Will a pisces man come back after a bad fight? He is a moon & mars in pisces + Sun in Cancer

He is a moon & mars in pisces

Sun & Mercury in Cancer

Venus in gemini

jupiter in Taurus

I am Cancer- Moon,venus mars

Gemini- Sun Mercury Jupiter(on the cusp)

We had a very bad fight and i said sorry to him but he has just been avoiding talking to me. He keeps replying he is busy. It's already been a month now. Last time we had a fight he came back after 4 months but this time the fight was very big. But i did apologise to him through messages. I wrote my heartfelt message to him and he said he will talk to me as he also needed to share what he felt.. but then he kept on saying he's busy. Can i do something to get him back or should i move on?

Personally, I would give him a grace period of a couple months to gather his thoughts. I am a Pisces myself and I hate fighting with people but afterwards I need time to myself to collect my thoughts and make a decision. For me, that could take a week to a month but for him it may be longer.

Pisces are fragile and skittish but we don't like to leave things on a bad note. Be patient for the meantime but if he doesn't come back in a couple months then starting to move on is a good idea.

All the best!

-Ownard

i am really heartbroken... as to why he asked me to move on.. i am guessing his chances of coming back are negligible

What was the fight about?

Yeah too easy my ex was cancer with moon in pisces but mars in cancer they will give you the silent treatment or try to manipulate you but you have to look through that bluff they forgive

dewiklaessen26 do you mean he still loves me and will come back?

@LadyNeptune Here's the story...

We met on an online matrimonial site in Sept 2017... we talked to each other, initially we chatted and he used to call me a lot.. but then sometimes he was detach which i couldnt understand at that time was because of his Pisces Moon & Mars. So within a month we had a very small arguement where i argued with him to give me more time and he said he did try to but his schedule keeps him busy( he is an officer in Army), i reacted to this and told him not in a rude but stern way "Listen, please do 1 thing.. just go ahead and find someone nice." to which he too got annoyed and said "Ok" and i kept the phone. I blocked him on whatsapp.

The 4 months later, i got a message from him on FB and he said he wanted to say sorry for his conduct ( i dunno what he did in those 4 months and why it took so long for him to comeback, can some pisces moon an mars discern this and explain to me please?) Then we started talking again.. he told me he is now training to be in the special forces(in probation for 3 months) so he will not be able to give me so much time and asked me to please not get angry because of that. Then we again started talking to each other and got really close and we kept on talking about how we both want to marry each other and have kids (we were just waiting for his probation to get over so he could come and meet me as they cannot step out of the premises before the probation gets over) In these 3 months, we chatted not much but everyday (he once disappeared for 4-5 days though) but we used to have a lot of fights.. i think that was because this was an initial phase and we were getting to know each other... throughout his probation i tried to be strong as he could not get much time to talk to me and i stayed with him although we fought and broke up and then got back a lot of times.. in fact i even did an assignment for him... then as his probation was coming to an end we both got excited and he booked his flight tickets to visit me for 3 days from 3rd May till 6th May.... after him booking his tickets also we had fights(to a point where he wanted to cancel his tickets) and then made up... he met me on 3rd May and he was really nervous and so was i but not as much as him... when we met i tried to make him feel comfortable as he was nervous if i would reject him... we both chaecked in to a hotel and had a good pleasant time and even made out... and he said he really loved me and found me beautiful and cute... then we went for dinner and asked me if we could get married the next day(registered marriage) as he would have to go back and finish his training again for 2 months and we both needed a commitment of sorts... so while having dinner he asked me to get married but i dunno why but i changed the topic and said are you serious? and we spoke about our future together... then we went back to his room and made out... then i went back home and came to meet him the next day... again we had a good time and he brought up the marriage topic once and i was too loving him in the moment to think about anything else but to just be with him as i was meeting him for the first time after waiting so long for him... then in the evening we went out for drinks... we both sat close to each other and really had a good time and danced as well... everyone around could see and feel that we were in love... then we both got lil high and left... we went back to the hotel and i could feel that he was too drained and irritated.. but i couldnt understand.. we made out but i asked him "why was he irritated" he did not reply.. and after having sex he just laid next to me... i again asked him "why are you irritated" he again did not reply and ignored me... by this, i got irritated as i felt i came back to his room for him.. so that we could spend time and he just laid there not saying anything! ( this is 1 thing i always noticed about him... he would never communicate on any problems or issues even if i pestered him and asked him... he would always run away from any form of confrontations, always!) so, as i was already a lil high i got agitated and screamed a little and said i am leaving... and i dont want to have anything to do with him after this and as i went out he got up and came to stop me... then i screamed a lil again and he said " do whatever you want!" this agitated me more and i threw my perfume bottle on his chest(not very forcefully to hurt him) to this he got angry and said " please leave now" and i left...it was 12 in the night and i expected him to care a little or ask if i reached home no matter how big the fight was..but he did not communicate at all...so on my way i thought about this and deleted him from my fb and whatsapp... but then i got up next morning and felt guilty and sorry that i hurt him and i went to his room to say sorry... i waited for 3 hours as he had to meet his friend and i had gone to meet him without his knowledge... as he came back i said sorry to him and he said" why do you keep fighting with me" and "Dont drink.. you cant handle your drinks.. and you behaved like a hooligan last night" to this i again said sorry.. then we made out again.. he was a drained out.. i dont know because he had a few drinks or because of our fight... then after making out he said he wanted to sleep a little... i let him sleep for 1 hour and did not disturb him.. then i woke him up after 1 hour as i had too leave soon and he got up very reluctantly... he then came down to buy me a pill (as we made out) as i wanted him to buy it for me... he came out with me reluctantly and bought it and gave it to me... then i asked him what about us... he then said " after last night i am really confused" this again hurt me a lot and made me angry as i though i loved this guy so much and neglected so many of his flaws but he could not look though 1 mistake of mine... when i even apologised to him so many times... so i was very very hurt and i started crying and said some hurtful things to him as i was too hurt and he was just not interested to talk and wanted to leave asap. So i said a few hurtful things to him and he too got angry and we both left.. the next morning he had to take a filght back... for the next 2-3 days no communcation happened.. but i cried a lot and was really depressed and wanted him back and could not hold myself back and messaged him saying i wanted to talk... and the ignoring started... its not even like he would not reply at all.. infact he would keep replying that he is busy... so this has gotten me confused as to why is he even replying if he doesnt want to talk!

