Why is this Pisces messing with me still?

So I started having just this physical relationship with a Pisces guy at the beginning of the summer. I've pretty much have had feelings for this guy since the beginning. But I thought he only wanted sex from me, so I started seeing this other guy. And he got soo angry. We would still see each other, but he would be so distant and kinda mean. Eventually we kinda just stopped around October. But I would go to a lot of his fraternity party's and I would see him at bars. I would always see him looking at, and he would always seem to be where I would be. He also told my friend I fucked with his mind. It just seemed to me he was the one messing with me. He would only talk to me when he wanted me to come over at night. But he would tell my friend all of this stuff about me, like how i fucked with his mind and that he didnt know i had feelings for him. I would try and talk to him about it but he just ignores me.
Now here is where it gets really confusing. OK I started dating one of his friends, which turned out bad. The next week or so after that went bad. He texted me to come over to his house and hangout. I did, we just hung out and watched movies. He told me he was really sorry for being a dick, and that he liked me and what not. I stayed the night but we didn't even really kiss or anything. And then the next day he ignored me! and i havent talked to him or seen him since. But I am completely in love with this guy and i don't know why he messed with me like that. Does this mean anything? I have no clue if he was just playing me or what.
Sorry for such a long post also.

I've tried texted him about it, but he wont ever answer back. He was soo sweet that night too.

But I just don't understand how I'm the one playing the games. OK yes I was at first but so was he, he was never upfront about how he felt. And I just thought I was his fuck buddies. Its like he will talk to me one day then ignore me the next, and for a couple of weeks. Not for a few days.

You set yourself up for this. You should have questioned intentions before you tumbled into the sack with him. He attached feelings to the act, i.e. you were his then. Then you sailed off and saw someone else. So he felt everything a jilted lover did. So yes he continued on with it, but it was coming from a different place then. Desire yes, but twisted into something else.
You played him by *default*..meaning you should have asked what the straight poo was in the beginning. He played you, and round and round we go. What happens next is up to you. And him.

So you think he was just using me?? the other night I went to his house, and we just slept. We didn't do anything, and he seemed fine by that.

I do not think it started out that way, but I think he's distancing himself. And fast. Had you over to apologize ( making peace with self ), got it out there. Done. Now, I could be wrong, heaven knows I have been before, but that's how it reads.

So just let him go pretty much?? I mean I am pretty much crazy about this guy. Yeah I messed it up first. And he has a lot of reasons not to. Its like he would try and get close to me then back away every time. Are Pisces always like that?

Sometimes the best thing to do is let go. He may or may not be back of his own accord, that's on him. Not on you. I cannot label each and every Pisces like that, it's unfair to them. They run the gamut from Earthy and grounded to full of Fire and heat coupled with their Water to full of Air and fleet of foot, and all shades in between.
Write it all out, give it a place to go. Present it to him in person, mail it if you must. But give him proof of what you felt, what you feel. The rest is in the hands of something far bigger than you or I. Be patient. If it is done, then it's time to heal and consider it a lesson. If he comes back be honest with him; and yourself.

^ ....

Posted by summerlovin91

So you think he was just using me??

There's a question mark behind that, to infer you don't know. Two, in fact.

Are you surprised?

I can't believe you actually asked that question.

You didn't have to be so rude about it. damn. Its not hard to be a little nice to someone you don't know.

Oh dear..another fwb situation gone bad...if you had feelings from the beginning, you didnt honor them and werent honest with it...if he too had feelings, he either infered you were playing him OR that you didnt respect your own and act accordingly.
It's not too late but you have to communicate from your heart...since you were sleeping with each other and pretty much established a no-strings relationship i wont give you false hope..thats a BAD way to start anything with a guy you want more from...
I am not one to dscourage you though...give it one last chance and be GENUINE...
And then let it go, and whatever will be, will be...

Posted by summerlovin91
You didn't have to be so rude about it. damn. Its not hard to be a little nice to someone you don't know.

And you don't have to be so damn stupid about it. It's not hard to use a couple brain cells.

You are in a situation in which you used absolutely no common sense at all, you give of yourself sexually to a man without any thought about decentcy, respect, morals .. you come in here and post it publicly for people to comment on and then when someone comments on how much of an idiot you are .. you think it's rude?

Well, I think it's fucking rude of you to teach men that it's ok to take pussy from a woman with no strings attached. There are women out there right now .. REAL WOMEN, not whores like yourself, real fucking women who want an honest, respectful relationship with a man .. but, it seems men are used to getting free blow jobs from sluts, such as yourself and so now expect women to give in to them without any concern about how the women feel.

