Reading between the lines.

I am getting to know this pisces man. We met up 3 times so far and it was great. After that, he has suggested that we meet again. When I call him to confirm us meeting up, he says that his cousin came into town. Then he asks me what I'm doing for the day. I tell him that I thought that we were going to meet up. He says, yea I thought so too. He has done this like 3 times. He suggests and then ends up doing something else. I asked him about it. I asked him if he is trying to send me a "take a hike" message without saying it? He says not at all and then he says that he likes me. I haven't heard from him in 6 days. That is the longest that we haven't talked before. Do you think that he wants me to contact him? Will a pisces man wait for a woman to contact him to se if she is into him? I heard that they do that sometimes.

lol

LoL

Believe me he's not interested.I'm Pisces...I know.He just doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

he's probably dead..you should check on'em

I don't feel he is interested.....He's trying to be nice about it....

Ok so he is not interested right? So he calls and sets up dates and then says that he has something else to do. How is that not trying to hurt someone's feelings? How does him telling me that he likes me when I haven't asked....how does that mean that he is not trying to hurt me? Do you think that he is enjoying being calculating? Let me ask this...if a pisces has been hurt on more than one occasin during previous relationships, does that in turn bring them pleasure in hurting people through a slow and steady stream? Just curious.

I also want to know this....so he has called me since the first time that I posted and acts like nothing has changed. Why does he keep calling?

lol

I had a guy start doing that to me after a while. It means you've dropped down on the priority list and he's probably seeing someone else that he's more interested in. You're probably fun and all but it looks like he's already got you in the dreaded "friend zone".

Posted by ninjamu
I had a guy start doing that to me after a while. It means you've dropped down on the priority list and he's probably seeing someone else that he's more interested in. You're probably fun and all but it looks like he's already got you in the dreaded "friend zone".

I'm not really sure as to when I dropped down to the friend zone when we weren't exclusive in the first place. If he decided to "drop me down", then his hopes were up too high in the first place. He must have been thinking above and beyond while things were supposed to still be casual. I was just confused as to why he would tell me that he liked me so soon and then plan things to do AND THEN, act all busy. What was that for? Weirdness.

PlanetMercuryGirl, what you're wittnessing is boring old my-head-is-all-over-the-place-and-if-you-can-tolerate-it-i'll-crown-you-crap. and yes, it's likely he idealised everything in his head, pisces get over-excited like that, we jump the gun. we are also the masters of double-booking ourselves, forgetting plans and over reaching.

if you like this guy, one thing that might help is break dates off with him, he'll want you more (pathetic, i know. but most pisces want what they can't have). bring him back down to earth. don't be harsh, that'll cause him to be defensive. just be firm and tell him his flakiness is becoming annoying. if he can't keep a date, then don't make any.

I dated a Pisces, they love to stick like glue, if he was interested he would be callin you right now.

Went out with a Pisces at Xmas. Exactly the same thing happened, the calls and saying we'd meet up and then nothing! He did that for around 3 weeks and I just stopped answering and didn't hear from him again!

Posted by nimbue
PlanetMercuryGirl, what you're wittnessing is boring old my-head-is-all-over-the-place-and-if-you-can-tolerate-it-i'll-crown-you-crap. and yes, it's likely he idealised everything in his head, pisces get over-excited like that, we jump the gun. we are also the masters of double-booking ourselves, forgetting plans and over reaching.

if you like this guy, one thing that might help is break dates off with him, he'll want you more (pathetic, i know. but most pisces want what they can't have). bring him back down to earth. don't be harsh, that'll cause him to be defensive. just be firm and tell him his flakiness is becoming annoying. if he can't keep a date, then don't make any.

Thank you for your comment. I do see that when I am busy he seems to get some type of pleasure from it. At the same time, he gets moody. He is also super sensitive. If I say something like "if you can't keep a date, then don't make any", I can just hear it in his voice now. He would give me a little shakey laugh as if what I said didn't bother him and then he'll want to get off of the phone. And as far as double-booking and forgetting plans.....I have an aunt that is a pisces. She is notorious for being like that. Yes, it IS so annoying.

Posted by LuckyLady
Went out with a Pisces at Xmas. Exactly the same thing happened, the calls and saying we'd meet up and then nothing! He did that for around 3 weeks and I just stopped answering and didn't hear from him again!

So I am not going crazy am I? The only problem with me is that I keep answering. When I don't he always thinks that something bad is going on. Like I'm with someone.

Damn, I forgot about this thread. Oh well. Things are good.

i had a feeling 🙂

Posted by dreamer23
never went out w/ a Pisces, but if a man is checkin for you, he is calling. Regardless. Dont call him anymore. When he calls tell him why you stopped taking his calls.

^^^ this is not true. my ex Aqua was hung up on me for years and it was always me that initiated the calls. I would flake off for 2-3 months at a time... but I'd get back around to him. He said that is the only way I got him, because I defied typical female expectations.

how can one statement like "if a man likes you, he'll call" apply to all men across the board ? It just doesn't make sense...

How is that game playing? he didn't call me... i liked him and called him. I didn't pressure him by assuming if he liked me he MUST be calling me because that's what the book says... now that would be game playing
Ya, he loved when I gave him space, but he loved it more when I came back 😛

Posted by dreamer23
We women always want to over analyze shit and make excuses (not saying youre doing that Planet) . But if it walks and talk like a duck, its a mothafuckin duck! Hes a dud, IMO. NEXT!

lmao!! this is true..

come on Planet, you said it's good now. what happened?

