Why does he want sex with me......?

if he says that he is having great sex with his girlfriend? I mean, if sex with her is so great and she has a high sex drive, what is the point of wanting it with another woman?

See, I understand if he'd want to have sex with me if the sex with the girlfriend was not as good. But for someone who claims that sex with her is great, why have not so great sex with me?

Posted by Mr. Defense
Stop complicating things and just sleep with him. Sheesh. Women

I have! Which is why I said, why does he want to keep having mediocre sex with me when he can have great sex with her?

Posted by xygeneration
Why do you say mediocre?

Are you slightly, sexually competitive?

It has nothing to do with competition. I am trying to find out why he does it.

As a woman, if I was having great sex with someone and for whatever reason, cheated and had mediocre sex with another person, I wouldn't want to do it with him again.
Why is it that a man will choose mediocre sex over great sex, especially from a woman who has a high sex drive?

Posted by xygeneration
It has nothing to do with her being great. Its variety.

Variety, yes.But if he wanted variety, he would have just had sex with me once or twice and that's it. No need to keep having sex with someone who isn't as good as your current girlfriend.

Maybe:

1) He's a marker
2) He's sexually insecure
3) He has serious issues elsewhere and use women as a distraction
4) He's socially inept and has no idea what else to do with a woman
5) His girlfriend's teenage kids are sleeping next door, so he can't fuck her at her home. She's looking after a dog and a cat, so sleeping at his place is not an option.

Number 5 is the answer I've once got when interviewing for a FB relationship and asking why he needs a FB if he's got a girlfriend 🙂. PS: I turned him down because I prefer intelligent men.

Now Lotus, don't tell me your guy is the same one you talked about on the Pisces board (my astro twin!!!!), cos I'm going to to send him to the astro hell!

Posted by kalin
BTW, if he really is a Pisces, I personally met two did the exactly same thing. Why did they do that? just because they CAN.

You've got me here. I have to friend-zone my FWB, now that I've (almost) got a new boyfriend 🙂!

Dilemma: I've known my FWB for over one year. I've only met my potential boyfriend two months ago. It's not fair! I want them all! In fact, my idea of the perfect party would be to invite all my exes and their actual squeezes....

JUST KIDDING.

I actually noticed that all double Pisces on dxp have a strong mischievous streak. Look at Scenic and Elusive!

Maybe Pisces=Mischief.

Only having the remaining personal planets in signs other than Pisces can detract from it. Get it in double measure and you're asking Trouble. My new theory 😉!

He has not gotten it from me in the past two months. I ended things with him and now he wants me more than ever before!
I told him, well, if you are having great sex with the other woman, you don't need to be having mediocre sex with me.

Posted by starlover
Why are you bedding a man that already has a lover ~ dont you have any self respect?

They've been on/off for a few years. When I got involved with him, he was not with her (I know because I work with her and she told me). The he went back to her and I left him a couple of months later.

Posted by xygeneration
Are you ok being called the slut/bitch/tramp? I hope not.

I actually like Lotus. It's possible that she didn't knew about the girlfriend. Some guys drop the bomb after they've slept with you: "By the way, forgot to mention: I've got a girlfriend lol". However, they would probably justify it with "sex with her is bad. You were divine (no, not the prostitute 🙂). Shall we meet again?"

Lotus was upset with the new facts and came to vent on here.

Oops Lotus, I was writing at the same time as you...

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Posted by xygeneration
Are you ok being called the slut/bitch/tramp? I hope not.

I actually like Lotus. It's possible that she didn't knew about the girlfriend. Some guys drop the bomb after they've slept with you: "By the way, forgot to mention: I've got a girlfriend lol". However, they would probably justify it with "sex with her is bad. You were divine (no, not the prostitute 🙂). Shall we meet again?"

Lotus was upset with the new facts and came to vent on here.

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No, he actually said that sex with her was great. I was much more into him at first than he was into me and wanted him a lot. As time passed, he wanted me more and more and now that I ended things with him (because of the other woman being in the way) his desire for me has gone through the roof.

Is he the Pisces guy then...my astro twin?

Hey, hey, can we get back to my topic folks? Please—?🙂

Posted by lotus
if he says that he is having great sex with his girlfriend? I mean, if sex with her is so great and she has a high sex drive, what is the point of wanting it with another woman?

The very fact that you are entertaining this request to the point that you've created a thread about it is exactly why he wants to have sex with you even though he has a gf. Men aren't that complicated. Neither are some women, clearly.

*ten post in*....never mind.

