dmyers
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ok...i don't get it
unless she presented herself as the uber lovey-dovey, mushy type from the beginning, then, i would say there's a fair chance she's harboring romantic feelings for you as well.
music is an especially essential and integral part of my life and my being. it holds special meaning for me so i would definitely not send a man who was just a friend a love song. the only time i might do that is if i truly just wanted to share my love for a piece with my friend. even then i would most likely share it with all of my friends.
the biggest indicator is when she started off with,"I have something to confess..." then followed up with a link to a love song. yeah, that's pretty straight-forward to me. the silliness begins when you don't acknowledge this move. you chose to keep things light-hearted instead of calling her out. she probably took you discussing the song, and not her intent, to mean that you guys weren't vibing on the same wavelength. almost like a minor form of rejection. so, yeah, when you confront her later she brushes it off nonchalantly as a means to save face.
i don't know, though. it could be anything really. if she knows you like her then there could be a million more reasons.
music is an especially essential and integral part of my life and my being. it holds special meaning for me so i would definitely not send a man who was just a friend a love song. the only time i might do that is if i truly just wanted to share my love for a piece with my friend. even then i would most likely share it with all of my friends.
the biggest indicator is when she started off with,"I have something to confess..." then followed up with a link to a love song. yeah, that's pretty straight-forward to me. the silliness begins when you don't acknowledge this move. you chose to keep things light-hearted instead of calling her out. she probably took you discussing the song, and not her intent, to mean that you guys weren't vibing on the same wavelength. almost like a minor form of rejection. so, yeah, when you confront her later she brushes it off nonchalantly as a means to save face.
i don't know, though. it could be anything really. if she knows you like her then there could be a million more reasons.
Posted by ninjamu
the biggest indicator is when she started off with,"I have something to confess..." then followed up with a link to a love song. yeah, that's pretty straight-forward to me. the silliness begins when you don't acknowledge this move. you chose to keep things light-hearted instead of calling her out. she probably took you discussing the song, and not her intent, to mean that you guys weren't vibing on the same wavelength. almost like a minor form of rejection. so, yeah, when you confront her later she brushes it off nonchalantly as a means to save face.
I think that sums it up exactly.
Yes. I thought the same re: my lighthearted response.
And I am the same, I wouldn't lightly "suggest" anything that may be misconstrued as being more.
And we're good friends enought that I think she's the same.
She's definitely not the same with other guys when we're out in a group.
The reason I kept it lighthearted is because in the past,
when I tried to mildly push the conversation outside of friendly banter,
she's pulled away.
Hence, the title of the post: I don't get it.
And I still don't get it.
😢
And I am the same, I wouldn't lightly "suggest" anything that may be misconstrued as being more.
And we're good friends enought that I think she's the same.
She's definitely not the same with other guys when we're out in a group.
The reason I kept it lighthearted is because in the past,
when I tried to mildly push the conversation outside of friendly banter,
she's pulled away.
Hence, the title of the post: I don't get it.
And I still don't get it.
😢
Posted by dmyers
there's this good friend, we've flirted before, she knows i like her, and i know she LIKED me...
we've gone out once before...then just as friends with others since.
recently, i find an e-mail from her with an attached video clip of a love song.
the later on...we were just chatting away on IM...
she says "i have something to confess..."
she sends me a link to another love song.
to keep things lighthearted, i talk about the link and the song and other references to it.
later that afternoon...i decide to ask her about the things she sent me.
and as expected, she brushes them off lightheartedly.
so...a couple of days later, i make a move and ask her out for the following week.
she was busy so that was pushed back to this week - i know that she was actually busy because we have common friends.
so this week, i'll be asking her out on a date again to test if there is anything past friendship.
my question is...
is there any meaning to girls sending love songs to guys.
keep in mind that the girl knows that the guy likes her
but they are not in a relationship.
also, that they are good friends.
If I did that then yes,I'm trying to tell you something.
Send her one back. 😉
Posted by virgodreamzPosted by ninjamu
the biggest indicator is when she started off with,"I have something to confess..." then followed up with a link to a love song. yeah, that's pretty straight-forward to me. the silliness begins when you don't acknowledge this move. you chose to keep things light-hearted instead of calling her out. she probably took you discussing the song, and not her intent, to mean that you guys weren't vibing on the same wavelength. almost like a minor form of rejection. so, yeah, when you confront her later she brushes it off nonchalantly as a means to save face.
I think that sums it up exactly.click to expand
Agreed.
Send her one back.😛
Say "I have something to confess too" though,so she understands and doesn't think you're just sharing fav music. 😛
Definitely sounds like she is communicating that she is interested. The "I have a confession to make" statement before she sends you song is strong indicator as Bella mentioned.
I also agree with CappyLuv30 about sending her one in response b/c she may really love that. I know that happened to me with a guy I was talking to and I sent one back and he was so excited about it!
Go for it!!!!
😉
I also agree with CappyLuv30 about sending her one in response b/c she may really love that. I know that happened to me with a guy I was talking to and I sent one back and he was so excited about it!
Go for it!!!!
