Running into Ex everywhere, hilarious mixed messages. Is this normal—

Last month my cancer sun/scorpio moon/taurus venus girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue after dating for about 4 months saying that she loved me and always could but had to let me go because I deserved better and she'd been hurt in the past. I expressed my being hurt by her decision but accepted it and told her she deserved to be happy as well.

A week later we started talking again as friends (per my request) and everything was fine, then she started saying things to intentionally make me jealous constantly. I always laughed it off and after about two weeks of texting almost constantly like we used to, she just went cold. No texting, no calls, but continued to check up on me on social media via snapchat.

Since we stopped talking we run into each other almost 3-4 times a week, which is weird because we never crossed paths this much when we were in a relationship...

So this weekend we ran into each other again at a nightclub, I was with a friend of mine and another girl and she was with a bunch of her girlfriends. She saw us as soon as we walked in the door, I didn't make eye contact but my friend noticed her. I went to dance with the girl and my friend and it wasn't two minutes later, she and her friends were dancing right behind me. I could feel someone's back against mine, grinding their butt against me, and my friend said "she's right behind you" lol. I simply pretended like she wasn't there and continued to dance with the girl I was with for a few more songs. Her and her friends eventually left and I noticed when I got home that she'd watched my entire snapchat story after she'd left.

What is going on? lol. Is this normal ex girlfriend behavior, or normal cancer ex girlfriend behavior?

Why would someone try so hard to get your attention and dance all over you while you're with another girl and want know what you're up to on snapchat but not talk? We broke up on good terms and seemed like we were doing great as friends but I'm getting the vibe that she regrets her decision to break up and doesn't know how to fix it.

Any advice or input would be much appreciated. I'm beyond confused by this girl lol

Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Posted by notsosure
Ha ha ha, don´t try to pretend like this isn´t exactly what you want. If you had wanted to be friends with her, why wouldn´t you just simply say hallo and cut the drama? Instead you created more. You both know, what you are both doing and are probably just enjoying this drama and the more intense feelings it gives. Makes you feel alive ! 😄

Lol I didn't not enjoy it, its definitely exciting. I didn't say hello because I wasn't aware she was there until my friend told me it was her that was dancing behind me. We never made eye contact. Kind of awkward to turn around and say hi to your ex who you haven't spoken to for a couple of weeks while you're in the middle of a dance floor with someone else, but maybe thats just me?

Posted by Chuckcem
Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Thank you so much for your input. It probably is pretty obvious to anyone else lol. The sag in me can be quite aloof which is why I've learned to ask for opinions.

One of her reasons for breaking up was that she had been hurt in the past and it still bothered her. She was definitely the most jealous/possessive person I'd ever dated before. I took it as a sign that she cared and felt like my scorpio venus went well with that. I don't mind that kind of behavior because I understand it, and I always tried to my best to reassure her when she acted that way. She hid the jealousy better than the possessiveness for sure.

Aside from a bit of jealousy, we definitely had a positive relationship. It seemed like we only grew closer and closer. She was the first to say "I love you" etc, and after that I felt like everything was solid, which is why the break up was surprising. There wasn't a slow losing of interest or distancing, it was just very sudden. Two days before she was talking about moving in.

But yeah, I've never been one to chase after being broken up with. Too much pride. After it happened I stopped talking to her for a week but noticed she kept watching my snapchat stories, which made me reach out and ask if we could be friends. She never answered the question, just changed the subject. At the time I was just happy to be talking to her again until the attempts to make me jealous started which made me think she didn't actually want to be friends but was maybe playing around or trying to get a reaction. I didn't take it as her still having feelings, so when she went cold I went to moving on again, no attempts to chase. And after two weeks of her not responding, I figured she'd forgotten about me or moved on as well until the other night.

Hopefully she'll come around if she still has feelings

Posted by archer333

Posted by Chuckcem
Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Thank you so much for your input. It probably is pretty obvious to anyone else lol. The sag in me can be quite aloof which is why I've learned to ask for opinions.

One of her reasons for breaking up was that she had been hurt in the past and it still bothered her. She was definitely the most jealous/possessive person I'd ever dated before. I took it as a sign that she cared and felt like my scorpio venus went well with that. I don't mind that kind of behavior because I understand it, and I always tried to my best to reassure her when she acted that way. She hid the jealousy better than the possessiveness for sure.

Aside from a bit of jealousy, we definitely had a positive relationship. It seemed like we only grew closer and closer. She was the first to say "I love you" etc, and after that I felt like everything was solid, which is why the break up was surprising. There wasn't a slow losing of interest or distancing, it was just very sudden. Two days before she was talking about moving in.

