whats is love really?

My girlfriend tells me she loves me but we've only been together for a month, i like her but i dont feel like i love her so saying it is awkward... im scared to tell her that because i dont wanna hurt her feelings but my last two relationships were the same way and i always end up making a stupid excuse to leave which ends up hurting them anyway. has anyone else gone through this?

Well maybe she actually means it. Plus you might be a super kool dude, & that's what her fall for you. You don't have to say it if you don't feel it. As long as her actions match her words, then it's ok. So watch for that.

Plus some people fall in love faster than others. If you feel it, then its better to let it out. Even if that person doesn't say it back. She's probably in love with how good you treat her. If its really bothering you, go talk to her about it. Ask her "what makes her love you & want to say it?" Tell her to be honest. It's best to talk about this stuff with your partner so it don't become an huge issue later. I wish you the best

Well i agree with impuslv. Maybe she truly feels that way man. Also you two are bf & gf, it depends on how long you known each other. Saying i love you has no set time period on when to say it. It's a feeling deep inside. So if you feel it, & know it's time to let that person know, then say it. But really i think it's best you talk with your gf about all of this. Find out why & what makes her say & feel love. Good communication is the key

ok ill swallow my spit and tell her how i feel..... i hope she hate me after (-.-)

Posted by NTSC
ok ill swallow my spit and tell her how i feel..... i hope she hate me after (-.-)

CORRECTION i hope she "DOESNT" hate me!!!!

noooo shes a year younger

Posted by NTSC
My girlfriend tells me she loves me but we've only been together for a month, i like her but i dont feel like i love her so saying it is awkward... im scared to tell her that because i dont wanna hurt her feelings but my last two relationships were the same way and i always end up making a stupid excuse to leave which ends up hurting them anyway. has anyone else gone through this?

with all due respect NTSC, she may LOVE you, but it's not REAL Love as in unconditional. It's basically part infatuation, part like, part attraction, part caring and hormonal.

I didn't marry until I was in my early 30's. It takes that special one you really connect with for more than a month or two to feel and appreciate real love.

Also undertand this. Girls have an innate need to share their feelings. That's how we are wired. So for her to tell you that she loves you comes naturally. Guys, OTOH, are wired totally differently. You need to analyze, understand what you think you feel, put it into perspective and know that you have some serious feelings for a girl. Guys can't do this in one month. It takes time. Guys #1 need is their freedom. Girl's #1 need is to feel cared for and appreciated.

While you will no doubt experience more of these wonderful revelations through your teens into adulthood, take it for what it truly is. She's infatuated and in love with the idea of being in love. Nothing more.

The worst thing you can do is lead her on. If you don't have reciprocal feelings, kindly tell her. The worst thing you can do to any girl is put on a facade that will only enhance her feelings. And don't do the ignore thing. It is very hurtful and will only make her distrust guys she's interested in down the road.

Just say "Thank you!". If you feel she wants to hear more, say something nice like "that's kind of you". You DON"T have to reply by putting your cards on the table. If she asks you directly, be elusive. Say "I don't know what I'm feeling, I haven't been in love before."

Hearing " I don't love you is" is hurtful and to be avoided at all costs, unless you are about to call it quits.

If she loves you or not, it doesn't really matter. Easy come, easy go.

You can torture yourself with deeper questions later on, when you are old enough to plan for a long term relationship.

Now get out there, break hearts and got your heart broken. Toughen up yourself. Enjoy it as long as you can.

How many people marry their school sweetheart for the rest of their lives? Only a few pathetic ones.