how do i get a distant cancer girl back

simple as that. I tried asking before and I didn't get any help, so I'm gonna try again in this simplified way.

I didn't hurt her feelings. we both just got a little busy with work and stuff, we were attached at the hip before. i think we still are but shes just a little more distant. i think maybe she's grown shy or someone else is distracting her. if the latter is the case, how can i steal her attention? and what about if it's not, how can i get her to warm back up to me again? i miss her.

some people say distance helps, others say continuing to pursue does. i don't want to make a wrong move

mind you this is a subject i feel kind of crazy/depressed over so try and be gentle with me if you can

i'm a Virgo with libra moon and sagi rising

How long have you been together, how old are you guys?

Posted by rabidtalker
How long have you been together, how old are you guys?

We've known eachother I think since 2011. we didnt become close until about 2013 and we were attached at the hip for a year. had a falling out cause of some issues i dont wanna touch on (has nothing to do with now, it was mostly out of miscommunication and w/e), now we've been essentially the same if not closer since june of last year. she hmu and we talked about everything, exchanged apologies, gradually got closer and closer until we became (healthily) inseparable. We're both in our early 20s

If she really likes you then she will try.

Feeling like you need to do something to get her back is definitely indicative of your age.

Hopefully, as you age you'll learn that the people who are worth being in your life are the people who you won't have to try to win back by changing your behavior.

Not saying you shouldn't put efforts into your relationships by the way...

just that you shouldn't actively have to try and impress and win over someone because they withdrew attention and affection from you. That doesn't sound healthy at all.

Even you describing your relationship as being "healthily" attached at the hip is suspect.

No such thing exists.

Sound like you don't understand healthy boundaries.

i use to suffer from this.

My guess is that she still has some feelings. She hasn't entirely let go. But you are right to assume there might be someone else due to the distance.

Try to do something special with her. Buy her something very nice or invite her On a trip and pay for it all. Court her.

Posted by virgotheclown
simple as that. I tried asking before and I didn't get any help, so I'm gonna try again in this simplified way.

I didn't hurt her feelings. we both just got a little busy with work and stuff, we were attached at the hip before. i think we still are but shes just a little more distant. i think maybe she's grown shy or someone else is distracting her. if the latter is the case, how can i steal her attention? and what about if it's not, how can i get her to warm back up to me again? i miss her.

some people say distance helps, others say continuing to pursue does. i don't want to make a wrong move

mind you this is a subject i feel kind of crazy/depressed over so try and be gentle with me if you can

i'm a Virgo with libra moon and sagi rising

VIRGOS AND CANCER ARE SO PERFECT TOGETHER! But try to talk to her ask her why shes being more distant.. Maybe she's going through something internally.. And u Said u didn't her feelings.. But idk when we notice something or someone does something we don't like we become distant.. Show her tht you care

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Posted by rabidtalker
How long have you been together, how old are you guys?

We've known eachother I think since 2011. we didnt become close until about 2013 and we were attached at the hip for a year. had a falling out cause of some issues i dont wanna touch on (has nothing to do with now, it was mostly out of miscommunication and w/e), now we've been essentially the same if not closer since june of last year. she hmu and we talked about everything, exchanged apologies, gradually got closer and closer until we became (healthily) inseparable. We're both in our early 20s

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The bolded above is very important to the solution. It's logical... problem/solution, cause/effect.

The fact that you want her back without resolution; the fact that you dismiss the problem as irrelevant... seems a bit... self aborbed, objectifying, maybe um a bit "thick."

So, staying on the path of superficiality.... send a small gift every two weeks w/a love note.

Let her do her own thing for now.

Don't bother trying to change her mind at the moment, it's just going to frustrate you.

When she falls on her face she'll come running back asking to cuddle, but that's if she loves u

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Posted by rabidtalker
How long have you been together, how old are you guys?

had a falling out cause of some issues i dont wanna touch on (has nothing to do with now, it was mostly out of miscommunication and w/e), now we've been essentially the same if not closer since june of last year. she hmu and we talked about everything, exchanged apologies, gradually got closer and closer until we became (healthily) inseparable. We're both in our early 20s

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She might be cautious if she doesn't know your intentions. Either to protect herself or to protect you.

For my cancer self there is no such thing as "in the past". Especially regarding painful experiences.