But yeah, I've never been one to chase after being broken up with. Too much pride. After it happened I stopped talking to her for a week but noticed she kept watching my snapchat stories, which made me reach out and ask if we could be friends. She never answered the question, just changed the subject. At the time I was just happy to be talking to her again until the attempts to make me jealous started which made me think she didn't actually want to be friends but was maybe playing around or trying to get a reaction. I didn't take it as her still having feelings, so when she went cold I went to moving on again, no attempts to chase. And after two weeks of her not responding, I figured she'd forgotten about me or moved on as well until the other night.

Hopefully she'll come around if she still has feelings

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Yeah a few of my close friends are Sagittariuses, so I get it.

Sounds like she has some raw feelings from the last breakup, which is really on her to address her own insecurities. That's not your job. It's good that you have a Scorpio Venus that can relate to that type of behavior.

Just give her space for now. You've already tried to pursue a friendship and she couldn't figure it out. I suggest just focusing on yourself.

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by archer333

Posted by Chuckcem
Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Thank you so much for your input. It probably is pretty obvious to anyone else lol. The sag in me can be quite aloof which is why I've learned to ask for opinions.

One of her reasons for breaking up was that she had been hurt in the past and it still bothered her. She was definitely the most jealous/possessive person I'd ever dated before. I took it as a sign that she cared and felt like my scorpio venus went well with that. I don't mind that kind of behavior because I understand it, and I always tried to my best to reassure her when she acted that way. She hid the jealousy better than the possessiveness for sure.

Aside from a bit of jealousy, we definitely had a positive relationship. It seemed like we only grew closer and closer. She was the first to say "I love you" etc, and after that I felt like everything was solid, which is why the break up was surprising. There wasn't a slow losing of interest or distancing, it was just very sudden. Two days before she was talking about moving in.

But yeah, I've never been one to chase after being broken up with. Too much pride. After it happened I stopped talking to her for a week but noticed she kept watching my snapchat stories, which made me reach out and ask if we could be friends. She never answered the question, just changed the subject. At the time I was just happy to be talking to her again until the attempts to make me jealous started which made me think she didn't actually want to be friends but was maybe playing around or trying to get a reaction. I didn't take it as her still having feelings, so when she went cold I went to moving on again, no attempts to chase. And after two weeks of her not responding, I figured she'd forgotten about me or moved on as well until the other night.

Hopefully she'll come around if she still has feelings

Yeah a few of my close friends are Sagittariuses, so I get it.

Sounds like she has some raw feelings from the last breakup, which is really on her to address her own insecurities. That's not your job. It's good that you have a Scorpio Venus that can relate to that type of behavior.

Just give her space for now. You've already tried to pursue a friendship and she couldn't figure it out. I suggest just focusing on yourself.

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You were right, dude. She texted yesterday evening asking if I was okay, saying that she had seen a wreck on her way home that looked like my car. She sounded really glad that it wasn't so I'm guessing thats her way of letting me know she still cares.

Posted by archer333

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by archer333

Posted by Chuckcem
Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Thank you so much for your input. It probably is pretty obvious to anyone else lol. The sag in me can be quite aloof which is why I've learned to ask for opinions.

One of her reasons for breaking up was that she had been hurt in the past and it still bothered her. She was definitely the most jealous/possessive person I'd ever dated before. I took it as a sign that she cared and felt like my scorpio venus went well with that. I don't mind that kind of behavior because I understand it, and I always tried to my best to reassure her when she acted that way. She hid the jealousy better than the possessiveness for sure.

Aside from a bit of jealousy, we definitely had a positive relationship. It seemed like we only grew closer and closer. She was the first to say "I love you" etc, and after that I felt like everything was solid, which is why the break up was surprising. There wasn't a slow losing of interest or distancing, it was just very sudden. Two days before she was talking about moving in.

But yeah, I've never been one to chase after being broken up with. Too much pride. After it happened I stopped talking to her for a week but noticed she kept watching my snapchat stories, which made me reach out and ask if we could be friends. She never answered the question, just changed the subject. At the time I was just happy to be talking to her again until the attempts to make me jealous started which made me think she didn't actually want to be friends but was maybe playing around or trying to get a reaction. I didn't take it as her still having feelings, so when she went cold I went to moving on again, no attempts to chase. And after two weeks of her not responding, I figured she'd forgotten about me or moved on as well until the other night.

Hopefully she'll come around if she still has feelings

Yeah a few of my close friends are Sagittariuses, so I get it.

