Agentgem24
@Agentgem24
12 Years1,000+ PostsGemini
Comments: 102 · Posts: 1323 · Topics: 48
Help! Roommate from hell.
You are on page out of 2 | Reverse Order
Why wait 4 months? Get the hell out of there if you can immediately.
What are her motives for having routines for things? As a pisces, I feel like things need to be in order in my surroundings so I can be comfortable enough to think and meditate and just be in my head. Idk man some pisces are dramatic. I'm kind of mellow and tend to avoid conflict but the best way to handle a pisces who goes crazy is to just sit and listen to what they say, act like you understand, and do your own thing. Just be calm and rational with her. Crazy+crazy=chaos.
Pisces are just batshit crazy, and there's really no other way to put it. I'd get out of there sooner than later.
I have to do cleaning by a certain time, by a certain hour even. I had surgery and 2 days later she expected me to move a heavy ass vacuum she can't even move herself in perfect health up the stairs. She said "I didn't realize your half ass chores were that difficult. You did this to yourself, letting your appendix almost burst"
She is now given me a months notice. August 15th. My Aquarius roommate just got back in town yesterday, 2 months is easy to find a job but a month is tricky now she's freaking out. I can't afford to have my own place. The best scenario is to store my few furniture things in a friends garage and stay at my stepdads a few weeks. She will try to be ready before sept 15th (that's our move date) but will for sure be ready by then.
I go to Florida August 16-20th and school starts 25th. Fuuuuck. I hope my stepdad is okay with it...I'm sure I have friends who can help too
She is now given me a months notice. August 15th. My Aquarius roommate just got back in town yesterday, 2 months is easy to find a job but a month is tricky now she's freaking out. I can't afford to have my own place. The best scenario is to store my few furniture things in a friends garage and stay at my stepdads a few weeks. She will try to be ready before sept 15th (that's our move date) but will for sure be ready by then.
I go to Florida August 16-20th and school starts 25th. Fuuuuck. I hope my stepdad is okay with it...I'm sure I have friends who can help too
It wasn't until apparently I set her off after nothing in particular. She was giving me shit about coming home later than she goes to bed (at 8) and said with her husband not at home he doesn't like her to not set the alarm but I guess she will have to wait and she better not be murdered. I politely said, "I don't have to go by your schedule do I?" She goes, "nobody fucking said that! Rude! That was the last insensitive remark I will handle from you. You will be out by August 15th...and I go to Florida the 16th and start school the 25th?? Aqua isn't ready yet. Pisces was fine earlier today and got me a cupcake...
Why have you had so many roommates?
Btw, people be crazy. I hear so many insane roommate stories.
I haven't. My first roommates I lived with together, friend and her sister. Was 6 month lease and they wanted to live with their bfs. Last roommate lived with for 8 months, and he wanted to buy his own condo.
I had NEVER had issues like this before. I don't want to move around so often, people are unreliable. I hope to be with aqua at least a year and can afford own place after
I had NEVER had issues like this before. I don't want to move around so often, people are unreliable. I hope to be with aqua at least a year and can afford own place after
Now that she's only giving you a month, you can behave anyway you want.
Don't give a shit about cleaning her little rat hole, come home at 1 in the morning if wish, and if she bitches at you, laugh and tell her she doesn't own you, then walk away.
But don't go out of your way to cause trouble. Just don't accommodate her demands. Try to stay out the house as much as possible, get ur deposit back & then bounce.
Don't give a shit about cleaning her little rat hole, come home at 1 in the morning if wish, and if she bitches at you, laugh and tell her she doesn't own you, then walk away.
But don't go out of your way to cause trouble. Just don't accommodate her demands. Try to stay out the house as much as possible, get ur deposit back & then bounce.
I still have to clean.
Btw, she just texted me and said, "Your cupcake is on the stove."
WTF. Bipolar is the only thing that makes sense. If I'm such an awful person (according to her) how come I have so many people offering to let me stay with them briefly? Including those with 4 kids etc in their house
Btw, she just texted me and said, "Your cupcake is on the stove."
WTF. Bipolar is the only thing that makes sense. If I'm such an awful person (according to her) how come I have so many people offering to let me stay with them briefly? Including those with 4 kids etc in their house
Posted by tiki33
Why wait 4 months? Get the hell out of there if you can immediately.
4 month was back in may
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
I'm a Pisces with Aries moon.
Had similar experiences with libra moons. Those two moon signs just don't mesh.
She's probably not telling you what exactly but I would bet money on that she really liked you and that you did things that are insensitive to her and hurt her.
