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People are never happy with what they have.
If your hair was auburn, you'd be unhappy .... if your boyfriend wanted to practice making babies 3 times a day, you'd be unhappy .... if you wanted chinese and he wanted mexican, you'd be unhappy ....
...... nature of the beast !!!!
Why not try changing your persepective, rather than relishing in your misery?
Sex is nothing in the whole scheme of things .. so long as you put so much value in it, you will continue to fail in relationships where your true desires are mental and emotional, which btw ... you are equating them in being the same, and they are not.
You want a better mental/emotional connection by your description .. and calling it sex.
If your hair was auburn, you'd be unhappy .... if your boyfriend wanted to practice making babies 3 times a day, you'd be unhappy .... if you wanted chinese and he wanted mexican, you'd be unhappy ....
...... nature of the beast !!!!
Why not try changing your persepective, rather than relishing in your misery?
Sex is nothing in the whole scheme of things .. so long as you put so much value in it, you will continue to fail in relationships where your true desires are mental and emotional, which btw ... you are equating them in being the same, and they are not.
You want a better mental/emotional connection by your description .. and calling it sex.
Perhaps, I wasn't clear enough in what I was saying.
You said you have 4 main ingrediants ... physical, mental, emotional and spiritual
You said, "The pisces fulfills the physical, partly the emotional but really not the other two."
You said, "my need for deep emotions and spiritual fulfillment is not met."
And you are equating your lack of emotional and spiritual fulfillment as a being bad sex .. and what I was saying is that sex is not the problem, you are making it the problem. The problem is that you aren't being emotionally and spiritually fulfilled.
Again, what you need to do is change your perspective, then all of this will become clear to you. He's a guy, sex is sex .... to him, sex isn't attached to his feelings.
You say that it is emotional and spiritual fulfillment that you are lacking, and then attempting to say that it's because the sex isn't good enough to fulfill that because ...
You said, "I need to be stimulated on a mental and emotional level which my pisces doesn't seem to understand. I've talked to him about it over and over again but he doesn't seem to get it."
That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ isn't sex. You are trying to get him to comprehend something that isn't connected, and can't figure out why. I know why, because sex isn't emotinally connected to men.
Perhaps, what you need is to have a female partner .. she would get it.
You said you have 4 main ingrediants ... physical, mental, emotional and spiritual
You said, "The pisces fulfills the physical, partly the emotional but really not the other two."
You said, "my need for deep emotions and spiritual fulfillment is not met."
And you are equating your lack of emotional and spiritual fulfillment as a being bad sex .. and what I was saying is that sex is not the problem, you are making it the problem. The problem is that you aren't being emotionally and spiritually fulfilled.
Again, what you need to do is change your perspective, then all of this will become clear to you. He's a guy, sex is sex .... to him, sex isn't attached to his feelings.
You say that it is emotional and spiritual fulfillment that you are lacking, and then attempting to say that it's because the sex isn't good enough to fulfill that because ...
You said, "I need to be stimulated on a mental and emotional level which my pisces doesn't seem to understand. I've talked to him about it over and over again but he doesn't seem to get it."
That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ isn't sex. You are trying to get him to comprehend something that isn't connected, and can't figure out why. I know why, because sex isn't emotinally connected to men.
Perhaps, what you need is to have a female partner .. she would get it.
If it makes you feel any better, or at least, like you're not alone ... I don't have sex in my relationship neither.
wow
maybe you should stop looking for counselors on the back of matchbook covers?
maybe you should stop looking for counselors on the back of matchbook covers?
Posted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by 69virgoPosted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by madophelia
Hello Dxpnet 🙂
I have been in a long and steady relationship with a pisces for about 7 years now. We get along perfectly on all levels except sexually. I need to be stimulated on a mental and emotional level which my pisces doesn't seem to understand. I've talked to him about it over and over again but he doesn't seem to get it. We have been going without sex for over half a year now, mainly because I can't get myself to continue this as a purely physical act. I proposed for us to go to a counselor but he refuses, he told me I need to see one since it's me who is having the problem. Apparently he is happy with the sex. So I went to one by myself.
I don't quite understand.. do you mean your Pisces bf is ok with going without sex for over half a year because you don't want to? Are you sure he's not getting his sexual needs met elsewhere just like you're getting your emotional needs met by the Virgo?
Good question lil girl...you just growing into a fine young woman...😉
Why thank you.. I'm trying 😉 lolclick to expand
Were you so taken by a compliment that you failed to realize he is treating you like a child?
::: shakes head :::
I actually understand where you are coming from, madophelia.
You cannot become aroused unless you're stimulated on emotional, mental and spiritual levels, as well as the physical .. and he is only willing to attempt to get you aroused through the physical. When you said he fulfilled your physical needs, you meant .. he knows how to do you physically, he knows how to perform ...... but, the pure physical part of the whole sexual experience isn't enough to get you stimulated enough to be aroused. So, you cannot have sex with him if he isn't arousing you.
I get that ...
A counselor that tells you to cheat isn't the answer.
You cannot become aroused unless you're stimulated on emotional, mental and spiritual levels, as well as the physical .. and he is only willing to attempt to get you aroused through the physical. When you said he fulfilled your physical needs, you meant .. he knows how to do you physically, he knows how to perform ...... but, the pure physical part of the whole sexual experience isn't enough to get you stimulated enough to be aroused. So, you cannot have sex with him if he isn't arousing you.
I get that ...
A counselor that tells you to cheat isn't the answer.
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