Sounds like she has some raw feelings from the last breakup, which is really on her to address her own insecurities. That's not your job. It's good that you have a Scorpio Venus that can relate to that type of behavior.

Just give her space for now. You've already tried to pursue a friendship and she couldn't figure it out. I suggest just focusing on yourself.

You were right, dude. She texted yesterday evening asking if I was okay, saying that she had seen a wreck on her way home that looked like my car. She sounded really glad that it wasn't so I'm guessing thats her way of letting me know she still cares.

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Yep, that's her "excuse" to contact you. She's basically making all of that up. Even if she actually did see a wreck, she KNEW it wasn't you. She'd be way more frantic if it was.

When a woman wants to get back in touch, they'll usually make up some elaborate story so they don't seem to direct. They don't want to be too honest and risk rejection. They do this with the hopes that the guy will rekindle things and get the ball rolling again.

If you want this girl back just say, "Hey, no I'm ok, but I'm glad to hear from you. I want to see you, when are you free?" Then set up a date for the two of you.

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by archer333

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Posted by Chuckcem
Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Thank you so much for your input. It probably is pretty obvious to anyone else lol. The sag in me can be quite aloof which is why I've learned to ask for opinions.

One of her reasons for breaking up was that she had been hurt in the past and it still bothered her. She was definitely the most jealous/possessive person I'd ever dated before. I took it as a sign that she cared and felt like my scorpio venus went well with that. I don't mind that kind of behavior because I understand it, and I always tried to my best to reassure her when she acted that way. She hid the jealousy better than the possessiveness for sure.

Aside from a bit of jealousy, we definitely had a positive relationship. It seemed like we only grew closer and closer. She was the first to say "I love you" etc, and after that I felt like everything was solid, which is why the break up was surprising. There wasn't a slow losing of interest or distancing, it was just very sudden. Two days before she was talking about moving in.

But yeah, I've never been one to chase after being broken up with. Too much pride. After it happened I stopped talking to her for a week but noticed she kept watching my snapchat stories, which made me reach out and ask if we could be friends. She never answered the question, just changed the subject. At the time I was just happy to be talking to her again until the attempts to make me jealous started which made me think she didn't actually want to be friends but was maybe playing around or trying to get a reaction. I didn't take it as her still having feelings, so when she went cold I went to moving on again, no attempts to chase. And after two weeks of her not responding, I figured she'd forgotten about me or moved on as well until the other night.

Hopefully she'll come around if she still has feelings

Yeah a few of my close friends are Sagittariuses, so I get it.

Sounds like she has some raw feelings from the last breakup, which is really on her to address her own insecurities. That's not your job. It's good that you have a Scorpio Venus that can relate to that type of behavior.

Just give her space for now. You've already tried to pursue a friendship and she couldn't figure it out. I suggest just focusing on yourself.

You were right, dude. She texted yesterday evening asking if I was okay, saying that she had seen a wreck on her way home that looked like my car. She sounded really glad that it wasn't so I'm guessing thats her way of letting me know she still cares.

Yep, that's her "excuse" to contact you. She's basically making all of that up. Even if she actually did see a wreck, she KNEW it wasn't you. She'd be way more frantic if it was.

When a woman wants to get back in touch, they'll usually make up some elaborate story so they don't seem to direct. They don't want to be too honest and risk rejection. They do this with the hopes that the guy will rekindle things and get the ball rolling again.

If you want this girl back just say, "Hey, no I'm ok, but I'm glad to hear from you. I want to see you, when are you free?" Then set up a date for the two of you.

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Thats exactly what I thought! I made the mistake of texting her back and forth a bit last night kind of probing her interest level and hadn't replied all day but I finally quit messing around and made some solid plans and she replied with a day almost immediately even though she's taking two trips this week. Hell yeah, we got a date!

Sounds like you've read Corey Wayne's book haha. I wish I'd started learning this stuff sooner!

Chuckcem, good job.

Posted by notsosure
Ofcours she still cares!!!!

Was that ever a question?

Mostly when women say, that they are not ready for a relationship, they actually mean it. Not sure how it works with guys.

She´s just trying to focus on herself, but ofcours she still likes you and cares.

But I think everybody with bad experience behind them is in a transit situation, so that sometimes they think they do not want to stay at this situation for long. This is a natural push-pull. they are not ready but they do not want to miss the joy of life either. hence the confusing behaviour.

it's all innocent and reactive in my eyes.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Well this is pretty obvious but let's run through it:

First know that with a Scorpio Moon, this Cancer woman may have moments where she becomes paranoid, jealous, possessive, or even obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Scorpio Moons tend to be more subtle about this though. As a Cancer she may have moments where she acts passive aggressively when hurt. She may also seek to protect her heart preemptively if the relationship seems off.