It's fucking rude as hell that you did that ... so, you have no rights to tell another woman she is wrong for calling you out on being a whore .. because that is exactly what you are.

And one day, you're going to get the living fuck beat out of you by a scorned woman .. and you will have deserved it.

OK first off, I am no where near being a slut. I have slept with only 3 guys in my life, two of which I was dating. Probably way less than your number. So don't come on here acting like you know shit about me. Everyone makes mistakes with guys, I'm sure even you have.And I never gave him a blow job thank you very much. I don't know why you are being so hostile towards me, but I don't in anyway see you as a real women. I see you as some angry bitchy women coming on here judging people. I am a person with class, and happen to have made one mistake with a guy. That's what happens when you are young, seeing as I am only 19. Maybe if you are a REAL women, you would give me an apologize for being not only immature, but starting nonsense drama with someone you know nothing about.

Oh and I see you are 51, how do you feel coming on here starting stuff with an 19yr old. Yeah you are a REAL women. Why don't you get off the computer and go act your age.

meanwhile, you will continue to fuck a guy because he wants to, and that is the only reason.

No morals, no honor .. nothing .. just fucking because he says so

::: shakes head ::::

Get pissy with me all you want .. you still are fucking a man on his demand with nothing in return except an emotional absense

Starting stuff?

Did a stupid little girl who is fucking a male for his pleasure only really trying to take the position of the victim?

I hate sluts ... that includes you. You ruin men and you deserve more than I can ever give you in terms of judgeing you for the cunt you are.

Read my whole post you stupid person. Just because I did this with one guy does not make me a slut. And you are the one acting like a stupid little girl. I can't believe a 51 yr old is acting less mature than a 19yr old. You can give me all the come backs you want. But I will still be more classier than you. I treat people with respect, and I don't belittle people for the mistakes they have made. Are you telling me, is all of your 51 yrs of life you have never done anything like this. If you say no, I don't believe you.I don't mess around with this guy anymore, and I haven't in a long time. I just continue to have feelings for him. I have from the beginning. You as a women know how manipulative a guy can be to get a girl in to bed,I just never experience this kind of guy till now. When I was younger I was very shelter.You also seem to be even for a 51yr old. So be mature about this and read my whole post, and not post things that don't only make you look like you don't have a high school degree and make you seem like a person with know brains, but makes a person you don't even know feel even worse about themselves than before.

I don't see why you are being such an evil person. I came on here for advise, not be be called a whore and a slut. So please save the name calling for a 12yr old. Thanks.

Posted by summerlovin91
And I never gave him a blow job thank you very much.

that could be part of your problem

that i didn't give him a blow job?? what!

she probably didn't even bother making love to him either and just lifted her skirt and let him butt fuck her without even ackowledging she was anything more than a hole to plug.

Posted by summerlovin91
that i didn't give him a blow job?? what!

yes!..when you spent the night over his house and didn't do anything..you shoulda gargled his ball juice and then maybe he'd be around right now,seriously..

..what Kstarks said.

Posted by sozen
I feel for you summer . Don't take what P-angel or any of the negative comments to heart , its business usual for her i suppose . Everyone makes mistakes , so don't worry about it just learn from this experience !

Best thing is to move on from this guy and never look back again . It just seems like a messy and hopeless case , so just don't look back no matter what and move on . Don't listen to anything he says .

Just move on and start the new year on a positive note 🙂 Its nothing more than a teaching experience .

Also don't bother fighting back against P-angel or reacting to any of her comments . There are plenty of people like this on DXP and you will only get frustrated . Interact with those that you like and ignore the rest 🙂

I agree with sozen b/c once a Pisces turns off his feelings for you he has really moved on emotionally. Unfortunately you did make a couple mistakes as to have not discussed what your relationship would be before you slept with him and then you went out with a friend of his. I know as a Pisces the second thing is just as bad as the first b/c I have a strict friend code personally.
We can only learn and grow from our mistakes. You are young and have so many more experiences to look forward to and many other men that will come into your life. Move on from this one and know that you know more now to start the next one on a different note that will lead to a better result. Your feelings will fade for this particular Pisces as time can/will do that.
Good luck summer and don't let the rudeness of one ruin your experience on DXP b/c there are so many that actually give great and constructive advice without belittling and insulting you.
😄

Posted by piranhaparadise
^^ LOL...

If you have no problems in dating the friend of the guy you supposedly *love* ...then is it really love ? doubt it...

It all sounds like sex to me...and property claim...he most likely see's a claim in you because you have sex with him...
guys get possessive they don't want to share...means jack in the love department...

doubt he has any respect for you after you go off with his friend !