Opposite moons = totally different perceptions.
I don't believe you're as innocent in this mess as you give off to be but tbh it doesn't even matter.
Anyway it's best for both of you to just cut your losses. There's not much more to say than that. You're incompatible friends period.
I was wondering the same thing. I don't think she went off on the deep end for no reason. Something had to have been done that just pissed her off and she found the OP intolerable by her standards.
It's not right how she's treating her, but there's probably something that happened that just made the roommate just fed up and now she hounds her. No need to act like some naggy mother figure, though.
OP, do you consider yourself a considerate roommate? When you come home late, are you quiet and don't make a lot of noise? Why is it the roommate has all these problems suddenly?
Nvm, just reread it. If you guys butted heads as friends, living with someone can make them absolutely intolerable. There's a difference between how things are as friends and how things are when you share the same living space. It's a lot of room for people's tendencies to drive others crazy. It may be tolerable as friends because you don't have to live around it, but once you share a space, those tendencies become too much.
Well I do follow all of her rules. There are just some things I do that are inconsiderate in her eyes, that I don't even mean for it to be...or nobody else gets the impression like that. I am as peaceful as possible and very passive, I do not antagonize. And yes, I try to be as quiet as possible.,
It's the alarm that wakes her up because she has to set it. By me simply asking "do I need to follow your schedule?" She freaked out...that was the insensitive remark that broke the camels back. But how is that bad? She passively aggressively implied it. She's always the perfect one and allowed to call me out, but if I ever say anything either innocently or to just slightly defend myself, it's not allowed and I'm a horrible person.
She worked hard for everything but now she's spoiled herself and is on a high horse. I still care about her, but this is just redic. My Taurus and cancer friends were cool with her until she started slut shaming me TO them, and is upset if I say ANYTHING about her, but she would bitch about me on Facebook all day long (if other people know you are talking about...)
Once, I left ONE butter knife in the sink. One. A picture was taken, tagged me on Facebook, and posted. When we were friends on there.
I really try to be as considerate as possible but it seems the most innocuous things cause her to blow. I know it may be a big deal to her, but they really are small things that I am not intentionally doing and try so hard...but nothing is ever good enough.
I was also called co dependent and not an adult for allowing my own father to use how airline miles to get me a ticket to see him, after 5 years. Says I should have earned it myself., I'm 8 years younger, and double digits in between pay...I don't even have savings and I'm desperately trying to find a better job. If I don't do things exactly how she does, I'm a failure in life'. She will say things like "I really don't see how you get by in life with as little common sense as you have." These hurt! She has never apologized but I ALWAYS am. It's just not fair, I want balance...I just want to be civil. I am never mean to her and would NEVER say a thing like that.
It's the alarm that wakes her up because she has to set it. By me simply asking "do I need to follow your schedule?" She freaked out...that was the insensitive remark that broke the camels back. But how is that bad? She passively aggressively implied it. She's always the perfect one and allowed to call me out, but if I ever say anything either innocently or to just slightly defend myself, it's not allowed and I'm a horrible person.
She worked hard for everything but now she's spoiled herself and is on a high horse. I still care about her, but this is just redic. My Taurus and cancer friends were cool with her until she started slut shaming me TO them, and is upset if I say ANYTHING about her, but she would bitch about me on Facebook all day long (if other people know you are talking about...)
Once, I left ONE butter knife in the sink. One. A picture was taken, tagged me on Facebook, and posted. When we were friends on there.
I really try to be as considerate as possible but it seems the most innocuous things cause her to blow. I know it may be a big deal to her, but they really are small things that I am not intentionally doing and try so hard...but nothing is ever good enough.
I was also called co dependent and not an adult for allowing my own father to use how airline miles to get me a ticket to see him, after 5 years. Says I should have earned it myself., I'm 8 years younger, and double digits in between pay...I don't even have savings and I'm desperately trying to find a better job. If I don't do things exactly how she does, I'm a failure in life'. She will say things like "I really don't see how you get by in life with as little common sense as you have." These hurt! She has never apologized but I ALWAYS am. It's just not fair, I want balance...I just want to be civil. I am never mean to her and would NEVER say a thing like that.
She was always trying to fix me. I had horrible behavior flaws apparently that needed to be worked on and I even allowed her until it got too much. "Go to the doctor. Drink more water. Are you eating that before dinner? You owe them an apology. Etc etc"
If I made any improvement, it was her doing. But now that we aren't friends she says I'm reverting. If I'm such a bad person why do I have so many that care for me and 10-16 years? She says the ones I made from her will most Likley follow suit with her not my friend now (really?) and my longterm and own friends will just talk behind my back etc because obviously nobody likes me...
