Does single dating life mean —GAME TIME—

I'm the one out of my friends, that know the game but I hate it and try to avoid it. Honestly they say my best feature of my personality is also my downfall —Trying to see the good in everyone??. It's a good trait, but it's also a weak one apparently. I often try to take people at their word, until they show me otherwise, and even then I MIGHT give them the benefit of the doubt, which cases me to come off a bit na??ve at times I guess.

Personally this just makes me not want to date, and I often get accused of giving up too soon. I hate riddles, I hate trying to figure out the right thing to say at the right time, I don't like wondering what the person meant or what their true intentions are. Like for example, if I meet a guy and we talk for a like a week and he's making hints but not telling me what his agenda is, I will ask him flat out just because I don't feel like trying to figure shit out. I??ll just say —So what are your intentions with me— My friends will say —WHYY! Why you ask him that?!?? I'm like I asked because I don't want to waste my time or his. If he's looking to just have a good time, then he should keep it pushing and we can be friends. If he's looking for something with meaning with that special someone then maybe I can rock with him. I guess I'm just tired of the meaningless encounters that's why I'm so forward. But I feel I'm forward in a tactful manner.

So, does the single dating life AUTOMATICALLY mean you MUST play the game?

Thoughts?

Ha. That sucks.lol. I hate playing games especially when I like someone that shyt is sooooo irritating. Why you gotta test me, and throw curve balls, and ask me questions that really have a secrete meaning, do stuff to see how I react, COME ON bro??_lol

Posted by pinklibra
Ha. That sucks.lol. I hate playing games especially when I like someone that shyt is sooooo irritating. Why you gotta test me, and throw curve balls, and ask me questions that really have a secrete meaning, do stuff to see how I react, COME ON bro??_lol

Nope..keep doing you!!!...do not reverse the game because someone else wants to play it. If you already know what you are looking for in a man and what you want out of a relationship, then that's exactly what you should strive for. If you are not a game player, then DON'T PLAY THE GAME because it's what's considered the norm. Any man that does not want a committed relationship will always play the game if you allow them too..even if they really like you. It's just what men do, but if you already know that's not what you're about, then why even play. The right man will come along, and when he does, trust me, you will know. Games not needed🙂

Posted by LIb4Life

Posted by pinklibra
Ha. That sucks.lol. I hate playing games especially when I like someone that shyt is sooooo irritating. Why you gotta test me, and throw curve balls, and ask me questions that really have a secrete meaning, do stuff to see how I react, COME ON bro??_lol

Nope..keep doing you!!!...do not reverse the game because someone else wants to play it. If you already know what you are looking for in a man and what you want out of a relationship, then that's exactly what you should strive for. If you are not a game player, then DON'T PLAY THE GAME because it's what's considered the norm. Any man that does not want a committed relationship will always play the game if you allow them too..even if they really like you. It's just what men do, but if you already know that's not what you're about, then why even play. The right man will come along, and when he does, trust me, you will know. Games not needed🙂

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OMG! Thank you so much. My friend always teases me like —girl I gotta teach you the game.?? To be honest it irritates me when she says that because she says it out loud in front of others as if I'm incompetent or enable to handle my own. I ask for advice to get a second opinion not because I'm incapable of making my own.
Then two, she makes it seem like when you??re dating you have no choice but to play or get played. I??ve left a lot of guys in the dust over the past year for living by that creed, simply because I'm just tired of it. I want something different with someone that's not afraid to show genuine interest in a good woman like myself, and vise versa, like I honestly like him and he likes me, and we just cool like that.

I never date, I just stumble into stuff lol.

There are men out there who come correct and there are women out there who come correct. They are out there i promise you.

I cut my losses much earlier than i used to. Once there are a few hints of game play, im out.