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Posted by Mr. Defense
Stop complicating things and just sleep with him. Sheesh. Women

I have! Which is why I said, why does he want to keep having mediocre sex with me when he can have great sex with her?

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I see....so clearly there is another reason for this thread.

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Posted by Mr. Defense
Stop complicating things and just sleep with him. Sheesh. Women

I have! Which is why I said, why does he want to keep having mediocre sex with me when he can have great sex with her?

Ah. Here is the other half of the equation.

I infer that he is in a "relationship" with this other woman (God help her). If that is the case, then he is screwing you because he is a cad and you are "easy," a "good time," a "sure thing." You are screwing one another because you are both morally bankrupt. You are letting him use you, knowing he is with another woman. Don't complain because you're allowing yourself to be used as an eff-toy. You are the one allowing it. He's doing it because he likes to rut.

If you're looking for some deep mystery or the answer to some psychological riddle, leave off. There's no amazing secret like "You're really the one he loves!" You're easy!

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Uhmmmm... because you let him.

(I didn't read the whole thread)

Good Gawd, have some standards!!!!!

Posted by lotus
Hey, hey, can we get back to my topic folks? Please—?🙂

LOL

Posted by Mr. Defense
Stop complicating things and just sleep with him. Sheesh. Women

Dumbest advice ever. Are you a Scorpio? LOL
Cause it would make sense. Seeing that its "just that simple".

Here is my advice. Stop trying to rationalize the irrational. Its not that hes a man, hes a slut bag. Simple enough. Have some self respect cause if you were his girlfriend shit you would be pissed the hell off. id just go tell her and show all the stuff hes been doing because shitty ass behavior gets NO reward. Its only punishment in my book. Have fun being single motherfucker! Go show her the stuff, again if you were his gf you would want to know if he was doing it to you.

i hate the "he's a guy" bullshit...all that does is perpetuates a bullshit ass sterotype ...i dont believe in that shit. he is a person just like the rest of us folks and he gets no pass cuz he has a dick! he is a low down cheater thats the label ill give him.

He likes to have sex which he sees as fun and enjoyable with a careless tactic and not think of the consequences.

Why share the same dick while he's shoving it up in another woman's vay jay jay? And possibly more. Don't be the other woman.

Cause another woman might take your place when it is time to have a boyfriend, or time might do more damage not being logical with reasoning.

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Posted by Mr. Defense
Stop complicating things and just sleep with him. Sheesh. Women

I have! Which is why I said, why does he want to keep having mediocre sex with me when he can have great sex with her?

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Why are you sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend, and not only has a girlfriend, but says he has great sex with her?

Get some fucking self-respect. What is wrong with you.

Because that's how men do; the other woman should not feel flattered because he wants to fuck her AND the girlfriend.

Posted by GemStar05
Because that's how men do; the other woman should not feel flattered because he wants to fuck her AND the girlfriend.

Seriously I can't believe she's like oh yeah I did sleep with him...I mean WHAT?

I would be so insulted I would probably punch the guy. She actually said she knows they have mediocre sex.

She has low self-esteem apparently, and doesn't know the difference between sex and love.

I shouldn't be mean about it, I should feel sorry for her, but she really needs to snap out of it.

Posted by Libra911
Lotus - my guess is that he likes something about u not related to sex, that's why he stays around. He is maybe bored with his gf even though the sex is good

NO NO NO don't tell her that...she might believe it. What a load of garbage. That isn't true. No guy cheats on his girlfriend with full-blown fucking, tells the other girl that it's mediocre, and is just there because he sees something else in her he wants.

No, he wants free sex, with a variety of women.

If he was hanging around her every day, and spending more time with her than his girlfriend, or wouldn't stop calling her, or doing something to form ..oh I don't know...EMOTIONAL INTIMACY...that didn't involve using her for sex whilst he cheated on his gf, then maybe I might agree with you.

LOTUS...this guy does not care about you or respect you, and he apparently isn't even faithful to his girlfriend.

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Posted by xygeneration
It has nothing to do with her being great. Its variety.

Variety, yes.But if he wanted variety, he would have just had sex with me once or twice and that's it. No need to keep having sex with someone who isn't as good as your current girlfriend.

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Oh no no no ...don't confuse a preference for comfort and familiarity (i.e. knows you're safe, clean, disease-free, sure thing, maybe even is "used to you") with real bona fide preference for you.

If he preferred you, he would break up with his girlfriend. He would also say kinder things to you, he certainly wouldn't say the sex was mediocre.

This guy's a real piece of shit. I want to physically harm him and I've never even met him. I can't believe women tolerate this kind of thing.