If I made any improvement, it was her doing. But now that we aren't friends she says I'm reverting. If I'm such a bad person why do I have so many that care for me and 10-16 years? She says the ones I made from her will most Likley follow suit with her not my friend now (really?) and my longterm and own friends will just talk behind my back etc because obviously nobody likes me...
Or for ex I was on my 15 min break and getting a kolache and she jokes about taking deliveries. I didn't offer because I didn't have the time and had to get back plus I only had enough for me. She says I should have asked and it's the thought and she didnt really want it, but if you really can't then why on earth would you offer...just hope they say no? "Hey do you want this? I can't give it to you but ill ask anyways" yet all the times I've gotten her sweets when I have $ 50 to my name are never remembered...
She can't understand how the Leo I'm seeing is so into me and can call me his gf after a short while and how I have so many ppl offering to help with the month I need somewhere to be until aqua is ready. Maybe it is the fire moon, mostly all my friends have everything but fire moons. I get along best with other air and earth moons. Earth moons have been good for me as far as longterm romantic
You seem to go through roommates just as fast as you do guys you think is - The One
So, with the amount of ex roommates and bf, at your age of 25 ... the logical assumption is that you're the problem
Don't be a bitch P angel. You can't judge, because you don't know the situation. It's different for everyone.
I had a 6 month lease for my first place, it wasn't my choice. My roommates were wanting to move out with their bfs after it was up, it happens all the time.
And my last roommate I was with for almost a year, he wanted to buy a condo.
This current situation is truly my only experience that has not worked. She even said to me, I'm not a bad roommate. We are just not compatible.
I'm not sure why you have to be so scathing and spiteful when you know nothing about the situation. I'm asking for advice on my CURRENT situation, not a vicious attack.
It's fairly common for younger people to move around. I lived with my mom and when she got divorced we had 3 different places in a short while, but of course that means she's the issue too then...by your deductions.
I had a 6 month lease for my first place, it wasn't my choice. My roommates were wanting to move out with their bfs after it was up, it happens all the time.
And my last roommate I was with for almost a year, he wanted to buy a condo.
This current situation is truly my only experience that has not worked. She even said to me, I'm not a bad roommate. We are just not compatible.
I'm not sure why you have to be so scathing and spiteful when you know nothing about the situation. I'm asking for advice on my CURRENT situation, not a vicious attack.
It's fairly common for younger people to move around. I lived with my mom and when she got divorced we had 3 different places in a short while, but of course that means she's the issue too then...by your deductions.
Have you ever just sat her down to confront her and ask her wtf is the problem? Hash that out and also tell her that your personal life is none of her business.
Posted by munchkin
Have you ever just sat her down to confront her and ask her wtf is the problem? Hash that out and also tell her that your personal life is none of her business.
That kind of approach doesn't work for her. She doesn't ever see he's irrationality, even though its text book sociopathic bipolar/borderline personality disorder. Everything I do is of extreme bother to her. She cares for me she says, but can't be my friend again unless I change pretty much everything about myself...yet what kind of friend says that? She says she hopes we can be friends again.
I have to be out by August 15th. I asked if I could store my stuff there (a few things) and she said only if I pay a full month of August rent, but she kindly won't charge me sept. so, $ 225 to store a few things that would leave room in a 5x5 storage unit for a month? I can pay $ 40 elsewhere...
In the same stream of texts, she goes between telling me what a horrible person I am and his grateful I should be for her help, to telling me new protein bar flavors and sending me pics...
I blame her diet too. She used to be heavy, now she's very thin. She would tell me I'm fine how I am and if I diet or count calories, I have an eating disorder. But she has binge cheat days and vacation where she easily gains 10 lbs in a week, and looses it all the next. The next few weeks until her vacation, she has very little carbs and does liquid detox...
Tell me how THAT is healthy
I blame her diet too. She used to be heavy, now she's very thin. She would tell me I'm fine how I am and if I diet or count calories, I have an eating disorder. But she has binge cheat days and vacation where she easily gains 10 lbs in a week, and looses it all the next. The next few weeks until her vacation, she has very little carbs and does liquid detox...
Tell me how THAT is healthy
Posted by Agentgem24
Well I do follow all of her rules. There are just some things I do that are inconsiderate in her eyes, that I don't even mean for it to be...or nobody else gets the impression like that.
You seem to be rather dismissive of her view on things here. Give examples of what you do that she sees as inconsiderate and you don't. The fact you're dismissing her here makes me curious.
