Virgo Ladies are absolutely wonderful but how do I

Hi All
I am very much in love with a lady who sees me then puts me off. This has been going on now for 5 years and I would like to make some headway with her. I remember all birthdays, Christmas and send flowers often. She tells me not to come around but when I do we get on well except for odd occasions and then I end up not seeing her for 6 months or so. I have not got as far as sleeping with her yet but the story continues from August last year. I visited after a long break (six months again) and whilst not being overpleased at seeing me (noticeable in the smile), I spent some time chatting with her and left an amicable situation. I bought her an orchid plant and flowers for her birthday. Over the next few weeks I gradually increased the frequency of visits (though she rarely allowed me to stay for more than a couple of hours. I have told her several times that she is the most beautiful lady I have seen. I have frequently looked intently into her eyes for long periods and she allows me to. I have amorously kissed her and she breathes very heavily on those occasions sometimes coming back for more. I feel that she wants sex but not love at this stage. I bought her her favourite perfume and body lotion (difficult to get hold of because it is being phased out) together with a pair of sapphire earrings for Christmas. I was not allowed to visit her over Christmas but neither I gather was the boyfriend. I did get a text from her saying that I had spoilt her more than she deserved. The next visit I made she said 'It would be so easy to love you'. Why wont she then? I have been with her on several occasions when her boyfriend rings her ( I ask if she would like me to leave but she declines the offer - what is going on?). Other occasions I see her and again the smile (you not really welcome) is displayed though a polite 'would you like me to go' is usually met with a negative response and we spend time together. I am not jealous of the fact that her boyfriend has sex with her. I feel on a couple of occasions we could have gone a lot further but I am not sure if she would be alright afterwards (boyfriend considered). I do not want to hurt her in any way. Anyway further visits ensue and I find her cuddling up to me and enjoying my company. I sent her a bouquet of YELLOW flowers for Valentines Day (Yellow is the international colour of love RED being that of PASSION). The Tuesday before Valentines Day I went to see her but she refused to reciprocate my feelings of love to the point of stubbornly telling me that 'how can you love me, you hardly know me' to which I replied 'how do you get to know someone? By spending time with them'. The situation worsen to the point where we had stronger words though not really an argument in that it was not heated as such. I felt terrible but responsible for the situation and then I was texted the the flowers were beautiful, but she feels that I should not go around to see her. Please for comments on what has happened. I it appears that I am always drawn to Virgo ladies (3-4 of my relationships have been with Virgo ladies) and this confounds me as apparently they are not the most compatible with Piscean males.

Why dont you not just asking all of this to her? I am sure you will get more reliable information.

Amen Haffo

Hm?

I don?t understand this?.enlighten me please?.you see someone that is already got a boyfriend..?? what is the logic behind this..?? care to explain..??

And what is this..??( I ask if she would like me to leave but she declines the offer - what is going on?).
Why would you ask such a thing..?? This will prove that you really don?t care who she spend her time with?man? you blew it, never ever say things like this. Stand and GET what you think is yours, and fight for it. (I don?t mean use rage and get physical).

If I were you I would rather find another lady that is (available), what makes you think that she would choose you before her boyfriend..?? Are you trying to bribe her by buying presents..? Wrong again man; never do this to any lady in any star sign (she already told you that you spoiling her).

Stop doing this to yourself my good man right this moment before things goes out of control, find yourself a good company that you both enjoy and appreciate the moments.. following a lady that already unavailable causes more damage to all than you might imagine.


There are things to remember when dating any Virgo creatures:

-Do not be pushy.

-They are busy with their minds, any interruptions considered as harm, means Virgo's does not like someone (even their lovers) fly around all the time. Don?t misinterpret this as they are cold and heartless, or in most cases they don?t care about the intimate relation, they are just what they are and accept it.

-Any ladies in any sign loves what you do as for "presents and gifts" etc., but?in Virgo case those are considered as "show-off or superficial" and the value for what you do is getting lower and lower, down to the point that it become worthless. So, DON'T.

-Virgos while have an expensive and extra ordinary taste, they really love simplicity and they appreciate the quality before quantity.

Cheers

I'm not in the exact same situation, but there's a virgo guy I like. I find when I ignore him, and let him do whatever it is he does-- that's when he goes out of his way to find time for me.

For V-day, instead of going out- or buying him something, I cooked-- and spent a lot of time on a dessert that turned out very nice. He responded by giving me a massage (SURPRISE!!!).

