degenerate_ingenue
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Flighty
Are you afraid of something?
You're aware of it, now when you meet someone be present in what comes up and don't judge yourself. Maybe if you check in and all is good, you try to mediate this response by doing the opposite of what you normally do?
Posted by degenerate_ingenuePerhaps you dont want to be exposed. Fear, fear of the unknown. The fear of appearing the fool and perhaps he won't like what he sees. Once your confidence within yourself grows it will happen less. Don't be afraid to show the real you, if they can't accept you for you, then they aren't right for you anyways.
I'm noticing a problem that is slowly increasing in my life. I have extremely flighty behavior in relationships. my interests are vast and sporadic. everyone has me curious about them (unless they're taken because I don't cross any lines- not in my moral values). I am really in a crossover between wanting someone but when I am close to getting them I just run. I don't want to be around them but at the same time I do. it's very difficult. every time I try getting close to someone I hide. it's annoying and definitely something I personally want to work on, but it's almost a natural response. it's the worst. does anyone else have similar reactions?
my friends invited me over and they told me they invited the guy I was interested in, and I just felt like I needed to leave. they made me stay of course, and I did but I was at odds with myself. the odd thing is I do like him. it's very hard to explain and very strange to even express, but it is definitely interesting to deal with. I see people able to fully commit and just enjoy it, and I wish I had that same sureness about myself.
Least that's my take and experince with this exact thing. Took me time and growing and aging to see what it was.
Posted by tizianiLMFAO tiz!! ‚‚‚ dying
You're probably just going to meet a fun partner next. Not necessarily someone who's relationship material. Just someone willing to dominate you.
Flighty? Planes.
Posted by degenerate_ingenueIt's strange but I get exactly what you are saying. I see you've mentioned previously in other posts that you're a Scorpio and I'm a libra with a Scorpio ascendant and I totally get the feeling. For me it's to do with fear of things not going well or me getting hurt. Being vulnerable. It's almost as though I play out scenarios in my head and then start to recoil a little. I'm not sure if it's the same thing for you but I do understand what you mean.
I'm noticing a problem that is slowly increasing in my life. I have extremely flighty behavior in relationships. my interests are vast and sporadic. everyone has me curious about them (unless they're taken because I don't cross any lines- not in my moral values). I am really in a crossover between wanting someone but when I am close to getting them I just run. I don't want to be around them but at the same time I do. it's very difficult. every time I try getting close to someone I hide. it's annoying and definitely something I personally want to work on, but it's almost a natural response. it's the worst. does anyone else have similar reactions?
my friends invited me over and they told me they invited the guy I was interested in, and I just felt like I needed to leave. they made me stay of course, and I did but I was at odds with myself. the odd thing is I do like him. it's very hard to explain and very strange to even express, but it is definitely interesting to deal with. I see people able to fully commit and just enjoy it, and I wish I had that same sureness about myself.
Posted by justagirlI haven't been on the computer in ages! I wanted to reply from a computer. It was taking too long on my phone, and I am not patient typing on it haha. What you said though. Entirely on point, especially the parts in bold. This guy does accept me for me even on my crusty days when I look like I just rolled out of bed with my hair poofy and crazy with no makeup on. The last guy I was interested in was a Taurus...who was very much the opposite. The last day I saw him, I had been running late for work and everything but he asked me to come over. I told him I had no time to go home but I would come. He had bailed on me the night before because he was tired, but I was all dressed up and looking nice that day. So I go over there in my work clothes and no makeup on...two hours (if that) go by, and he tells me what a turn off I am because I didn't do my hair, makeup, wear perfume, get dressed up, dropped my phone one time on accident, and had a messy car (I have three jobs and go to school full time so I have literally no time to clean it almost), and my nose was a little red because I had a cold. It made me realize how surface-oriented he was. he didn't care anything about the insidePosted by degenerate_ingenuePerhaps you dont want to be exposed. Fear, fear of the unknown. The fear of appearing the fool and perhaps he won't like what he sees. Once your confidence within yourself grows it will happen less. Don't be afraid to show the real you, if they can't accept you for you, then they aren't right for you anyways.
I'm noticing a problem that is slowly increasing in my life. I have extremely flighty behavior in relationships. my interests are vast and sporadic. everyone has me curious about them (unless they're taken because I don't cross any lines- not in my moral values). I am really in a crossover between wanting someone but when I am close to getting them I just run. I don't want to be around them but at the same time I do. it's very difficult. every time I try getting close to someone I hide. it's annoying and definitely something I personally want to work on, but it's almost a natural response. it's the worst. does anyone else have similar reactions?
my friends invited me over and they told me they invited the guy I was interested in, and I just felt like I needed to leave. they made me stay of course, and I did but I was at odds with myself. the odd thing is I do like him. it's very hard to explain and very strange to even express, but it is definitely interesting to deal with. I see people able to fully commit and just enjoy it, and I wish I had that same sureness about myself.