"do I need to follow your schedule?" She freaked out...that was the insensitive remark that broke the camels back.
You don't see this question as coming off as snarky?
She's always the perfect one and allowed to call me out, but if I ever say anything either innocently or to just slightly defend myself, it's not allowed and I'm a horrible person.
Not sure about the females, but the males are so like this.
Once, I left ONE butter knife in the sink. One. A picture was taken, tagged me on Facebook, and posted. When we were friends on there.
If she's such a stickler for cleanliness, why would you leave that butter knife in the sink if you know she's not down for that shit?
I really try to be as considerate as possible but it seems the most innocuous things cause her to blow. I know it may be a big deal to her, but they really are small things that I am not intentionally doing and try so hard...but nothing is ever good enough.
Here you go again, dismissing her wants and needs because you see them as small and nothing. You do realize that all the small shit builds up to more, right? And lol at you contradicting yourself here. You point out she's all about keeping things clean, yet you leave a knife in the sink, and then turn around and claim to be a considerate individual.
She will say things like "I really don't see how you get by in life with as little common sense as you have."click to expand
Given what we've seen here with your flame of the week posts, I'm not surprised she made this comment.
Posted by Agentgem24
In the same stream of texts, she goes between telling me what a horrible person I am and his grateful I should be for her help, to telling me new protein bar flavors and sending me pics...
I blame her diet too. She used to be heavy, now she's very thin. She would tell me I'm fine how I am and if I diet or count calories, I have an eating disorder. But she has binge cheat days and vacation where she easily gains 10 lbs in a week, and looses it all the next. The next few weeks until her vacation, she has very little carbs and does liquid detox...
Tell me how THAT is healthy
This would explain the mood swings.
Well, the butter knife was a MISTAKE and I never did it again. Why would you post it and tag me on Facebook and publicly shame me?
I really try to understand the things I do that annoy her. She says she knows I don't do of purposely and often seem shocked, and I'm always apologetic if I do something that upsets her but nothing I do is good enough.
For ex: the thing about not offering to get her a treat when I didn't have the time on my break or the money. She just wanted me to offer but why would I offer if I couldn't deliver?
Or when I told her I would buy her cookies, it was a gift. I tried 2 days in a row and the bakery sold out. On the ordered day, something came up so I told her I'm sorry I tried 2 days in a row and were sold out, something came up today, and I got her EXTRA the next day. But that made me an awful person. Things come up! Plus, it was a gift and that was $ 15 out of the $ 50 I had to my name...
I really try to understand the things I do that annoy her. She says she knows I don't do of purposely and often seem shocked, and I'm always apologetic if I do something that upsets her but nothing I do is good enough.
For ex: the thing about not offering to get her a treat when I didn't have the time on my break or the money. She just wanted me to offer but why would I offer if I couldn't deliver?
Or when I told her I would buy her cookies, it was a gift. I tried 2 days in a row and the bakery sold out. On the ordered day, something came up so I told her I'm sorry I tried 2 days in a row and were sold out, something came up today, and I got her EXTRA the next day. But that made me an awful person. Things come up! Plus, it was a gift and that was $ 15 out of the $ 50 I had to my name...
Seriously? A fucking butter knife in the sink is that big a deal?
Antarctica is melting and the state of Florida will soon be underwater, people are dying of lung cancer from pollutants every day....
...but no. Let's freak the fuck out over a butter knife in the sink.
smfh
Antarctica is melting and the state of Florida will soon be underwater, people are dying of lung cancer from pollutants every day....
...but no. Let's freak the fuck out over a butter knife in the sink.
smfh
If you can't identify what it is that you do to annoy her around the house, and she's annoyed, chances are you're oblivious and inconsiderate without really thinking about it.
I went through that same shit with someone, which is why I asked. His bs got to the point where little, stupid shit was annoying as fuck. It blew my mind how oblivious he was to everything around him until it was pointed out. Hell, just the fact he was inconsiderate without being aware pissed me off. People like that are so freaking self absorbed, it's disgusting. Open your eyes!
Also, I'm not understanding what "treats" and cookies have to do with what you do around the house. If those are the only examples that you can think of, then it's kind of moot point since it doesn't have to do with living arrangements. However, her being ungrateful is bs. Though I do have to ask, why did you promise to get her cookies if you couldn't afford it? You offered, then are turning around to complain about how you only had 50 bucks to your name. Either don't do it because you cannot afford it, or if you want to, don't complain about how you're too broke to do so, making yourself some selfless martyr.
