Help me get over aqua ex or get him back

I'm a Leo .., I dated my Aquarius ex for about 5 months. We both fell fast and fell hard. We ended up moving in an apartment together because of some circumstances .. We bought brand new furniture. Had a housewarming party ... He would talk about marriage and kids with me and about being the one for each other. I initiated the final breakup between us after being sick of the bickering and the stupid lies he'd tell. He agreed with it but then I changed my mind and wanted to work on things and within a week he said his feelings had changed. It's almost been two months since the breakup which was intense and pretty ugly since we had also gotten a car for him that was in my name because he had bad credit which obv I didn't want to leave him with and have to worry about him paying it every month if we weren't going to be together anymore. I've had no contact with him for the last three weeks now which was when i took the car back and it wasnt good ... and I miss him like crazy and can't stop thinking about him. I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. But like I said, it's been almost two months and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I thought we were meant to be and could work through everything. I know he's gotten with other girls since then and I'm not sure if he's just hanging out or seeing someone but I haven't and I'm having so much trouble moving on :-/ I wasn't used in the relationship either, the feelings were def mutual, I just think it ended rough because we both had a lot on our plates thrown at us all at once ...

Hi, I remember your story at the aqua board and you keep saying the breakup was intense...what exactly happened? Sometimes the things that led/cause a to the breakup are a deciding factor for me. And, when you say he changed his mind, what reasons did he give you?

Posted by WaterCup
Hi, I remember your story at the aqua board and you keep saying the breakup was intense...what exactly happened? Sometimes the things that led/cause a to the breakup are a deciding factor for me. And, when you say he changed his mind, what reasons did he give you?

By intense I mean -- I literally took everything that was mine out of the apartment. Tool the car back a few weeks later. Tried to work things out with him, we'd just fight because there were so many hurt emotions flying around. It just wasn't a clean breakup 😢 I know it's easy for Aquarius' to keep themselves occupied with other girls, and I'm sure that's what he's doing bc he doesn't like to be alone.

Our relationship was amazing but had rough patches because we had to deal with so many tough things like a death in the family, being displaced by super storm sandy, finding a new place and moving in together because of it, finances, buying new furniture, but he'd always say how much we've been through and how strong that made us that we could do it all. But he had a lying problem since he was younger and I just hated being lied to and it caused such stupid fights.

The reasons he gave were that the fighting was just enough already and that he just lost feelings for me. I also believe he was influenced by a friend or two who wanted him to be single and back on the prowl with them.

Oh, ok. For one, I dont get influenced by friends when it comes to my relationships, I like who I like and I dont care what other people have to say, so what you say puzzles me for a bit. I'm not him, so...
Just give him some time & space to figure things out for himself. 2 mnths is still too fresh, he must still be hurt over what happened & w/e, so maybe he is just cooling off. It takes time for me to forgive and forget relationship stuff when I care for a person & I never get over someone I really cared for over night. Its a slow process. I may still be angry, but the love will still be there. I dont call 1st thou lol, I wait until they make contact 1st then I become friendly to show I'm over whatever caused the fight in the 1st place. Again, I'm a scorpio moon, so this may not apply to him. In the meantime, just relax & stop fretting so much. You are still breathing & that should be your main focus...to stop the hurt. Do stuff to keep you busy & not concentrating on negative painful thoughts. If he cares he'll be in touch, its a man thing. Leave him alone & do you and yours for now, k?

Posted by WaterCup
Oh, ok. For one, I dont get influenced by friends when it comes to my relationships, I like who I like and I dont care what other people have to say, so what you say puzzles me for a bit. I'm not him, so...
Just give him some time & space to figure things out for himself. 2 mnths is still too fresh, he must still be hurt over what happened & w/e, so maybe he is just cooling off. It takes time for me to forgive and forget relationship stuff when I care for a person & I never get over someone I really cared for over night. Its a slow process. I may still be angry, but the love will still be there. I dont call 1st thou lol, I wait until they make contact 1st then I become friendly to show I'm over whatever caused the fight in the 1st place. Again, I'm a scorpio moon, so this may not apply to him. In the meantime, just relax & stop fretting so much. You are still breathing & that should be your main focus...to stop the hurt. Do stuff to keep you busy & not concentrating on negative painful thoughts. If he cares he'll be in touch, its a man thing. Leave him alone & do you and yours for now, k?