i am too heartbroken as to how could he turn so cold to me if he loved me... i have apologised so so many times... i really started to doubt if he really loved me and had intentions to marry me or if he just wanted to make out... and i know it was my fault to a large extent as i have anger issues and i should not have done what i did...

How is he a "Pisces" man if his sun is in Cancer, or did I misread that 5 times.

:-)

His moon and mars are in pisces and his sun and mercury are in cancer

I feel he behaves more like a piscean and shows more traits of a pisces

Cancers come back quickly after an apology if they still want to be with you. If they keep “torturing” you by not forgiving. That means they don’t really want to try. Which means they are over you. Not saying this is the case, because there are a lot of planetary aspects involved. But that’s how I am/was with my ex when I was emotionally immature and just wanted her to end it so I wouldn’t have to. I’m a cancer sun sag moon. She was a sag sun cancer moon. Honestly awful combination between the two of us.

I think he wanted me to end it.. as he saw my flaw and couldnt bear with it...

@perperuna lol.. true... i dunno what happened to me!!!

So within a month we had a very small arguement where i argued with him to give me more time and he said he did try to but his schedule keeps him busy( he is an officer in Army), i reacted to this and told him not in a rude but stern way "Listen, please do 1 thing.. just go ahead and find someone nice." to which he too got annoyed and said "Ok" and i kept the phone. I blocked him on whatsapp.

So supposedly he was very busy with his schedule and couldn't give you more time that you wanted. I think you should have tried to be a bit more understanding and a bit more patient about it, it surely wouldn't have stayed like that forever.
Also, you said it was a very small argument, but yet it seems like you reacted very emotionally and recklessly. I know it was a very frustrating situation, but try not to say and do such drastic things if it was a small argument, because they often end up making things worse.

The 4 months later, i got a message from him on FB and he said he wanted to say sorry for his conduct ( i dunno what he did in those 4 months and why it took so long for him to comeback

I'm assuming it took him 4 months because he had a lot of stuff going on in his life and he was trying to deal with them, but it's obvious that he had feelings for you here, he wanted to apologize as an attempt to make it work.

but we used to have a lot of fights.. i think that was because this was an initial phase and we were getting to know each other... throughout his probation i tried to be strong as he could not get much time to talk to me and i stayed with him although we fought and broke up and then got back a lot of times..

I don't know but to me it feels like a bad sign if you start fighting at the start of the relationship. And the multiple break-ups aren't a good sign either..

we both chaecked in to a hotel and had a good pleasant time and even made out... and he said he really loved me and found me beautiful and cute... then we went for dinner and asked me if we could get married the next day

Whoaaaah, that's a bit too fast.
I know the feeling when you're in love with someone and all you can think about is marrying them and having kids, but marriage is a serious thing, and definitely shouldn't be so rushed. You met only for 3 days in person.
However, the fact that he still wanted to marry you there is proof that he's in love with you.

so while having dinner he asked me to get married but i dunno why but i changed the topic and said are you serious?

we made out but i asked him "why was he irritated" he did not reply.. and after having sex he just laid next to me... i again asked him "why are you irritated" he again did not reply and ignored me...