And I agree, her going Facebook over a stupid knife is ridiculous. Not justifying her actions, but if you have a tendency of leaving shit out like that and she caught that, someone like her would go awol over it. Dumb, but it's not surprising of someone who's fed up over a situation. Regardless, still not cool.
I went through that same shit with someone, which is why I asked. His bs got to the point where little, stupid shit was annoying as fuck. It blew my mind how oblivious he was to everything around him until it was pointed out. Hell, just the fact he was inconsiderate without being aware pissed me off. People like that are so freaking self absorbed, it's disgusting. Open your eyes!
Also, I'm not understanding what "treats" and cookies have to do with what you do around the house. If those are the only examples that you can think of, then it's kind of moot point since it doesn't have to do with living arrangements. However, her being ungrateful is bs. Though I do have to ask, why did you promise to get her cookies if you couldn't afford it? You offered, then are turning around to complain about how you only had 50 bucks to your name. Either don't do it because you cannot afford it, or if you want to, don't complain about how you're too broke to do so, making yourself some selfless martyr.
And I agree, her going Facebook over a stupid knife is ridiculous. Not justifying her actions, but if you have a tendency of leaving shit out like that and she caught that, someone like her would go awol over it. Dumb, but it's not surprising of someone who's fed up over a situation. Regardless, still not cool.
Pisces and I have agreed to talk it out. We are waiting for her Aqua husband to get back in town tues and we will have a meeting. She says she really doesn't want to kick me out and does care about me...for instance yesterday, she says she really liked me. There are just things I say or do that really strike her as rude. I don't know what goes on behind the curtain but she explained something to me that before without full detail, I couldn't understand why she was so upset. But after hearing her explain, it makes sense.
We had agreed on a year, feb to feb. there was no written agreement etc and they don't need the money. But there was so much tension I thought it would be better to leave, plus if I didn't move with my soon to be roomie in sept then I wouldn't be able to in feb, and I would have nobody. Her word was important. Yes I gave her 4 months notice and she admitted she wanted me gone so I really couldn't see the issue. But then she said her husband actually tried to get her to go back on her word and she said no its important to her. Yet I just up and decided I can leave because it works for me. She told her own husband no. And on the month I made the decision, he was going to have me leave end of that month and she said no. They spent weeks organizing things for me and they saw it as me running off when something better for me came along and only thinking of myself which I totally get now
We had agreed on a year, feb to feb. there was no written agreement etc and they don't need the money. But there was so much tension I thought it would be better to leave, plus if I didn't move with my soon to be roomie in sept then I wouldn't be able to in feb, and I would have nobody. Her word was important. Yes I gave her 4 months notice and she admitted she wanted me gone so I really couldn't see the issue. But then she said her husband actually tried to get her to go back on her word and she said no its important to her. Yet I just up and decided I can leave because it works for me. She told her own husband no. And on the month I made the decision, he was going to have me leave end of that month and she said no. They spent weeks organizing things for me and they saw it as me running off when something better for me came along and only thinking of myself which I totally get now
Posted by Arielle83
She's older and married...she might have more responsibilities going on, and because of that she has become sensitive in how others use up her time. I get the short fuse if she's under pressure. You're the outsider in her house. You're the one who can come and go, but maybe she's envious of something. Maybe the fact that you don't have her responsibilities, so because of that little things get at her. The butterknife probably represents a lot more than just a butterknife. She prob cleans the place and wants it all neat and the fact that you couldn't sort a simple butterknife out means a lot to her. This might be how she sees it.
The alarm thing would piss me right off if I was sleeping and had to wake up early. Some people have sleep issues and the fact that you came home at whatever time and woke her up or whatever it is that happened would totally aggravate her and of course the stress would pile up.
I just think she's in a different realm than you. And she feels you don't get it. Pisces can be very independent, so her snide remark about your dad giving you his points to visit him was more like a "can't you be independent?" kinda thing. She probably thinks you're old enough to cut the strings. Maybe it was rude, but it was just her reaction, and the reaction probably had animosity behind it due to whats going on in the house.
+1
This would make a lot of sense. In the past, OP, you've come across not so independent in your own thinking, either. You're always latching on to what others think/want from you and you don't really show much independence there. Same with the guys you seem to go through so often.
You come here, wanting validation about your moo eyes over some Leo. Your past posts about your flame of the week revealed that you're more concerned about what your friends/family have to think about what you do than what you actually feel about it. You seem to want to base your views/feelings on what others think and as long as they match, you're good. No independent thinking or feeling has been relayed much.
This is not something an independent, mature individual does.
