Do I tell my taurus man??

Taureans... please help. I'm a Cancer woman in a long distance relationship (for now) with a Taurus man. I have always been 100% honest with him but right now I'm not sure that i should be.

I hung out with an old college friend (male Leo), and he kissed me unexpectedly. I had even told him all about my boyfriend and how wonderful he is. I panicked and left, and I feel like I should tell my bull because I don't ever want to give him a reason not to trust me, but I'm afraid his jealousy and stubbornness will get in the way of the truth and he won't forgive me, even though I wanted nothing romantic to do with this other man.

Do I tell him for transparency's sake, or let it go and risk him ever finding out on his own? I know how ironclad he is when he shuts down!

Are you sure you don't just want to tell him to rile him up and make him jealous?

Relax. Nothing happened. Would you require him to tell you ?!? As a guy I imagine there's all types of ex's and new guys competing for my place with my SO. I even suspect her girlfriends of introducing her to new guys.

Do I stress this stuff? NO.

Do I question her about where she's been, who's texting here? NO.

I judge my partner on how they are when with me. I don't care for her to give me every detail of private life. We hang out, have fun; share and eventually have passionate nights. Relationships are about growth and sharing. Focus on enjoyment and enhancing each other.

Tell him... make bulls are a bit different from female bulls but I'll tell you this, if you were honest and up front even if we get mad we will think about it and come around. If you hid it and we found out or at least me, I would never forgive you... ever. Even if we spoke again it will always be in the back of my head that I can't trust you. Let him know it wasn't your fault and what you did and why you wanted to let him know and even if he pouts for awhile he will have what you said to analyze. Please tell him.

If your going to tell him do it in person or at least on skype and semi face to face. If you tell him over the phone it's not going to go well.

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Keep silent! What do you think is going to happen? Leo will come over and tell him?

One thing - how is that loving your BF you haven't mentioned him? Have you mentioned him agter 'the sin'? Lol

I've known many people and those who were in relationships and never said my wife or my husband in 5 min after conversation started were in unhappy relashionships.

Maybe someone tells you something?

But don't even think of telling!!!

How was the kiss? With tonge? Were you protesting? For how long?

Honestly, I wouldn't want to know if something like this happened with my girlfriend until it was ancient history. Tell me about it after we've been together for ten years and I'll know it didn't matter, anyway. Tell me the day after it happened and it will drive me crazy and make me question who you are as a person.

Did you kiss him back? How long have you and the Taurus been in a relationship? How well do you know this Leo, and can he be trusted to keep his lips sealed (in more ways than one)?

Assuming you did not kiss him back, I'd say don't tell your Taurus. But make sure the Leo knows exactly where you stand and that something like this cannot happen again. I'd personally have some serious qualms about hanging out with him again after that, though.

Knowing what I know about bulls, if you tell your Taurus, he'll be sick with jealousy and also think you did something to encourage the Leo to make that move on you.

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Posted by Bricks195
Honestly, I wouldn't want to know if something like this happened with my girlfriend until it was ancient history. Tell me about it after we've been together for ten years and I'll know it didn't matter, anyway. Tell me the day after it happened and it will drive me crazy and make me question who you are as a person.

But what if you discover what happened before she tells you anything ? You will see that as a betrayal and you will question who she is as a person don't you ?

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It wouldn't sit well with me either way.

I recently went through something like this.. You can do one of 3 things in my opinion (not saying they are better than those above, but I have been through similar)

1. You tell him and explain everything. With loyalty, Transparency is key. You set boundaries with your friend and you adhere to them, or you atop hanging out altogether.

2. You dont tell him, but you quit hanging out with the other guy. It's tempting to take what's available here and now. You're in a relationship with someone else, so at the moment right now, it's wring. Don't tempt yourself with comfort/friendship and bonding from someone else if you want to keep your relationship.

3. You do what you want. It is your life but just remember your decisions affect those close to you. You're not married, but you are certainly not single.

These situations definitely suck and I feel for you, regardless. I've been there, it sucks for both parties involved if they both care about each other..

Posted by Fleshpot
Did you kiss him back? How long have you and the Taurus been in a relationship? How well do you know this Leo, and can he be trusted to keep his lips sealed (in more ways than one)?

Assuming you did not kiss him back, I'd say don't tell your Taurus. But make sure the Leo knows exactly where you stand and that something like this cannot happen again. I'd personally have some serious qualms about hanging out with him again after that, though.

Knowing what I know about bulls, if you tell your Taurus, he'll be sick with jealousy and also think you did something to encourage the Leo to make that move on you.

I didn't kiss back... I pulled away as soon as his mouth touched mine and asked him what the hell he was doing. I haven't seen or talked to him since it happened. My bull and I have been together for about six months.

Posted by urbane101
I recently went through something like this.. You can do one of 3 things in my opinion (not saying they are better than those above, but I have been through similar)

1. You tell him and explain everything. With loyalty, Transparency is key. You set boundaries with your friend and you adhere to them, or you atop hanging out altogether.

2. You dont tell him, but you quit hanging out with the other guy. It's tempting to take what's available here and now. You're in a relationship with someone else, so at the moment right now, it's wring. Don't tempt yourself with comfort/friendship and bonding from someone else if you want to keep your relationship.

3. You do what you want. It is your life but just remember your decisions affect those close to you. You're not married, but you are certainly not single.

These situations definitely suck and I feel for you, regardless. I've been there, it sucks for both parties involved if they both care about each other..

Thank you so much for your response. I agree that it's tempting sometimes, especially when my bull is in his "cold" phases of hot and cold or otherwise gets distant when he's busy and/or stressed. But in six months, with more than one opportunity, I have always remained faithful to my bull without question. I think I'm going to try not to destroy my friendship with Leo, but keep him at arms' length and not spend physical time with him alone. If I spend any time with him, I'd rather it be with other people around or with my bull around, or both. Thank you again! I hate feeling secretive but I don't want to hurt him with something that doesn't matter, so I honestly don't know whether to tell him or not. I've always prided myself on being truthful but this situation definitely sucks.

Posted by clay541
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did you like it? were you like ''oh stop it'' in a way that portrayed you still wanted it?

if so you a cheater and a slut....but if your innocent i wouldn't tell him since its long distance and he cant tell if your lying or whats going on you know

I don't and haven't wanted anyone but my bull since I met him. I was very clear to Leo about my bull and our relationship, so I honestly don't understand why he thought it would be a smart move but I let him know immediately. I am a physically affectionate person and my bull knows that, but aside from the unwelcome kiss the only time I touched Leo that night was when he hugged me when we got there. I'm hoping it was just the alcohol he'd had that made him feel like it was okay, but either way I haven't seen him since and don't plan on being alone with him again, as long as Taurus and I are still together.

After four years of marriage to my cheating ex-husband, the last thing I'll do to my bull is betray him. That's why I struggle with telling him this, because I don't want him to ever find out on his own somehow and not be able to trust me.