Posted by LIb4Life

Posted by pinklibra
Ha. That sucks.lol. I hate playing games especially when I like someone that shyt is sooooo irritating. Why you gotta test me, and throw curve balls, and ask me questions that really have a secrete meaning, do stuff to see how I react, COME ON bro??_lol

Nope..keep doing you!!!...do not reverse the game because someone else wants to play it. If you already know what you are looking for in a man and what you want out of a relationship, then that's exactly what you should strive for. If you are not a game player, then DON'T PLAY THE GAME because it's what's considered the norm. Any man that does not want a committed relationship will always play the game if you allow them too..even if they really like you. It's just what men do, but if you already know that's not what you're about, then why even play. The right man will come along, and when he does, trust me, you will know. Games not needed🙂

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Posted by Impulsv
Pink I'm like u . When a man is ready he will appreciate ur honesty. The man I married, now ex, I flat out told I'm not going to date just to date, if your intentions are to see how we are together for marriage then yes. He married me. My uncle a play boy married the one who told him flat out she wants marriage she's not a little girl n if he's killing for the same then we can date. They are still married.
So the ones that are not on same page will run a man that is looking for the same may appreciate the forwardness. Plus I'm sure there are men tired of the silly game women play. There is always a fit for some one. I like u will not play. 🙂

I know it was an autocorect flaw but to see this in a Scorpio post was LMAO!

Thanks. I would agree. It's refreshing to know i'm not the only one that feels that way.lol. I was feeling like a loner lol

Posted by pinklibra
I'm the one out of my friends, that know the game but I hate it and try to avoid it. Honestly they say my best feature of my personality is also my downfall —Trying to see the good in everyone??. It's a good trait, but it's also a weak one apparently. I often try to take people at their word, until they show me otherwise, and even then I MIGHT give them the benefit of the doubt, which cases me to come off a bit na??ve at times I guess.

Personally this just makes me not want to date, and I often get accused of giving up too soon. I hate riddles, I hate trying to figure out the right thing to say at the right time, I don't like wondering what the person meant or what their true intentions are. Like for example, if I meet a guy and we talk for a like a week and he's making hints but not telling me what his agenda is, I will ask him flat out just because I don't feel like trying to figure shit out. I??ll just say —So what are your intentions with me— My friends will say —WHYY! Why you ask him that?!?? I'm like I asked because I don't want to waste my time or his. If he's looking to just have a good time, then he should keep it pushing and we can be friends. If he's looking for something with meaning with that special someone then maybe I can rock with him. I guess I'm just tired of the meaningless encounters that's why I'm so forward. But I feel I'm forward in a tactful manner.

So, does the single dating life AUTOMATICALLY mean you MUST play the game?

Thoughts?

f that! You're doing the intelligent thing. It's just that it shocks people, because they're *that* accustomed to doing these nonsense fa?ades that get nobody anywhere.

Like you said, why waste each other's time. Plus no matter what fa?ade you put on, the longer you keep seeing them, the likelier you'll get attached, and if his intentions were casual all along, it's gonna hurt like a bitch worse than finding out early on.

Posted by Impulsv
U can never say never but those are my thoughts for now.

@impulsv, I agree with Tiziani....I've been married for a very looooong time, and I used to say "never say never", but now I can honestly say, I have no intention on EVER GETTING MARRIED AGAIN. I sincerely hope and pray that I am with my husband til death do us part, but in the event that it does not happen, I'll definitely date, but Marriage...can't see it. Marriage is a lot of work and a whoooole lot of compromising, but when you truly love each other, that's what you do. I had to learn that. Thank God my husband had patience or else he would have divorce my butt a long time ago. He's a retired Marine and Martial Artist, so patience is something he was born with and Lord knows, I was a work in progress, but he said he always saw the potential in me, so he decided to roll with the punches, and for him, it paid off...lol. I think I will always prefer a committed relationship over a casual one because that's just who I am. I've never been much of a game player. I dabbled in it when I was younger, but I didn't like the guilt that came along with playing with other's feelings and emotions..guess that's the Libra in me..LOL, so I choose not to go that route.
We all know KARMA is a biatch, and frankly, I'm am scared as hell of KARMA🙂

I'm not a big fan of dating myself. I feel like I'm auditioning for the role of your girlfriend. And then there's the active uncertainty that's unpleasant. It's super awkward for me, I guess. I think it takes time to find someone on your wave length that you're attracted to as well. I'd rather not date a whole bunch of men but respect women who put it out there cuz really how you gonna meet men? They're smarter than me and I'm an overly cautious Cancer. UGH!! Sometimes I hate being a water sign. I take this shit too seriously. Times like these I really wish I were an air sign.