Hopefully sitting down with them may open your eyes a bit with some of these issues you're not aware of. It seems as if there's a major disconnect.
Things are "not looking good for me" with staying, after Pisces found ONE piece of mail and some ear buds on the dining room table on cleaning day. The principal was, "she had to clean up after me." Yet you know what I do when I'm cleaning and someone else's stuff is out? I move it! There have been a few times where I have thrown away the sprite bottles/water bottles Aqua has left out and jolly rancher trash...I never said anything
I also got yelled at for not cleaning the door knobs during my bathroom cleaning duties. Yet it was never a pre requisite
I also got yelled at for not cleaning the door knobs during my bathroom cleaning duties. Yet it was never a pre requisite
What the hell is that ^^^^^^^^^
It reminds of me a child having a fit because mommy told her to clean up after herself, and keep her room clean.
You're 25 years old .... why are you having to be told to clean up after yourself? And furthermore, why are you coming here to have a tantrum about not liking your adult responsibilities?
The more you post ... the more it becomes evident to me that you're delusional.
Aren't you the person who has this fantasy of being in the secret service, or some such shit? ... and the truth is, you cannot even manage to handle the menial chores of life. Everybody has to take care of tasks - here you are bitching about it, like a child.
Pay your rent - keep your shit clean - obey house rules ..... and stfu with your bitching about it
Posted by Agentgem24
Things are "not looking good for me" with staying, after Pisces found ONE piece of mail and some ear buds on the dining room table on cleaning day. The principal was, "she had to clean up after me." Yet you know what I do when I'm cleaning and someone else's stuff is out? I move it! There have been a few times where I have thrown away the sprite bottles/water bottles Aqua has left out and jolly rancher trash...I never said anything
I also got yelled at for not cleaning the door knobs during my bathroom cleaning duties. Yet it was never a pre requisite
What was her upbringing like? Was she always an extreme neat freak? Just wondering how a Pisces can be such a neatnik. 😛
Does she ever yell at her Aqua for being messy, or does she baby him and only yell at you?
The pisces sounds like a bitch & is probably more so because it sounds like you don't know how to stand up for yourself. You pay rent. Whether she needs the money or not is not important, she should talk with you with some respect. IDK how you tolerated being treated like this, I'd have gone insane. Who does she think she is?
Why can't you stay with your mom or relatives?
Why can't you stay with your mom or relatives?
The vibe I'm starting to pick up from what you've shared is that it's her place and she wants you to do x,y,z, except that you're only doing x and y, and flaking out on z, which is driving her nuts.
Again, I have to ask, if you know she's such a neat freak, why are you leaving shit around like that? And I see you're continuing to belittle her wants/needs, as extreme as you play them out to be. Why are you doing that? Did you not learn all the other times she freaked out at you?
It seems as if she's a neat freak and you're just provoking some bs by doing all this little dumb, inconsiderate stuff, and it's just making the entire situation crappy.
Again, I have to ask, if you know she's such a neat freak, why are you leaving shit around like that? And I see you're continuing to belittle her wants/needs, as extreme as you play them out to be. Why are you doing that? Did you not learn all the other times she freaked out at you?
It seems as if she's a neat freak and you're just provoking some bs by doing all this little dumb, inconsiderate stuff, and it's just making the entire situation crappy.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
The vibe I'm starting to pick up from what you've shared is that it's her place and she wants you to do x,y,z, except that you're only doing x and y, and flaking out on z, which is driving her nuts.
Again, I have to ask, if you know she's such a neat freak, why are you leaving shit around like that? And I see you're continuing to belittle her wants/needs, as extreme as you play them out to be. Why are you doing that? Did you not learn all the other times she freaked out at you?
It seems as if she's a neat freak and you're just provoking some bs by doing all this little dumb, inconsiderate stuff, and it's just making the entire situation crappy.
Idk. Everyone should be reasonably considerate regardless, but no way should she have to accommodate her flatmate's psychoses.
I once had a roommate who violently freaked out on me if I wore my favorite red scarf because it apparently "stimulated the voices". (I wish I was making this up, smh). Fuck her, it was winter. I was considerate enough to not tease and taunt and wave it around on purpose, but I'm damn sure going to wear it when it's below freezing out.
If people are that certified, they belong in an asylum, on meds, or alone. Not living with roommates and subjecting them to unreasonable demands.
Posted by munchkin
Idk. Everyone should be reasonably considerate regardless, but no way should she have to accommodate her flatmate's psychoses.