Least that's my take and experince with this exact thing. Took me time and growing and aging to see what it was.click to expand
@degenerate_ingenue
It''s always scary to let that guard down, but let me tell you once you do, it's that much more magical. There is less BS, less pretense, less of the shit that goes along with always trying to appear to be perfect .
Also this does get easier with age to not be as flighty. Something happens with women around 26 or so and what used to be so important is no longer the case and the stuff that would hold you back is no longer there. Not sure if i am making sense, i hope i am 🙂
It''s always scary to let that guard down, but let me tell you once you do, it's that much more magical. There is less BS, less pretense, less of the shit that goes along with always trying to appear to be perfect .
Also this does get easier with age to not be as flighty. Something happens with women around 26 or so and what used to be so important is no longer the case and the stuff that would hold you back is no longer there. Not sure if i am making sense, i hope i am 🙂
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
Posted by LibWmanI have a Libra ascendant 🙂Posted by degenerate_ingenueIt's strange but I get exactly what you are saying. I see you've mentioned previously in other posts that you're a Scorpio and I'm a libra with a Scorpio ascendant and I totally get the feeling. For me it's to do with fear of things not going well or me getting hurt. Being vulnerable. It's almost as though I play out scenarios in my head and then start to recoil a little. I'm not sure if it's the same thing for you but I do understand what you mean.
I'm noticing a problem that is slowly increasing in my life. I have extremely flighty behavior in relationships. my interests are vast and sporadic. everyone has me curious about them (unless they're taken because I don't cross any lines- not in my moral values). I am really in a crossover between wanting someone but when I am close to getting them I just run. I don't want to be around them but at the same time I do. it's very difficult. every time I try getting close to someone I hide. it's annoying and definitely something I personally want to work on, but it's almost a natural response. it's the worst. does anyone else have similar reactions?
my friends invited me over and they told me they invited the guy I was interested in, and I just felt like I needed to leave. they made me stay of course, and I did but I was at odds with myself. the odd thing is I do like him. it's very hard to explain and very strange to even express, but it is definitely interesting to deal with. I see people able to fully commit and just enjoy it, and I wish I had that same sureness about myself.click to expand
it is fear of not being accepted for me and putting on airs I suppose if I really had to guess. I do fear rejection and being hurt. Then again, I am sure most people have this. I envy those who can be so bold to approach someone and if they are rejected they are able to bounce back quickly, but I am also happy for them. I am so fearful that I wait for them to make the first move. I am clueless when it comes to flirting, though I have been told I "flirt with everyone". Unless someone is being blatantly direct, I normally don't catch on and if I AM interested I certainly don't make the first move.
But once someone starts truly pursuing me, I have flighty tendencies. This guy is very accepting of who I am. He has issues of his own, but for some reason when I know he is going to be somewhere I get flighty and want to leave/not be around him. I don't fully know why other than maybe I have a fear that something may go terribly wrong. He is very fire dominant - about 50% . I am pretty mixed but water is my highest (32% ) and second is air (26-27% ).
Sometimes I also get nervous that one day he will wake up and think I am no longer interesting
Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.
Posted by flowingwater😢Posted by justagirlRight! This makes me so sad/mad for her..
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
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We did have some good memories. So I'll remember those, but I'll never forget his sharp words. He wanted them to be cutting. Then he tried to make me feel like I was the one in the wrong. I don't think I could ever date a Taurus man. He told me he was sorry for making me drive all the way out there to see him later, but he was not sorry for what he said. He had the audacity to say we were still cool. I told him I pitied him for being so surface-oriented and that it is such a dense and superficial way to live. He told me it was in his nature, and we haven't spoken since.
Posted by degenerate_ingenueGive me his number i am going to go kick his ass!Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.click to expand
What a douche. Please do not let how he treated you, play on your insecurites, which is also part of this entire thing.
Not saying that to be hurtful, but your last post about the guy waking up and not liking you is 100% insecurites. A person should never look to another for self value. Again i can relate, i did it for nnay years. i still slip into it sometimes, but i can usually see it when it happens.
Posted by justagirlthat does make sense though. it's definitely something I want to work on. overall this Scorpio season has been boding me well. the taurus situation ended quite some time ago, but I suppose mentally it left some thoughts. it makes me very aware of everything. it is kind of strange that someone can be so accepting of me for being me. it's nice and also strange. my sag mars keeps all interesting, but naturally I am pretty in search of something deeper with all of my Scorpio energy. I am trying to become LESS flighty, but it is almost like a naturally conditioned response. it's really weird. there are some days where i am totally comfortable around him and other days when i want to be alone and away from him. it's so hard to even explain.Posted by degenerate_ingenueGive me his number i am going to go kick his ass!Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.
