Leo n love w/ a cancer

I am a leo woman and I have been spending time w/ this cancer man that I have fell in love w/. But the problem is that I no longer feel he feels the same way. He give me mixed signals and one min I am his girl the next I am his best friend and then I am his good friend. He is no longer affectionate but still calls me every day and we talk all day. I really like him but I don't want to get hurt because my feelings are involved?. What should I do?

But the problem is that I no longer feel he feels the same way.

what way?? You guys aren't exactly exclusive right? I think he is just treating you as a friend, have you told him how you felt?

We are not excusive neither one of us has said how we really felt about each other ( directly) but he would mention it in a song or lets me know how blessed he feel that I am in his life. We have had sex and we were cool but I am a leo I am a show me person I really don't do well with telling him how I feel about him and I know I should but I am afraid of rejection. I don't want to feel as if I am in a relationship and I am not. And recently I told him how I wanted to have sex he told me he was practicing abstinence I was like WOW when were you going to tell me ?. He said that he was waiting for me to bring it up. I am so confused!

Whoa that sounds touchy. I don't know if he's really abstinent, because I know if you try hard enough people won't resist. That is a cancer shut down. He's getting distant because he realizes that you like him. Cancers are sensitive to this. I always know when someone is interested. But didn't you say that you guys already screwed? If that's so, what ever you do, DON'T PROD HIM! You will only make him shy even further, you are already at arms length and is trying to tell you with out hurting your feelings that he's not that serious. There is a large difference in lust and love and he should have the ability to separate it in order to protect his heart. Leave it alone, play it safe and let him come around on his own term.

thank you everyone for your help ....

I am confused. You had sex and now he is abstinet?

"this cancer man that I have fell in love w/"



It appears to me that every man a woman has feelings for, she thinks she is in love with him .... even if nothing is there to base it on.



she just feels "something" and this equates to being in love in her eyes.


I especially enjoy reading when women say things like, "I've met my soulmate a couple times but it didn't work out"

"There is a large difference in lust and love and he should have the ability to separate it in order to protect his heart."



What the fuck are you talking about, Stormy ^^^^^^^^


she's the one who said ... "I have fell in love w/" ..... AND he doesn't want sex from her .... so, how exactly is he confused with the difference of love and lust, when he hasn't expressed either one to her.


While she is the one who thinks she's in love with him, and has apparantly expressed this to him even if she hasn't voiced it with precise words.


Protect his heart? From what? They aren't in a partnership, they are in a casual relatinship, and suddenly once she realizes she has feelings for him, he backs off a tad ... doesn't logic then dictate to you that she has made this known to him, that he is aware that she is confused about what she is feeling .. if she would be in love with a guy to whom she isn't even a partner of?

He doesn't want the love, nor the sex ... so how in the hell have you reasoned out that this man is confused about the difference between love and lust?

They were having sex, and since she has realization that she's feeling something for him ... he has now decided he is practicing abstinence .. which equates to = he isn't loving her, nor lusting after her ..

.... she was just an opportunity for him to get a nut, and he will continue to keep in contact with her, telling her sweet things to keep her legs open.

Isn't that obvious?


I mean, he doesn't want to have sex with her anylonger .....



And this is no bells ringing in her ears, or any lights flashing at all ...... the only thing she can be aware of is that she is feeling (((( something )))) for him, and cannot understand why he doesn't, because she's blind.

People do realize that men aren't female, right?



He should protect his heart in this scenerio?



wtf?

Posted by little_sparrow
I am confused. You had sex and now he is abstinet?

Must have been some bad pussy.

Cancer men when they like you will not be direct about their feelings right away. They will hint it here and there (like the reference of the song). When they start having feelings for you, they will run away from you for several days. Call once in a while to check up on you and go hide to ponder if they should or shouldn't be with you or have feelings for you. That's their mechanism. My Cancer took two months two have sex with and five months for him to come to a final decision. Of course with me putting my foot down. I noticed he would tell me directly and expressively a month before he made his decision how much he cares for me and appreciate me and blah, blah..

They will leave you confused sometimes. Just give him sometime and let the relationship flourish on it's own. Try to balance your feelings a little more so you don't end up hurting yourself.

"They will leave you confused sometimes. Just give him sometime and let the relationship flourish on it's own. Try to balance your feelings a little more so you don't end up hurting yourself." - this is brilliant advice for any sign.