I once had a roommate who violently freaked out on me if I wore my favorite red scarf because it apparently "stimulated the voices". (I wish I was making this up, smh). Fuck her, it was winter. I was considerate enough to not tease and taunt and wave it around on purpose, but I'm damn sure going to wear it when it's below freezing out.
If people are that certified, they belong in an asylum, on meds, or alone. Not living with roommates and subjecting them to unreasonable demands.
I'm not condoning the crazy reactions, as the OP is portraying it, but given all the bits she's given us, I can't help but think that she's very much part of the problem, but is absolving herself of it under the guise of her roommate being crazy.
As P has pointed out, she sounds a bit like some teenage girl whining about having to clean up after herself. She's been asked to keep things tidy, and then she comes here, pouting about how she ONLY left a knife out. How it was just ONE piece of mail and some ear buds. GAWD IT'S NOT EVEN THAT MUCH!! WHY IS SHE SO ANNOYED WITH ME, IT'S NO BIG DEAL. UUUGH!!!
Should the roommate be all crazy control freak? No. But if it's known that this shit is her pet peeve, why do it? And if you know she's so crazy about it, why "accidentally" do it? Wouldn't one be a little conscious about doing that crap? Just sayin'. It's not making the situation any better for either of them.
Like I said, I dealt with someone like that once. It wasn't long before all the dumb little shit just annoyed the shit out of me. They couldn't even practice common sense. It gets old getting after an adult about not doing something that you asked them to do. What are they, 12 and need to be reminded?
As for the roommate, it sounds like she's OCD. Who the hell worries about doorknobs like that? :/
Yeah...her upbringing was strict on herself. She didnt have much growing up and her mom wasn't much of one, she was paying rent to her mom from age 15 and her mom mooches off of her now. She's always bend OCD and anal. Her aqua husband was raised similar, and was in the military for 11 years. He and Pisces have a great marriage and have been together 12 years without much difficulty, they are on the same wave length. I thought aqua wanted me out before because he didnt like me, but he does like me...he just didnt want me to stress Pisces out. He actually sent me an out of line message yesterday asking about the Leo I'm seeing who is his friend. Neither of us have much money, but he surprised me with a nice dinner...I was shocked and offered to help pay and he said no, wouldn't let me. Aqua leaves message, "I sure hope you aren't making that poor boy pay for all of those expensive ass dinners himself." I mean, is it his business?
I don't do these things on purpose, but I will need to walk on egg shells from now until mid September. She says I can stay, but she doesn't want do be pissed off or tell me things twice. If she does, the August 15th move out date stays no matter when it is. And if its after that? I have 48 hours to get out.
I will have to be EXTRA careful. She says imagine how it is with her best friend (our mutual friend,) another Pisces and how sensitive she is...and multiply that by 100 until I move.,
I don't do these things on purpose, but I will need to walk on egg shells from now until mid September. She says I can stay, but she doesn't want do be pissed off or tell me things twice. If she does, the August 15th move out date stays no matter when it is. And if its after that? I have 48 hours to get out.
I will have to be EXTRA careful. She says imagine how it is with her best friend (our mutual friend,) another Pisces and how sensitive she is...and multiply that by 100 until I move.,
I had no idea it would be this bad when we moved in together. Her behavior was not to this scale when we were just friends.
Doesn't matter if you do them on purpose or not. It's the fact that you do it.
Why do people think that if something isn't intentional, it's a pass for it to be okay? Get over that mindset. It's immature.
Why do people think that if something isn't intentional, it's a pass for it to be okay? Get over that mindset. It's immature.
I never said people should get over it. I'm just saying that in trying extra hard but it seems like every little thing no matter what upsets her
considering you have an excuse for every point brought to your attention ... it's likely that you are the roommate from hell.
But if you're trying extra hard, why are you leaving things out?
P angel, kindly fuck off. Nothing you've said is in the slightest bit polite or constructive.
And no, I'm not...my other roommates would live with me again, my first roomie would have me as her first choice if she and her bf broke up. A Leo. And my Taurus guy roomie would have me too if he didnt want his bachelor pad, he offered me a place to stay if I was kicked out.
Pisces said I'm not a bad roomie. It's just her extreme OCD and her house
And no, I'm not...my other roommates would live with me again, my first roomie would have me as her first choice if she and her bf broke up. A Leo. And my Taurus guy roomie would have me too if he didnt want his bachelor pad, he offered me a place to stay if I was kicked out.
Pisces said I'm not a bad roomie. It's just her extreme OCD and her house
It just sounds like an extreme case of the Odd Couple, really.
ff..
Posted by Agentgem24
I'm very easy going and compromising.
..let's change that to..
