I'm still here. Give me time alone, but we will talk again.

No word, no show for a while, I would say a week. Then that means no fish, well in my mind.

FYI you scorps can be venomous so you may have thought you were just not being you can you could of been a royal douche and did and said something that hurt him or your chances. Not that we fish are perfect, but you scorps are...well can be venomous. Just think back what you did and try to see it from his eyes.

If you were disconnected from him, he sensed that and cut the cords. Your relationship is new. Pisces kinda like consisitency in their partners. Just sayin.

I can relate to what your saying, but if he liked me so much as he told me so, there must be a chance I can get him back, the only thing I did wrong was not be my usual self - nothing major. Is there anything i can do to get him back - say something in particular or not. Please help??

Its only been a month. Maybe when you werent yourself it reminded him of something he didnt want to deal with. Who knows. The real question is; whats up with these 45 day relationships? You meet someone, start having sex after the third date which is usually in 45 days or less-then all of a sudden it becomes this relationship with a connection and everyone is so in love. I must be getting old because I dont get it. I've know my parents my entire life and each year I discover something new about them. So one month is like 2 seconds in my world.

Hi all,

I'm wondering if it will help if i send him a text going something like this:

I need to tell you. You've got it all wrong - the wrong end of the stick - about having no connection. The last time I seen you (when i turned up unexpected) there was this chemistry between us, where we were looking straight into each other's souls. I know you felt it too.

You mean a lot to me and I really want and need you!!! Tell me how you're feeling?

xxxxx

Would this appeal to a pisces??

Posted by mupton
Hi all,

I'm wondering if it will help if i send him a text going something like this:

I need to tell you. You've got it all wrong - the wrong end of the stick - about having no connection. The last time I seen you (when i turned up unexpected) there was this chemistry between us, where we were looking straight into each other's souls. I know you felt it too.

You mean a lot to me and I really want and need you!!! Tell me how you're feeling?

xxxxx

Would this appeal to a pisces??

Well, based on my experience, NO. I've done it all. Messaged him everyday via text that I was sorry. Wrote poems and sent them as voicenotes. Run after him to say sorry personally. Waited all night so he can get the food I've brought him so we could talk. Your guy may be MORE interested with another person, not that he's not that interested in you. But he may have liked another more and starts to focus his attention to this new person. My advice, like what I am doing right now, is to move forward. And not expect at all. If he comes back, then good but in that situation, I will probably give him a challenge. But like people here said, rare is it that Pisces goes back. So, both of us, let's just move on. And maybe it will help if we will devote time in working out, getting ourselves busy or expressing our feelings via poems, writings or even advising people here what to do 🙂

He was in love with the thought of being in love with you.
I know this probably doesn't make much sense to anybody other than a pisces.

Hello Miss Scorpio!

I'm a Leo Woman who's been with my Pisces for over 2 years, almost 3. We have one of the most beautiful connections and if he says there isn't one; he may be just afraid of commitment after seeing the less alluring side of the Scorpio. The bad thing about some Pisces men is they can be lazy but MOST Pisces men are VERY caring and romantic. My Pisces man adores me and I give him the same back. You may want to get his attention and bring out what shines most brightly about your Pisces man. Go to him, take him out to dinner and talk to him. I know my Pisces likes to talk but he doesn't always likes to talk about himself. He's very critical about himself so he needs lots of attention and love. He might just be trying to be a slippery one right now but don't try TOO hard either. Also try to make yourself visually stunning to catch his eye and attention. 🙂

I hope this helps a little!!

You may think it was an overnight thing, but he obviously knew in his mind long (for the month that you were together) before then that things weren't going to work out. I think it's pretty useless to try to talk to him or get him back. Doesn't sound like there was much there from his part. And, when a pisces says something like that, they're usually gone for good. The harder you try, the further you're going to push him away.

Posted by mupton
Hi all,

I'm wondering if it will help if i send him a text going something like this:

I need to tell you. You've got it all wrong - the wrong end of the stick - about having no connection. The last time I seen you (when i turned up unexpected) there was this chemistry between us, where we were looking straight into each other's souls. I know you felt it too.