I'm getting the feeling that he felt like you tried to avoid the question when he asked you to get married and probably felt hurt by that and then he was mad about it and expected you to know that he was. I guess it made him even more irritated and mad because you didn't realize that it hurt him.
Still, it's very immature of him to just keep quiet about it expecting you to realize it yourself. Nobody can read minds and communication saves relationships. The fact that he never communicates problems is a big red flag.

he said" why do you keep fighting with me" and "Dont drink.. you cant handle your drinks.. and you behaved like a hooligan last night" to this i again said sorry..

Try to stay calm in situations like this. You should have calmly responded "Then why won't you tell me what's wrong? Why don't you ever want to talk about what's bothering you? That hurts me a lot you know"

I'll tell you something straight though, Cancer Suns are always a tough nut to crack, they always keep bottling up things inside. If you really want to reach inside a person like that, you will need a lot of gentleness and patience.
Their mind is a thunderstorm, that's why they hide it from everyone. I wouldn't advise digging deep in there unless you are strong enough to endure such emotional intensity.

i though i loved this guy so much and neglected so many of his flaws but he could not look though 1 mistake of mine... when i even apologised to him so many times...

There's a good reason why people say love is blind. You fall in love so hard that you ignore almost all of the other person's flaws. That's a recipe for disaster. You have to recognize all the flaws as soon as possible and ask yourself "Which flaws aren't a big deal and I can get used to, and which ones I really cannot tolerate?"

You are in love with him, but you don't love him (or at least you have no way of knowing yet if you love him or not). Love is something that happens over a long period of time, it's impossible to know if you love someone after such a short time of knowing them. I know you have a very strong feeling of love towards him, but what you are feeling is being in love. It's the initial honeymoon phase of every relationship. That phase eventually passes, it always does sooner or later, then comes the power struggle phase when you argue so much and you even wonder "Maybe this person isn't for me after all..." This is where most relationships fail. If both partners change themselves enough for each other, or get used to enough of each other's flaws (or a combination of both), and survive through this phase and stay together, that's when the relationship succeeds and that's when you know you *love* the other person.

could not hold myself back and messaged him saying i wanted to talk... and the ignoring started... its not even like he would not reply at all.. infact he would keep replying that he is busy... so this has gotten me confused as to why is he even replying if he doesnt want to talk!click to expand

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It seems like he's not interested anymore, I'm sorry to break it to you.
Possible reasons for the ignoring:
1. He's not interested but he feels guilty to just straight up ignore you completely, so that's why he responds that he's busy
2. He wants to ignore you but he's not sure if he's over it or not
3. He thinks that constantly saying he's busy will make you go away
4. He's actually busy and can't respond (He was often busy even before the fights right?)

I'm seeing a lot of red flags here. Him not communicating about problems and putting barriers around himself is probably the biggest one in this situation.
The two of you started fighting before you even started kissing. That's really not good.
And to make things even more difficult, you guys are in a long distance relationship. Those have a very small percentage of success in the first place. I'm not saying they never succeed, they do, but very rarely.

My advice is, you need to have some self-respect, don't tolerate things that are not okay.
Let it go, forget about him, you deserve better treatment than that.
And try to avoid long-distance if you can, date people that don't live that far away from you, it makes things so much easier.
Stop messaging him completely, I know it's very tempting and you really want to, but resist it. Don't message him at all anymore, he will notice it, he will realize that you're over him and he will feel guilty.
Who knows, maybe he will contact you again trying to get back together, but don't take him back until he grows a pair and grows mature enough to actually communicate with you.
On the other hand, you also have to be a bit more mature with your emotions.
You react very impulsively based on your feelings, and that can complicate things. When a situation provokes an emotional reaction in you, count to 10 in your head, stay calm.
Those events that you described at the hotel, I could have imagined them having a very different outcome if only you reacted less emotionally.

I hope this helps, if you have questions, be sure to ask me.