Thank you so much !!!! The only thing I want to question is you saying you don't call 1st though --- I've heard that about Aquarius ... So then you said if he cares he'll be in touch ? ... But what if he doesn't contact 1st either? Wouldn't that mean I need to contact him? If so, how do I know when is a good time and how should I approach it ?

Thank you again for your help !

No problem, girl. I'm a woman 1st before I'm an aqua, so I let the men do the grovelling lol. Who wants scraped knees? Hahaha. Yeah, let him come to you 1st, aqua or no aqua he is still a man & if he doesnt call 1st then its his loss. Fuck him. You are a woman & a leo, so never let go of your pride over a man by being the 1st to contact. It doesnt work like that. He'll come around when he is ready, so stay out of his way until then. Btw, theres nothing more annoying than seeing an ex everywhere, it makes you decide against reconciliation just because they are annoying & everwhere. Aquas are drawn to a sense of unavailability for whatever reason. If you are always there = zzzzzzzzz. Make yourself scarse from him & enjoy life with your girls and he'll starting thinking fast n get over it sooner

Thank you ! I really appreciate it

I had a similar relationship with a Leo man who broke it off with me. He was rather nasty about the whole ordeal which tore me to bits as I thought he was the one. The fact that he was so ugly with me about the break-up and pitted our mutual friends against me what really killed any chances of me getting back with him. However, I didn't stay mad or even upset with him afterwards as Aquarius is the sign of friendship and we tend to move on. A few months past before we ran into each other again and at that time I was over what had transpired between him and I. We actually found ourselves on friendly terms again.

My advice is give it a few months. It doesn't have to be forever, but if you really want to get him back then provide him the space to work things over in his mind. Take some time for yourself as well. When he feels ready he may contact you, or if you feel strong enough in yourself to initiate corgial and friendly light conversation than do that. I know that when an ex of mine always started over as my friend, it was much easier to speak and work things out. There is always a chance to return to your relationship through friendship, especially with an Aquarius. But make sure that it is what YOU really want. No sense in going back to a relationship if the issues that original destroyed it do not get resolved. That's the most important thing. Good luck!

Posted by Taggize
I had a similar relationship with a Leo man who broke it off with me. He was rather nasty about the whole ordeal which tore me to bits as I thought he was the one. The fact that he was so ugly with me about the break-up and pitted our mutual friends against me what really killed any chances of me getting back with him. However, I didn't stay mad or even upset with him afterwards as Aquarius is the sign of friendship and we tend to move on. A few months past before we ran into each other again and at that time I was over what had transpired between him and I. We actually found ourselves on friendly terms again.

My advice is give it a few months. It doesn't have to be forever, but if you really want to get him back then provide him the space to work things over in his mind. Take some time for yourself as well. When he feels ready he may contact you, or if you feel strong enough in yourself to initiate corgial and friendly light conversation than do that. I know that when an ex of mine always started over as my friend, it was much easier to speak and work things out. There is always a chance to return to your relationship through friendship, especially with an Aquarius. But make sure that it is what YOU really want. No sense in going back to a relationship if the issues that original destroyed it do not get resolved. That's the most important thing. Good luck!