You mean a lot to me and I really want and need you!!! Tell me how you're feeling?

xxxxx

Would this appeal to a pisces??

You'd piss me off, trying to tell ME how *I* feel, trying to tell ME that I'm wrong about how I said *I* feel (and don't feel).. after you already pissed me off by "turning up unexpected".. wtf? Then you ask me how I'm feeling? When you clearly don't listen, unless I'm feeling the way you want me to.

Plus, it's got this desperate, doormat, no self-pride tone.. that would totally turn me off.. I wouldn't even reply. *delete text*


But that's just me, and I'm not this Pisces guy *shrug*

Posted by Nefer

Posted by mupton
Hi all,

I'm wondering if it will help if i send him a text going something like this:

I need to tell you. You've got it all wrong - the wrong end of the stick - about having no connection. The last time I seen you (when i turned up unexpected) there was this chemistry between us, where we were looking straight into each other's souls. I know you felt it too.

You mean a lot to me and I really want and need you!!! Tell me how you're feeling?

xxxxx

Would this appeal to a pisces??

You'd piss me off, trying to tell ME how *I* feel, trying to tell ME that I'm wrong about how I said *I* feel (and don't feel).. after you already pissed me off by "turning up unexpected".. wtf? Then you ask me how I'm feeling? When you clearly don't listen, unless I'm feeling the way you want me to.

Plus, it's got this desperate, doormat, no self-pride tone.. that would totally turn me off.. I wouldn't even reply. *delete text*


But that's just me, and I'm not this Pisces guy *shrug*

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How did I miss this post— Agreed with Nefer, as per usual.
Except I'm a bitch, and you'd have pissed me off saying that "the last time I seen you". I wouldn't have read past that part.

I'm not sure what it is, but I have experienced this with scorpios before. It's like they want to dictate what's good enough for me. Men and women. They seem to think if they give what they think is appropriate, everyone else should also see it that way. Be it 2 weeks to "get over" something, or this I-feel-the-connection-so-you-must-as-well.

Nobody tells a fish what to feel.

++++ on the attraction/chemistry not being the be all, end all to something actually getting off the ground (as letthemeatcake said). If that's all it took, commitment would be obsolete. Every man would be walking around with someone on their penis all the time.

Fair.

It doesn't help that I don't seem to have the balls to say it outright until my boiling point is hit. I guess I try to swim out of the boiling pot, which truly is pretty stupid. I can accept that my aversion tactics aren't the clearest of signs.

Posted by Letthemeatcake

*shrugs*

I just learn to take menfolks as they are, if they aren't being clear then I can always choose to befriend others who are clear 🙂 No one forces you to be with anyone is my motto- if you don't like nor enjoy the person, go find another. We are all masters of our own happiness!

I wholeheartedly concur.

Posted by deezie
Fair.

It doesn't help that I don't seem to have the balls to say it outright until my boiling point is hit. I guess I try to swim out of the boiling pot, which truly is pretty stupid. I can accept that my aversion tactics aren't the clearest of signs.

This rang a clarion bell within me.

I'm a nice person, and I try to avoid hurting others, try to swim from the boiling pot into cooler waters (lol).. but when my true boiling point is finally reached.. well, a lot of people are taken aback. My sweet lil Fishy self, so calm and patient and easygoing.. suddenly I'm a friggin' SHARK and the blood in the water is not mine!

Yes indeed, I had to learn to speak up sooner, to SAY that something isn't working for me or upsets me, even before (ESP before!) that boiling point hits and wreaks havoc. Umm.. kinda like this Pisces guy who spoke up to her after less than a month and said he felt no connection.

But hey.. if she wants to see the mythical Pisces Shark Mode first hand.. she's doing a bang-up job by repeatedly invading his fishbowl and trying to control and dictate to HIM how HE feels.

*humming Jaws theme*

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