-"Balance in all things"

Thank you so much for ur inputs Alex! 🙂 It really helped... I am not contacting him since the 15th because I tried a lot but got no mature response. I agree that I get emotional outbursts and I need to control them... I will work on them... I wish he really actually loved me to see that I am not an evil person just because I have this flaw.. he could have given me a chance.. but that’s ok... it’s his outlook

Thanks a lot for ur detailed reply! I really think what if we had bigger and worse fights after marriage... how would he handle them? Would he behave the same way? I just feel like he’s taking the easier route and runnig away from it rather than facing it and working on it. Maybe I expect a lot... but that’s what I felt... if he really did love me he wouldn’t torture me so much and would work with me on this... is this escapist tendency a Pisces thing? Or am I wrong in looking at his response as an escapist tendency?

“I'm getting the feeling that he felt like you tried to avoid the question when he asked you to get married and probably felt hurt by that and then he was mad about it and expected you to know that he was. I guess it made him even more irritated and mad because you didn't realize that it hurt him.

Still, it's very immature of him to just keep quiet about it expecting you to realize it yourself. Nobody can read minds and communication saves relationships. The fact that he never communicates problems is a big red flag.”

Why wouldn’t he communicate! The problem is he just doesn’t want to confront tough situations or talk about what’s affecting him!

“It seems like he's not interested anymore, I'm sorry to break it to you.

Possible reasons for the ignoring:

1. He's not interested but he feels guilty to just straight up ignore you completely, so that's why he responds that he's busy

2. He wants to ignore you but he's not sure if he's over it or not

3. He thinks that constantly saying he's busy will make you go away

4. He's actually busy and can't respond (He was often busy even before the fights right?)”

I think the chances of point 4 are negligible... no one is too busy for more than 15 days to address such an issue... if it’s a priority...

Do you think I deeply hurt his sensitivity and that’s y he’s doing this?, or do u think there maybe other reasons

Posted by Prettypink
“It seems like he's not interested anymore, I'm sorry to break it to you.
Possible reasons for the ignoring:
1. He's not interested but he feels guilty to just straight up ignore you completely, so that's why he responds that he's busy
2. He wants to ignore you but he's not sure if he's over it or not
3. He thinks that constantly saying he's busy will make you go away
4. He's actually busy and can't respond (He was often busy even before the fights right?)”

I think the chances of point 4 are negligible... no one is too busy for more than 15 days to address such an issue... if it’s a priority...

Do you think I deeply hurt his sensitivity and that’s y he’s doing this?, or do u think there maybe other reasons

Well you probably hurt him but you shouldn't blame yourself for this, if he got so mad to not want to be with you anymore over one silly little thing, then it's his fault for being so oversensitive. I understand that he's a sensitive person, but he's really being immature by making it such a big deal when it's actually not. Being sensitive by nature is okay and understandable, but being oversensitive is a very bad trait, when you're talking with someone who's oversensitive, you are literally non-stop scared to say anything because it might hurt them. He's being oversensitive.

But I think you shouldn't be so concerned with marriage yet. How old are the 2 of you?

@alexa566 His response and attitude towards the whole thing has immensely hurt me to the point that i am here discussing all the personal stuff on this forum... I have been thinking about all the wrong things i did to see how badly i might have hurt him.. i think the day after the fight when he said he was confused to me.. i got too hurt and said a lot of hurtful things to him.. i said so many hurtful things in the heat of the moment like my friends did not find him good enough for me(which is the truth) and that at 1 points i felt my ex was better.. i think what all i said after the incident due to my feelings being hurt did as much damage as me being aggressive with him...i know i hurt his ego badly..

No i believe i have lost him.. and it breaks my heart.. the problem with me is that my reaction to situations are always as strong as my feelings for that person.. plus i have realised off late that i really have anger issues which i need to work on for any relationships to work in the future...i need to learn to be more patient...

But at the same time, i do agree with you that i am blaming myself too much.. but thats because i know i am a good person and had good intentions and love for him.. and i felt guilty that i hurt him and lost him... i always feel bad when i feel like i hurt him...

And i think now he will only come back if the love was too strong or if he felt lonely and did not find someone as good..

We both are in our late 20's, hence we were planning to get married soon...

@Prettypink He's the one who lost you. The fact that your reactions and feelings are so strong proves that you care so much, which I don't see in people much nowadays. Don't worry, there's plenty of *FISH* in the sea 😉

Who knows, maybe you'll meet the love of your life tomorrow or next week. You never know when it might happen, it usually happens when you least expect it. 🙂

I know it hurts a lot, but it'll pass, you need time to heal.

In the meantime, this is the perfect time to focus on yourself, improve yourself, do all of the things that you planned to do but didn't. For example, start a hobby, get into drawing, start learning an instrument, whatever you feel attracted to.

Hang in there, you'll get through this. I promise. 🙂

Not sure because cancers tend to hold grudges so no telling.

alexa566 Thanks Alex for your encouraging words! Your response has given me positivity and hopes! 🙂