Rejection!!!

you get anything you want? lucky girl

I've been rejected just recently. Sure it's not a nice feeling but I just have to get over it. I'm don't wallow in self pity because I don't like to dwell on something out of my control. Fear of rejection is a waste of time; you're not really living attemping to preempt it.

Being rejected by a stranger..pick yourself up move on, it happens. Being rejected by someone you care very about, quite differently and painful but you still need to pick yourself up again and keep it moving!

I can relate....for me, it's really not about the "pain" or a bruised ego though ...it's more not wanting be "the one left standing with their dick in their hand."

You know, not wanting to put any effort into something you have a feeling isn't going to pan out.
I don't like wasting my time.

What I always notice around here is a lot of woman say they can get who ever and what ever they want...most woman can and the ladies here are quite beautiful most of them...but how do you run into so many that are desirable?? Or am I just a fussy mole? Lol...I might meet one man every 100-200 that makes new want to!

I just don't get how woman are attracted to so many men in a small space of time..am I just fussy? It's like in my life time I would have possibly married only 2 men, one I did and the other I would have but he was my first and it wasn't meant to be. But others, they might think about marrying 6 or 7 different men and date several at a time or over a year period have a half dozen potentials...maybe I'm just too busy doing me and my friends and family and business so my eyes aren't in the right places...idk

Starlover...you aren't in NZ are you? haha We kiwi's are notorious for loving our sheep 😛

6 or 7 in a lifetime..or half a dozen potential bf's in a year is what I meant. Some here are dating 3 on the go?

TBH, I'd like a man or partner but I think I am too self sufficient and do everything myself and have been doing so for that long that I don't know how to let someone do anything for me. That's what happened in my last relationship I felt...looking back. I've become a control freak with having to make sure everything works and everything will be alright for me and my now grown children...How do you learn to let go??

Posted by starlover
Desperation i guess sweets 🙂. I sense you aint one of those women that needs a man that badly?

Not NZ ~ what's it like out there?

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Cold!! Which is why I moved to live in Australia where the sun shines nearly all year around 🙂

Posted by BalmyTigress

Posted by sweethearts
6 or 7 in a lifetime..or half a dozen potential bf's in a year is what I meant. Some here are dating 3 on the go?

TBH, I'd like a man or partner but I think I am too self sufficient and do everything myself and have been doing so for that long that I don't know how to let someone do anything for me. That's what happened in my last relationship I felt...looking back. I've become a control freak with having to make sure everything works and everything will be alright for me and my now grown children...How do you learn to let go??

I'm like that as well, though I'd be happy to let them do something for me, but I would just have to know what that something is. It definitely doesn't come naturally for me!

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And then show them how to do it the right way....right? lmao

Posted by starlover
Am teaching my son that when someone reject you or is mean to you, its there stuff and nothing to do with the other person. Its really helping him. The other day one of his teachers was walking down the school corridor and glared at him. He said to me * i suppose she has some anger issues or something which doesnt have anything to do with me *


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People who reject others are rejecting themselves first and foremost i feel

I like that!

I find that I don't have much chemistry with guys either. I know right off the bat, I do or I don't.... and unfortunately, it's more often not. Hence this being my longest single streak ever. I also think it has to do partly with me dating around a lot earlier and having a better idea now of what I want and don't want. There's ALOT of "don't want" out there.

I've been rejected, I don't like the feeling. However, I cut them off and move on with my life, only to have them chase me later. By then, I see clearly and it's too late... their rejection was more or less a blessing in disguise :-)

I read somewhere, that if you don't get someone you want, it isn't God punishing you... it's that they don't deserve you :-). I'm not extremely religious by any means, but I like the message in this quote.