😉
thx, all!
i did send her a "i have a secret also..." e-mail a day after.
her reply was "kind" and "safe".
unfortunately, because of timings...i've not been able to take her out.
so it's only been on-line chatter.
she did ask me to play sports at the beach with her friends - but i can't really count that as a date.
i'll be able to feel whether she has feelings for me other than as a friend.
and seeing her with her group (instead of our common group) is kind-of nice in itself.
my worry is that i get quite competitive in sports. 😛
i did send her a "i have a secret also..." e-mail a day after.
her reply was "kind" and "safe".
unfortunately, because of timings...i've not been able to take her out.
so it's only been on-line chatter.
she did ask me to play sports at the beach with her friends - but i can't really count that as a date.
i'll be able to feel whether she has feelings for me other than as a friend.
and seeing her with her group (instead of our common group) is kind-of nice in itself.
my worry is that i get quite competitive in sports. 😛
If it's a love song it's totally dedicated to you,she likes you for sure very plain as day hunny .
Posted by BelovedAssata
Is she a libra?
nope. but i am. probs why im reading more into this.
...It's so beyond corny...and given by her response when you asked her out, and she brushed it off...i'd think she was just playing.
heheh. it is quite corny. but its quite acceptable because i think were just comfortable with things like that.
she was busy and so she suggested next week. that is this week.
but i got busy and told her so. and so she asked me out with her friends.
and i think pulling away a little (as ive described in my first post) when confronted with "big things" is normal at this point.
...I tend 'play-flirt'...
i do the same.
it makes my day a little bit better than normal.
but her statement surprised me. especially coz it was immediately after the e-mail.
e-mailing in itself was significant. she knew ill be on IM. couldnt it wait?
i think, if i didnt get that statement in IM, i would have brushed off the whole deal as innocent flirting.
...I wouldn't be surprised if you tell her and she's shocked that you actually had feelings for her...and just calmly shrug it off..and act like it never happened...I promise you, she will be seeing you differently.click to expand
thats probably true and what i expect.
but she knows i like her.
ive said and done "playful" things (while still keeping it "safe") that would have showed my feelings.
and ive passed that awkward moment. i wasnt expressing my true feelings but it showed.
we were both uncomfortable after.
sooo...maybe she is just being friendly and is just comfortable around me to say things like that.
anyway...ill get a better understanding of what this is when i see her in 3 days time.
Posted by Sultanaa
... when it comes to libra and love... its a bunch of contradictions and a ton of confusion 😛...
she's not libran. i am.
so this is what she thinks of me?
keeping me at arms length because i'm confusing her?
i doubt this is sign-specific.
anyone doesn't matter their sign will act/play this tug-of-war.
QLibraMale: agreed about the time working itself out.
i've actually given this a lot of time. my posts suggests that, i think.
but there is a point where you have to do something.
either accept it as it is or try to move forward from where its at.
until i actually see her (so that i can see/feel/hear her attitude),
i can't know for sure either way.
cheers guys! AND surfs up!!!
Dude, she's shy! She confessed her interest by sending you a love song- do you need a board upside the head, too? LOL! She showed her interest and the rest is up to you because you're the guy, so no Libra wishy-washy mental gymnastics! Go get her!
Now I'm curious about HER sign (and her Moon/Venus/Mars!)
"Confessing" and sending a link to a love song? Is she a Pisces?? lol Cuz a Piscean type would do that to say what she cannot risk saying aloud... but a Gemini or Sag would probably innocently flirt that way, and it doesn't necessarily "mean" more.
"Confessing" and sending a link to a love song? Is she a Pisces?? lol Cuz a Piscean type would do that to say what she cannot risk saying aloud... but a Gemini or Sag would probably innocently flirt that way, and it doesn't necessarily "mean" more.
he replies, all. but sometime has passed. this thread is from oct 2010.
i actually posted another query in nov 2010 in the cap board here.
Posted by aquagirl24she must be very shy... ask her out not in front of ur friends if u can... 🙂 if she sent u a love song, means she loves you duh lol...
hey aquagirl24! again, thanks for your insights you sent me. i'm still mulling it over. why? because nothing has come of anything that i've tried. i think it's more that she's not interested than her being shy.
Posted by Whimsy
Dude, she's shy! She confessed her interest by sending you a love song...so no Libra wishy-washy mental gymnastics! Go get her!
not so sure. as above, time has passed. i've tried to get her out. she's not rejected me outright but she's also sounded cold about it. my assessment is that she just doesn't want to hurt my feelings.
Posted by Nefer
Now I'm curious about HER sign...
she's a capricorn. that's all i know. she's very reserved and choosy with friends. we used to send links to each other before. but this particular set "hit" me.
Posted by everevolvingepithet...Virgos get labelled with being robotic.Rocket science ?😛click to expand
i'm virgo-libra cusp.
and admittedly, even i see myself as "robotic" a lot of times.
check the other thread here.
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we've gone out once before...then just as friends with others since.
recently, i find an e-mail from her with an attached video clip of a love song.
the later on...we were just chatting away on IM...
she says "i have something to confess..."
she sends me a link to another love song.
to keep things lighthearted, i talk about the link and the song and other references to it.
later that afternoon...i decide to ask her about the things she sent me.
and as expected, she brushes them off lightheartedly.
so...a couple of days later, i make a move and ask her out for the following week.
she was busy so that was pushed back to this week - i know that she was actually busy because we have common friends.
so this week, i'll be asking her out on a date again to test if there is anything past friendship.
my question is...
is there any meaning to girls sending love songs to guys.
keep in mind that the girl knows that the guy likes her
but they are not in a relationship.
also, that they are good friends.