What a douche. Please do not let how he treated you, play on your insecurites, which is also part of this entire thing.
Not saying that to be hurtful, but your last post about the guy waking up and not liking you is 100% insecurites. A person should never look to another for self value. Again i can relate, i did it for nnay years. i still slip into it sometimes, but i can usually see it when it happens.
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the grammar on that was pretty terrifying lol, but you get what I'm saying 😄
Posted by flowingwater😄 😄 my Aqua protectorsPosted by justagirlYeah let's beat him up like a piñataPosted by degenerate_ingenueGive me his number i am going to go kick his ass!Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.
What a douche. Please do not let how he treated you, play on your insecurites, which is also part of this entire thing.
Not saying that to be hurtful, but your last post about the guy waking up and not liking you is 100% insecurites. A person should never look to another for self value. Again i can relate, i did it for nnay years. i still slip into it sometimes, but i can usually see it when it happens.
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Posted by flowingwateri got my whip 😛Posted by justagirlYeah let's beat him up like a piñataPosted by degenerate_ingenueGive me his number i am going to go kick his ass!Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.
What a douche. Please do not let how he treated you, play on your insecurites, which is also part of this entire thing.
Not saying that to be hurtful, but your last post about the guy waking up and not liking you is 100% insecurites. A person should never look to another for self value. Again i can relate, i did it for nnay years. i still slip into it sometimes, but i can usually see it when it happens.
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Posted by degenerate_ingenueNot so hard, cause you did just explain, I get you 🙂Posted by justagirlthat does make sense though. it's definitely something I want to work on. overall this Scorpio season has been boding me well. the taurus situation ended quite some time ago, but I suppose mentally it left some thoughts. it makes me very aware of everything. it is kind of strange that someone can be so accepting of me for being me. it's nice and also strange. my sag mars keeps all interesting, but naturally I am pretty in search of something deeper with all of my Scorpio energy. I am trying to become LESS flighty, but it is almost like a naturally conditioned response. it's really weird. there are some days where i am totally comfortable around him and other days when i want to be alone and away from him. it's so hard to even explain.Posted by degenerate_ingenueGive me his number i am going to go kick his ass!Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.
What a douche. Please do not let how he treated you, play on your insecurites, which is also part of this entire thing.
Not saying that to be hurtful, but your last post about the guy waking up and not liking you is 100% insecurites. A person should never look to another for self value. Again i can relate, i did it for nnay years. i still slip into it sometimes, but i can usually see it when it happens.
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Posted by justagirlat least someone does 🙂Posted by degenerate_ingenueNot so hard, cause you did just explain, I get you 🙂Posted by justagirlthat does make sense though. it's definitely something I want to work on. overall this Scorpio season has been boding me well. the taurus situation ended quite some time ago, but I suppose mentally it left some thoughts. it makes me very aware of everything. it is kind of strange that someone can be so accepting of me for being me. it's nice and also strange. my sag mars keeps all interesting, but naturally I am pretty in search of something deeper with all of my Scorpio energy. I am trying to become LESS flighty, but it is almost like a naturally conditioned response. it's really weird. there are some days where i am totally comfortable around him and other days when i want to be alone and away from him. it's so hard to even explain.Posted by degenerate_ingenueGive me his number i am going to go kick his ass!Posted by justagirlLOL no I did not 😢
as for the douchbag... please tell me you told him off? LOL
I was very quiet. I even stayed a few extra minutes. After awhile of awkward silence because I didn't know how to respond, I quietly said "I think I'm going to go home now" and he just said okay, and I walked myself out.
What a douche. Please do not let how he treated you, play on your insecurites, which is also part of this entire thing.
Not saying that to be hurtful, but your last post about the guy waking up and not liking you is 100% insecurites. A person should never look to another for self value. Again i can relate, i did it for nnay years. i still slip into it sometimes, but i can usually see it when it happens.
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Posted by killerwhalemoonThat is quite parallel to my experience. my last "serious" relationship ended in 2011. From there I became more numb as you describe. I still take hits from the occasional rejection, but some short relationships just left me completely indifferent to their endings. One guy said that he just kind of lost interest, I said okay and moved on the next day. At first I had that weird..."dropping" sensation (if you know what I'm talking about) when he said that. Then when I took it in and processed it, I was matter-of-fact about it and moved forward.