Yeah I can understand that, but I think part of the reason I went out with his friend was to make him jealous.
If he had done that to me with one of my friends, I would be doing a lot more than just ignoring him. So I totally understand that. I might not love him, but I still have strong feelings for him. I was just starting to get over him, but when he invited me over. All my feelings came rushing back and now I feel worse than before.

And thank you everyone else for the advise,I find it rather helpful. I just don't want to let go of this. I've tried so hard but it just doesnt work. It would help a lot if I didn't have to see him everywhere.

I don't think Pisces makes it so. Takes two to embark on the dance of lunacy along the razors edge. Ahhhh yesh, the ol' 2?? hitting the piggy bank.

Aye, and the games run. Well I do believe there is another player on the opposite side of the table. Rolling the dice and fanning the cards right along side. "Moi?" one could say. "Oui, vous". Is the reply. So I'll walk right up behind you Pesca and take a peek in the mirror too. Might not like everything I see, but whooo who is perfect? I know I'm not.

*deep curtsy* 🙂

xoxoxo 🙂

Oh definitely! 🙂 And to further that along good lady, I think there is going to be a shift in employ. Resulting in better pay. Better pay means travel. And sooner. 😄

Really, really. 😄 I'll know more as things line up, but I am excited about being able to save again instead of squeaking by. I know, HOW Taurean of me.

🙂 Me either, have the travel bug now that I know I won't go down in a ball of flame over the ocean. I was terrified at first.

How true! 😉

Oh you tempting, wonderful people. *sigh* I would love to live overseas.

*snappily saluting* Direct orders then madam. 😉 Have a good night Pesca! xoxoxo

Posted by kstarks2
@summerlovin91

Just move away from this thread...you're not going to get anything but insults from all the sensitive pisces in here that love to flip the script and blame YOU for having sex...

LOL, i often wonder how come "sensitive" pisces make such comments often on Pisces board 😄

For example if i go to the Taurus boar i definitely feel the Taurus vibe and in Cancer board Cancer Vibe....

and now they most probably start commenting "fuck off crab" ...seriously i do not get it 😄

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Posted by kstarks2
@summerlovin91

Just move away from this thread...you're not going to get anything but insults from all the sensitive pisces in here that love to flip the script and blame YOU for having sex...

LOL, i often wonder how come "sensitive" pisces make such comments often on Pisces board 😄

For example if i go to the Taurus boar i definitely feel the Taurus vibe and in Cancer board Cancer Vibe....

and now they most probably start commenting "fuck off crab" ...seriously i do not get it 😄

are you confused?

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Posted by ianthepisces
who the hell have you been talking to? who told you a pisces is unconditionally compassionate all the time?

hmmm, almost all the pisces that i met in real life

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Posted by ianthepisces
who the hell have you been talking to? who told you a pisces is unconditionally compassionate all the time?

hmmm, almost all the pisces that i met in real life

dont lie, you dont know any pisces..

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Now i know you...😄 does it count?
Kidding... i know a lot of pisces and that starts from my dad

Ian is showing compassion through his eyes in his profile pic. If only kstarks would get curious enough to stare into them. We would all feel better. ^^

Posted by thefish
Ian is showing compassion through his eyes in his profile pic. If only kstarks would get curious enough to stare into them. We would all feel better. ^^

LOL A 'High Anxiety' moment.

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Posted by kstarks2
@summerlovin91

Just move away from this thread...you're not going to get anything but insults from all the sensitive pisces in here that love to flip the script and blame YOU for having sex...

LOL, i often wonder how come "sensitive" pisces make such comments often on Pisces board 😄

For example if i go to the Taurus boar i definitely feel the Taurus vibe and in Cancer board Cancer Vibe....

and now they most probably start commenting "fuck off crab" ...seriously i do not get it 😄

Because these fish in here are sharks. Any bloody scar that comes in here looking for a band-aid will get a rude awakening...They don't care about your pain. This is the most hostile board of them all from what i've seen thus far.

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Not entirely true! I am a very nice fishie! Unless you really piss me off...then I become a bitchy shark! 😉
We are not unconditionally compassionate all the time but Pisces is usually compassionate in most...a lot...of cases...maybe...depending on who it is...IDK...LOL
🙂

UGH I saw him again yesterday, and one new years. And after he saw me, he kept texting me. Then I went and hangout with him last night, he was really sweet. I stayed the night, but we didn't have sex. We made out a little. But he was weird again this morning, he wasn't mean. Just different.