@Geminlove
12 Years
Men have been telling women from the beginning of time the main ways to capture them:
1. Be different. (There's 7+ billion people on earth. Women outnumber men, which gives them more options to pick from. At any given time a man has several options to pick from. If you stand out from all the rest of the girls that he crosses paths with or interacts with, you've already won half the battle).
2. Be a challenge. (Don't immediately make him a priority before he's had the chance to gain enough interest in you to want to make you a priority. Men like the chase. They're hunters. Always have been, always will be. The prey who walks in front of the hunter willingly & eagerly makes the final hunting boring or not desirable at all. Men don't mind working for what they want. They do so in every other area of life. This also applies to women).
3. When it's time to be vulnerable, be so. A man may not want it all up front (b/c he initially wants you to be #1 and #2), but when he's finally made the decision that you're worth it, he needs more of an incentive to STAY around. Initial attraction/finding a good woman is just the beginning. Once he's ready to see the rest of you, show him. If you don't, he's going to perceive you to be the deer he can't ever catch. Seems fun & challenging at 1st, but eventually he'll tire & move on. Playing hard to get for too long is a lesson many women learned the hard way.
Why women forgot these "rules" persay is beyond me.
Once he's earned your trust, actually trust him. Once he's earned your loyalty, be loyal to him. Once he's proven himself, give of yourself. You can't just stand there and look pretty, thinking that doing so is all you need to find AND keep a man.
If he's still into you & making putting in efforts AFTER the lust phase has worn off, then he's already on his way to falling in love with you. The rest of the process of him falling in love with a woman depends on 1. Where he is emotionally in his life (all the great woman in the world won't change a commitment phobe or one who's emotionally unavailable) and/or 2. How much more of a consistent incentive you give him to want to keep exploring the future with you.
Posted by LetltB
lol what an awesome hat.
I think the question makes little sense.
Chasing = displaying interest. Nothing more, nothing less.
If it turns into love, that depends on both partners after a connection is established between them.
People who think they're in love during the chase period..are only acting out of hormones/strong lust.
Posted by bossybabe
Finally he hits me up asks for information again & it's really weird how I gave it to him with no hesitation !
The bolded part is out of this world hilarious 😆
1. you have butterflies, merely talking to a person for the first time
2. you engage in sexual activity on first date
3. his sexual performance wasn't good enough for you
4. you embarked upon ignoring him, because his sex wasn't good enough for you
* Note: without two people knowing each other emotionally, love making cannot exist .. only fucking.
* Note: a person would have to be an adult to realize this
5. he was/is interested in you so begun with every approach he could think of to get you to give him a chance.
6. you decided that you like him
7. since you decided to like him, you then expected him to apologize to you - because you obviously make him responsible for your lack of sensibilities.
8. now, you've changed your game ... now, you're leading him to believe that you're in love with him.
In reality ..... you have no clue how to handle your own feelings, likely due to having the emotional maturity level of a child wanting attention.
I really hate it when women feel the need to let men know either thru their words or well timed silence that sexually it just wasn't happening for them. I mean there's a time and place to show a man how to please you better but to let him know he's a dude sexually speaking is just about the lowest blow a woman can give and we'd never tolerate that shit getting turned on us. The fact that his feelings mean so little to you is a sign you're nowhere near ready for a relationship.
typo queen here.... a dud sexually speaking ..... this kind of "honesty" is really a bunch of selfish crap. We wig out when a man calls us our on our weight. Imagine how we'd feel if he told us we're boring in bed. Soo not the way to handle things. There's no love or respect in that conversation.
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Whts his moon and venus placement? If he has alot of air in his chart then you HAVE to keep him on his toes then gracefully come in and accept his heart. Gems male or female are master at mind games and b4 you accept his heart even tho YOU like him. You have to make them want you enuff to "cripple" them in a sense. Dont hurt his feels but play coy, dont flirt with other guys in front of him and dont sell urself short. Keep ur standards high, Good luck hon, you're in for a wild ride 😉 ps: i didnt read your novela just your topic heading