Why can't he just tell the truth?

hes a sun piscces with a libra moon and gemini rising.

everytime he leaves the house he lies about where he goes. i know hes just out with his buddies and doestn want a girl coming along bc i get behind the scenes and find out whats going on if i get suspicious. i will simply ask him where hes going and he tells me with out any hesitation, i ask him if any1 else is going to and he sais no just him.. well he is always picking up the same GUY yes just a guy everytime he leaves without me and for some odd reason im not aloud to go. i know he wants buddy time but why does he gotta lie for it?

"i know hes just out with his buddies and doestn want a girl coming along bc i get behind the scenes and find out whats going on if i get suspicious."


Here is your answer Cancer_Leo, you said .. he doesn't want a girl going because you get behind the scenes and find out what he's up to if you get suspicious .. this means that if you go with him, you make him feel uncomfortable by snooping around and being paranoid.

So, if you are suspicious and make him feel that way ... then it seems perfectly normal for any guy to lie to his woman about where he's going if he catches grief for hanging out with mates.

There's a difference between telling an outright lie, just to fib .. and telling one because another person is making them lie because they aren't trusted.

"i know he wants buddy time but why does he gotta lie for it?"

Apparantly so. Instead of asking him where he goes, what he's doing, who he's going to be with (which you must do because you said that if you get suspicious then you start snooping behind the scenes) .. why don't you try not even asking him.

When he's going out, just say, "Have a great time. See you later" .. and don't ask him any questions. Don't ask when he gets home what he did. Do this everytime and I'll bet you he will no longer lie about it because then he won't feel uncomfortable about you knowing .. soon, he'll be telling you exactly who he's going to go hang out with.

It's all about trust Cancer_Leo, and that's all. If he doesn't trust you enough to tell you the truth about what he's doing .. then the only thing you can do is try to figure out WHY he doesn't trust you and fix it within yourself so he will trust you.

I actually wanted to say this when you posted about your mother-in-law. First, if thats your husband in the picture-I have to say that you look way too good to be with him. Second, its been my experience to run fast and far away from a man who has a crazed mother. Third, a lot of your emotions could be hormonal since your pregnant.

"Third, a lot of your emotions could be hormonal since your pregnant."

that i am sure of.

But today at the olive garden we were there with his parents and 3 other families.
i saw some old lady handing out carnations to women, (im so scared that i will get nothing for mothers day) and when she skipped me (im obvioulsy pregnant) she handed the last one to a teenage girl right beside me. yeah i felt pretty bad. i know its not a big deal but im afraid that people dont see how important it is to me that i be included on mothers day. i told brent that i felt bad for not getting a carnation and he said "well the mothers that got them have children out of the womb" i told him that "just bc ours isnt out of the womb doesnt mean that we dont have a baby, so that makes me a mother and him a father." he understood that i think. then a few minutes later he left me at the olive garden and told me to ride home with his mom that he had to go do sumthin real quick and that hed meet us at home. he rushed out the door! didnt say bye or i love you so i chased after him afraid that something was wrong and by the time i got outside to find him he was speeding away in his car and didnt even see me standing there at the side of the road. im so confused and worried. i also dont know if its hormones or the rainy stormy weather but i feel a bad vibe about things.

I agree with P...don't ask him where he's going....