Just recently, he's been rattling with his idea of "helping" me-- by offering me his advice. After I sit back and really take in what he is trying to tell me, the advice is generally good, but he REALLY needs to work on his delivery.

AH-- but we're talking about you. I agree with the bunch... not to mention, 5 years is a long time to court a lady (Virgo or not). You can try giving her some space- but during that time, you need to think about what you want. Do you really want hold-up your romantic life for another 6 months? another year? At the very least, do some casual dating to keep busy.

Also, I'm sure you know this, but you can't make someone love you. Sure, you can do things to get a know a person-- and hope that they will eventually see you for the charming stud you are, and love you back, but at some point, you have to back off. Especially if she has a boyfriend!!!!

I don't know if this is consistent with Virgos, but I think if you're constantly doing things to show a lady-friend affection, and she's not interested, you're probably turning her off. She's probably just being nice by not bluntly telling you to F-off because - maybe - she genuinely likes you as a close friend.

BUT the more you try to push your feelings on her, the more she'll find reasons to reject you. Keep pushing and you'll find yourself out of her life (possibly for good). I would guess that if she can't be your lover, than you at least want her as a friend. So ignore her for a while.. do your thing (I'd at least wait till she's single again).

I hope things work out for you. Good luck.
-sTD

Quick comment. I don't know about other ladies, but if a guy stares at me for a long time-- telling me how beautiful I am. It's GREAT (a little flattering) the first 1..2..3.. times he does it. After that, it gets a little creepy, and I'm a flattery junkie!

-sTD

I am sure everyone is beautiful..
But your boasting about your "beautifulness" requires proof?!

May we see some samples please..??
😉

Actually, it only happened once.. and I think he was blind in one eye-- maybe that's why it was creepy. -sTD

Photon.........forgive me.......I may be wrong..........I just think this lady is "having her cake and eating it". She's got an attractive boyfriend and she's got an attractive man-friend - yourself!!! - who both seem totally devoted. Why should she put an end to either of you creatures who make her feel worshipped and adored and shower her with gifts etc—??

Wish I was in her position:-) Well, I was once....but got got found out....!!!

Anyway, you have a choice - can you live with this? Can you get your head around this scenario? Are you prepared to be second choice forever or are you second to nobody? Simple but hard questions at the same time when matters of the heart are concerned and you are in deep - man - very deep.

You want to get her attention - you have got to make yourself less available. You've got to get yourself an agenda. Virgos are fascinated with others who they "think" are leading exciting lives...coz theirs tend to be quite mundane.....so no more phone calls till she next gets in touch....then you say, oops sorry can't call over...got to meet such and such....maybe next week - even the hint that a certain "other" lady is after your affections to Ms. Virgo will set her thinking and she may see you in the light you so desire......

Anyway, the above has worked for me with a certain ex Mr. Virgo for 2 1/2 years........when we were apart, boy, and got back together, oh the parties I had been to, the people I had met, (some of it was very true, but natuarally being aquarius....I tad exaggerated!!!!......) - reeled him in all the time......

Good luck P.

A x

I would simple explain what i think about her because of all of those. Then make sure he got my idea well. And shoot her away.

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Hi to all that posted replies

I thankyou all for your kind attention and comments. I shall 'do my own thing' for a while and give my lady friend time to herself. I do not want to harm her in any way but I am persistent (which may put her off) I did see more frequently than her boyfriend and I am sure that the boyfriend is no longer around but still she will not see me. I think I will take the advice of both Alana and seizeTheDay, and not see her for a while. Should I send her flowers to remind her that I am around or leave her totally to herself?

Many thanks again to my friends online
Photon

Why do pisces love getting involved with people who are already involved, do not show intrest in them, or whatever. I find that many pisces often get hooked in relationships that are no good for them.

No flowers P.

A x

P- buy flowers for a woman who will appreciate the gesture-

say.. me for example-- I love flowers

and chocolate

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Flowers and Chocolates huh Seize? Kind of high maintenance but . . .




🙂

VirgoSquared

only 2 flowers, huh? and where's the chocolate?

*mutters something about VS being a cheap bastard*

What you was expecting else from Mr.Spock, SeizeTheDay? Perhaps it was too expencive to buy chocolate too. 🙂 So you have to live with like that...

you were* (oh god...)

what can I say? I'm high maintenance.

and single 😢

think they're connected?

No flowers.Shes playing you,If she won't see you its because someone else is there.Stop it.This is coming from a woman some of us aren't very nice and innocent.