Posted by ianthepisces
And? Did you guys go out?

Yes, we are still in the initial stages. He is very charismatic and I really enjoy being around him. Then there are times that he gets moody in which I leave him alone for a while. Like I said before, he gets moody or short with me when I miss his call, then call him back.

Posted by nimbue
i had a feeling 🙂

Tell me about your feeling. I see a smiley face.

Posted by dreamer23

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Posted by dreamer23
We women always want to over analyze shit and make excuses (not saying youre doing that Planet) . But if it walks and talk like a duck, its a mothafuckin duck! Hes a dud, IMO. NEXT!

lmao!! this is true..

come on Planet, you said it's good now. what happened?

Oh its good now? I was all indignant on her behalf for nothing? LOL..*goes back to read other posts*

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No, I appreciate your honest words. That's what I need, no sugar coating.

Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl

Posted by nimbue
i had a feeling 🙂

Tell me about your feeling. I see a smiley face.

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i have alot of male friends, so this behaviour...of not calling back or initiating calls is very common amongst them. obviously i dig for info! well, even when they seriously like a girl they can act like ultimate retards. and the impression that gives is they don't give a sh*t when that isn't always the case.

i had a thing with a Virgo guy who acted like the Pisces you described, but i stopped talking to him because let's be frank, even if you have feelings for someone you need to know when to cut loose if you're just going around in circles. my best male friend is a Virgo too, actually...anyway, Pisces can act like we're in an alternate reality sometimes. either we get obsessive over somebody or we wriggle and flip like we don't wanna be caught...😉 your situation just sounded like he had cold feet and indecisive tendencies. was i right?!

Posted by nimbue


i have alot of male friends, so this behaviour...of not calling back or initiating calls is very common amongst them. obviously i dig for info! well, even when they seriously like a girl they can act like ultimate retards. and the impression that gives is they don't give a sh*t when that isn't always the case.

i had a thing with a Virgo guy who acted like the Pisces you described, but i stopped talking to him because let's be frank, even if you have feelings for someone you need to know when to cut loose if you're just going around in circles. my best male friend is a Virgo too, actually...anyway, Pisces can act like we're in an alternate reality sometimes. either we get obsessive over somebody or we wriggle and flip like we don't wanna be caught...😉 your situation just sounded like he had cold feet and indecisive tendencies. was i right?!

I guess that he must have been flippy at first, LoL. When I started to tell him that I had other things to do, he then became more (I wouldn't really call it obsessive) persistant. He was all like, "wow, you're really busy these days, aren't you?" I guess once he saw how it felt, it kind of awakened him. I haven't had the problem of him not calling or cancelling dates since then. I am not asking him where this is going. I am going to just let it happen. His behavior has definetly changed. We both gave each other the chance to connect on another level. He saw that the games were not going to work with me. So anyway, he writes poetry for me, LoL. He is touchy, feely, tentative and romantic. When we go out to a restaurant, we eat off of each other's plate and he feeds me ALL OF THE TIME! LoL I can see him starting to open up. He has told me a few things that almost brought himself to tears. The only thing that I can't seem to want to handle is when he gets moody (why do I keep bringing this up?) He just seems a little envious when other males even just glance at me. He grabs a hold of me. I act as if I don't notice and pay him a little more attention and that kind of squahes it but I can still "feel" the intensity.

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Yep. That's rock.

Posted by nimbue
PlanetMercuryGirl, what you're wittnessing is boring old my-head-is-all-over-the-place-and-if-you-can-tolerate-it-i'll-crown-you-crap. and yes, it's likely he idealised everything in his head, pisces get over-excited like that, we jump the gun. we are also the masters of double-booking ourselves, forgetting plans and over reaching.

if you like this guy, one thing that might help is break dates off with him, he'll want you more (pathetic, i know. but most pisces want what they can't have). bring him back down to earth. don't be harsh, that'll cause him to be defensive. just be firm and tell him his flakiness is becoming annoying. if he can't keep a date, then don't make any.

You know what I just realized? I actually remembered what you said about this guy. You said to break off dates with him (which I have done anyway in the past, but not on purpose). I don't like playing those types of games at all. But it seems like he grabbed a hold of me even more when I had to "bring him down to earth" as you put it.

@PlanetMerrcuryGirl, yes i can imagine...i hate to play games too? they're so boring, more than anyhting. but i advocate the mirror effect. as in, i'll respond to you how you respond to me. so, you break off arrangements at short notice? oh would you look at that, so can i. and so on. people usually pull up their socks when they meet their own behaviour face to face. and really, what pisces could do without a short trip back to earth every now and then?

Posted by janettam
hmm pisces are wishy washy. ehhh. you need a man not a woman.
and yes if he did like you, he wouldn't be cancelling. ive dated a pisces for couple of months. bwahahah. never again.

I'm curious as to how was it like dating your pisces guy?

Posted by nimbue
@PlanetMerrcuryGirl, yes i can imagine...i hate to play games too? they're so boring, more than anyhting. but i advocate the mirror effect. as in, i'll respond to you how you respond to me. so, you break off arrangements at short notice? oh would you look at that, so can i. and so on. people usually pull up their socks when they meet their own behaviour face to face. and really, what pisces could do without a short trip back to earth every now and then?

You're from London? How cool is that? ? I bet that you have an amazing accent.

Yea, I heard that too that pisces don't like to be the one to end the relationship. They are more relieved when there is something that leads the other person to end it.