Posted by Agentgem24
I'm v??e??r??y?? ??e??a??s??y?? ??g??o??i??n??g?? ??a??n??d?? ??c??o??m??p??r??o??m??i??s??i??n??g?? passive aggressive as fuck.click to expand
There is no way you addressed half the shit you talk about in this topic. And if you did, I'm sure it was done in a snarky way..since you're too easy going to handle any type of conflict.
You basically describe yourself as a doormat in your relations with people..all your topics about men you dated and every time people asked you if you ever address any concerns with them..you don't. Friends have to fight your battles for you.
Without going into Aries Moon - Libra Moon clusterfuck of misunderstanding...I will admit some Aries Moon bitches be cray..like Wynter's roommate.
But your propensity to victimize yourself is..hilarious. You describe yourself as an easy going person and then proceed to bitch. She probably walks all over you and instead of putting her in her place, you talk about her on here at great lengths.
People who enjoy being walked on get walked on constantly. You need to address that with yourself. It isn't fair but it's how life is.
There's also a strong element of fantasy to this story..which only propels the martyrdom further.
Anyway, over and out. At the end of the day, it's the small habits that break people who live together. If yours don't mesh..walk away and don't look back. Nothing more to do there, nothing to over think. If she's how you claim her to be..count your blessings the day you get out of there.
Wynter's workmate*
It would be really funny if that chick was her roommate though 😆
It would be really funny if that chick was her roommate though 😆
I'm not a "push over" for anyone except her really. If I try to fight back, she will be even more upset. Plus I don't want to get kicked out
I always address any issue I have with a guy, especially one I'm dating. I've told her how I feel and pretty much "it's her house" so whatever she says go. A lot of pot and kettle.
I think it's funny that you dodged answering some of the questions asked here.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
Do most Aquarius men except you to run behind them?
Aquarius man broke up with me because I had an insane jealous attack. Instead of calmly telling him I did not like what
Go ahead and post your selfies or celebrities men/woman of an aquarian descent sun preferably!!!
Aquarius men: what are they like in relationships? I've never actually known an Aquarius male in my life except for one.
Hey everyone. I'm driving myself crazy, I don't understand what is wrong with me. Essentially, an aquarius guy I used to
i really need your help, i'm going mad as i don't understand this aqua man! i'm a capricorn who dated an aquarius fo
What the hell is up with you and celebrating birthdays? How hard is it to buy someone a card, write a thoughtful message
So i was dating this Aqua guy and we'd gone out a few times and it had been great, we'd made out a few times, he told me
So I've been a FWB since about October 2013 with this gorgeous single father Aqua. At first I was sure it was just a sex
So I've come to realize my Aqua man is very insecure. He always puts on the front as though he is not insecure at all. H
Hey everyone. Im hoping some of you can shed some light on this situation. Ill try to keep it as short as possible! :)
Do Aquas avoid someone they care about if they feel that they have disappointed them? My Aqua friend forgot my birthda
I have read so many posts that say they do this when they like you...and mine is again. If any of you have had experi
He said he cares a lot about me. I told him that he can not love and it hurts that he only wanted to be my friend. He
I really need help.. My aquarius man is a friendly man to anybody. That's the reason why everybody loves him. Especia
Help...please I'm not sure what to do or what's going on with my Aqua man so let me explain and see if y'all can help
I have been seeing this aquarius man for 2 years now. I am cancer. He asked me if I love him. I told him yes. I asked
I've recently been out with this great Aqua guy. We met on a dating website and spoke constantly, daily, for a month bef
This is a cute article that seems to nail it on dating aquarius men. Thought I'd post it and see what kind of discussion
Hi! I'm new here :) just reading online posts about gemini and aquarius online and saw this site. I just wanted to sh
She's Pisces sun, Aries Rising, Aries moon.
She is redic with everything being done a certain way...we could be getting along well, then she will blow up over the smallest thing and freak out. I can't ever win. Please help me keep my sanity until I move out mid September with my very easy going, sweet Aquarius friend/new roommate.
An ex of crazy: I had said I would stay a year until feb. they don't need the money AT ALL. I signed nothing. I feel so much tension and she kept saying she would be better off without me and I could leave every time. She's 8 years older but deleted me so she could bitch about me on Facebook. I told her 4 months in advance I would be moving mid sept but if she needed me to stay I would. She blew up and said she's glad I'm glad I'm leaving but mad I "broke the agreement," but am giving a 4 month notice because they will be better off and I can't handle it. WTF.
Help?!! Some tips, please. It seems like everything I do pisses her off. She told me that. And I'm always super nice and never rude.