It wasn't until now that I saw this post, but WOW this made me feel better about it. I've read way too many things saying that Aquarius' will NEVER look back 😢 I hope this isn't the case but I did reach out to him yesterday. If you don't mind, look at my recent post on the Aquarius page, I could def use your insight with the latest 🙂

Hopeless, you broke up with him right? You guys were settling in, making plans for the future and then when the going got tough, you broke up with him? Now you expect him to be mature and want to work things out? I don't know anything about your relationship but the fact that you broke up with him when he saw his future with you might have REJECTED him big time. He might never trust you again for the long haul. Sorry, it sounds harsh but that's how I would feel.

Thank you both for your responses!

Aquapisces - he lied a lot as well as did some wrong things. He def needed to realize this and nothing was changing at the time. I was hoping a new start would bring about these realizations and a change.

Posted by Hoplessinlove
Thank you both for your responses!

Aquapisces - he lied a lot as well as did some wrong things. He def needed to realize this and nothing was changing at the time. I was hoping a new start would bring about these realizations and a change.

Were the things he lied about big deals? For sure, if he isn't being honest with you, that would make me wonder. You obviously had a good gut feeling and that is why you left. Then why the rush in wanting to get back together?

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Posted by Hoplessinlove
Thank you both for your responses!

Aquapisces - he lied a lot as well as did some wrong things. He def needed to realize this and nothing was changing at the time. I was hoping a new start would bring about these realizations and a change.

Were the things he lied about big deals? For sure, if he isn't being honest with you, that would make me wonder. You obviously had a good gut feeling and that is why you left. Then why the rush in wanting to get back together?

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I can't pin point the answer to that question but a few reasons fall into the answer...def because I miss him, I've never loved someone so much or enjoyed time with someone so much. It's been three long months and I've missed him everyday. Also, the fear of him moving on and never looking back? That could def be playing a part ... :-/

I've reached out to him & it's been small talk but most of the focus has been on the jeep and if we can work something out for him to have it back. Don't know if I should try to ask him to hang or anything? Not sure how to move it out of that "business" talk into more friendly ...?!

Posted by Hoplessinlove

.... and I miss him like crazy and can't stop thinking about him.

.... I can't imagine being with anyone else.

You state in the title that you want him back, and in your description you carry on as if you want him .... yet ....

Posted by Hoplessinlove

But he had a lying problem since he was younger and I just hated being lied to and it caused such stupid fights.

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You say this in past tense, as if this problem no longer exists. Are you so arrogant that you think that by virtue of you breaking up with him, that he will change?

Why the hell would any woman with mature emotions think that she is so special of a prize that she is worth him making a life change over, simply because she wants it?

You may be 23 in years, but, you are much younger in emotional maturity .... because just because you miss him, doesn't mean he's stopped being that same goddam person that pissed you off.

Are you really that daft?

Posted by Hoplessinlove

- he lied a lot as well as did some wrong things. He def needed to realize this and nothing was changing at the time. I was hoping a new start would bring about these realizations and a change.

oh, so I was on the right track ..... you broke up with him with intentions of attempting to change him.

In other words ...... instead of taking him for who he is, the way he is - you are manipulating him with purposes of trying to get him to be someone he's not to satisfy your ass.


::::: shakes head :::::


What a bitch

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Hoplessinlove

- he lied a lot as well as did some wrong things. He def needed to realize this and nothing was changing at the time. I was hoping a new start would bring about these realizations and a change.

oh, so I was on the right track ..... you broke up with him with intentions of attempting to change him.

In other words ...... instead of taking him for who he is, the way he is - you are manipulating him with purposes of trying to get him to be someone he's not to satisfy your ass.


::::: shakes head :::::


What a bitch

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It's actually funny you're so harsh but you don't really know what you're talking about. He was going to counseling for HIMSELF to work on his behavior and his lying. I wasn't trying to manipulate or change anyone lol. I was just hoping that he had been working on what HE DIDN'T LIKE about himself while we've been apart because I clearly wasn't going to put up with someone who acted in that way. The changes were for himself and they were being worked on at his own choice. If he is incapable of improving his negative behavior, I wouldn't put up with it a second time around either 😉