I have been really flighty sense i went through hell in a few relationships. I went from getting cheated on to being led on for a year to being lied to and dumped because i went to a rave with a gf. Its all seemed shoved together. Ever sense all that ive been numb inside until i got feelings for my cuddle buddyf but i havent spoken to him for a week because i have feelings. I dont know what to do with them honestly. Guess ive toughy myself the importance of not involving or expressing emotions when they never mean anything to those crappy guys.
Ive been thinking about running. Everytime i do i feel it in my heart. The thought of spending more time leaving feelings in the dust sounda thrilling. Im a sagitarius mars.
Ironically enough, my situation is slightly similar/slightly not. I would literally describe it like cat and mouse. I normally wait to be pursued though and even then I may just get a little flighty. I definitely developed some type of feelings there, but it is kind of frightening. He's kind of standoffish like me, so I think we both are unsure of what the other is thinking/feeling. We have a lot of mutual friends and are friends ourselves (of course), so when I find out they invite him over too I get this intense "flighty" feeling on the inside like I need to get out. I don't even know why, because naturally nothing bad or terrible happens. It's almost like instinct. We have fun together though. We're pretty weird..lmao.
Sag Mars unite 😄
I'm sag Mars too 😄
Ever read up on wild horses? They are beautiful magnificent creatures that will run along side you but if you try to cage them or corner them they bolt?
Think about how that applies 🙂
Think about how that applies 🙂
totally changing the subject of this post because I'm not too worried about the actual topic anymore lol (my mind is a million places at once), but someone posted about MC/IC and it reminded me of this entire post! it was so incredibly true for me too.
MC LEO - IC AQUARIUS
As a child you could have been quietly, or openly rebellious (depending on the sign on the Ascendant) if you did not get the freedom you needed to express yourself. You played with friends in the neighbourhood and people may have visited your home. You were taught to treat everyone as equal. You may have associated with a child, or a sibling who was ‘different’ in some way; through this you developed understanding and humanitarianism. In your growing-up years, you could have felt ‘different’ from your friends. Your parents may have had totally different personalities – they were diverse. One parent may have been anti-social and the other social; and you were given the space to develop your social skills independently. You have many friends, and you probably relate well to their problems, but you may feel inwardly separate, somewhat detached and possibly ‘different’. You can lack faith in yourself through a feeling of neglect in love, and an inner fear of being ‘hurt’; therefore you may detach from love to protect your feelings. As an adult you may choose not to make close friends outside your personal circle, preferring to be independent; some may consider you aloof, but you tend to set yourself apart from ‘collective’ social groups; however you mix well with people from all walks of life and you do not cast judgement on class, race or creed. You try to help other people to succeed, and if they do, their success gives you an inner sense of pride. When you are with your selected friends, you are lively, colourful and entertaining. You enjoy fun and entertainment, and you meet with interesting friends from different backgrounds. You try to encourage your partner to share your interests, but this can be an area of social difference.
MC LEO - IC AQUARIUS
As a child you could have been quietly, or openly rebellious (depending on the sign on the Ascendant) if you did not get the freedom you needed to express yourself. You played with friends in the neighbourhood and people may have visited your home. You were taught to treat everyone as equal. You may have associated with a child, or a sibling who was ‘different’ in some way; through this you developed understanding and humanitarianism. In your growing-up years, you could have felt ‘different’ from your friends. Your parents may have had totally different personalities – they were diverse. One parent may have been anti-social and the other social; and you were given the space to develop your social skills independently. You have many friends, and you probably relate well to their problems, but you may feel inwardly separate, somewhat detached and possibly ‘different’. You can lack faith in yourself through a feeling of neglect in love, and an inner fear of being ‘hurt’; therefore you may detach from love to protect your feelings. As an adult you may choose not to make close friends outside your personal circle, preferring to be independent; some may consider you aloof, but you tend to set yourself apart from ‘collective’ social groups; however you mix well with people from all walks of life and you do not cast judgement on class, race or creed. You try to help other people to succeed, and if they do, their success gives you an inner sense of pride. When you are with your selected friends, you are lively, colourful and entertaining. You enjoy fun and entertainment, and you meet with interesting friends from different backgrounds. You try to encourage your partner to share your interests, but this can be an area of social difference.
Posted by justagirlI love that analogy! that is so true. I can definitely see that. love love and love. we are magnificent 😄
Ever read up on wild horses? They are beautiful magnificent creatures that will run along side you but if you try to cage them or corner them they bolt?
Think about how that applies 🙂
Posted by degenerate_ingenue😄Posted by justagirlI love that analogy! that is so true. I can definitely see that. love love and love. we are magnificent 😄
Ever read up on wild horses? They are beautiful magnificent creatures that will run along side you but if you try to cage them or corner them they bolt?
Think about how that applies 🙂click to expand
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