For whatever reason, this woman felt the need to end things after 4 months. You did the right thing by accepting the break up and letting her go, which she wasn't expecting. People generally expect a little resistance or to be chased after initiating a breakup. This helps the dumper by validating their decision. Therefore as the dumper it can be confusing when the dumped person gracefully accepts the breakup. The lack of melodrama takes the wind out of the dumper's sails. If the relationship was relatively positive, it can even make the dumper second guess themselves.

So you started talking again as friends at your request. Typically when guys request to be friends with their recent exes, it's with the hope of rekindling things. Women know this. Sounds like you were chill though, which confused her more. It upset her that you seemed to be able to move on so quickly. You've already said that she tried to make you jealous, but you laughed it off. She was hurt by how little sway she had over your emotions. Realizing this she dropped contact to see if you would react to her disappearance. Again you did the right thing by letting her go. Since you didn't take the bait, she's resorted to stalking your social media.

So now everything should be pretty obvious once you get to the part where you and your friends went to the nightclub. She saw you dancing with another girl and enjoying yourself without her. That definitely messed with her head. It's one thing for her to see you having fun, it's another to see her potential replacement. No one wants to be so easily replaced.

So the short answer is, she still has feelings for you. She apparently isn't emotionally mature and has been acting passive aggressively this entire time. You've done an excellent job of not falling for her mind games though. Keep enjoying your life and talking to other ladies. There's a very good chance she'll be back.

Thank you so much for your input. It probably is pretty obvious to anyone else lol. The sag in me can be quite aloof which is why I've learned to ask for opinions.

One of her reasons for breaking up was that she had been hurt in the past and it still bothered her. She was definitely the most jealous/possessive person I'd ever dated before. I took it as a sign that she cared and felt like my scorpio venus went well with that. I don't mind that kind of behavior because I understand it, and I always tried to my best to reassure her when she acted that way. She hid the jealousy better than the possessiveness for sure.

Aside from a bit of jealousy, we definitely had a positive relationship. It seemed like we only grew closer and closer. She was the first to say "I love you" etc, and after that I felt like everything was solid, which is why the break up was surprising. There wasn't a slow losing of interest or distancing, it was just very sudden. Two days before she was talking about moving in.

But yeah, I've never been one to chase after being broken up with. Too much pride. After it happened I stopped talking to her for a week but noticed she kept watching my snapchat stories, which made me reach out and ask if we could be friends. She never answered the question, just changed the subject. At the time I was just happy to be talking to her again until the attempts to make me jealous started which made me think she didn't actually want to be friends but was maybe playing around or trying to get a reaction. I didn't take it as her still having feelings, so when she went cold I went to moving on again, no attempts to chase. And after two weeks of her not responding, I figured she'd forgotten about me or moved on as well until the other night.

Hopefully she'll come around if she still has feelings

Yeah a few of my close friends are Sagittariuses, so I get it.

Sounds like she has some raw feelings from the last breakup, which is really on her to address her own insecurities. That's not your job. It's good that you have a Scorpio Venus that can relate to that type of behavior.

Just give her space for now. You've already tried to pursue a friendship and she couldn't figure it out. I suggest just focusing on yourself.

You were right, dude. She texted yesterday evening asking if I was okay, saying that she had seen a wreck on her way home that looked like my car. She sounded really glad that it wasn't so I'm guessing thats her way of letting me know she still cares.

Yep, that's her "excuse" to contact you. She's basically making all of that up. Even if she actually did see a wreck, she KNEW it wasn't you. She'd be way more frantic if it was.

When a woman wants to get back in touch, they'll usually make up some elaborate story so they don't seem to direct. They don't want to be too honest and risk rejection. They do this with the hopes that the guy will rekindle things and get the ball rolling again.

If you want this girl back just say, "Hey, no I'm ok, but I'm glad to hear from you. I want to see you, when are you free?" Then set up a date for the two of you.

Thats exactly what I thought! I made the mistake of texting her back and forth a bit last night kind of probing her interest level and hadn't replied all day but I finally quit messing around and made some solid plans and she replied with a day almost immediately even though she's taking two trips this week. Hell yeah, we got a date!

Sounds like you've read Corey Wayne's book haha. I wish I'd started learning this stuff sooner!

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Yessir, I have. He cemented things I already knew, but filled in some gaps here and there. I'm actually all about human behavior and self improvement as well. Hence why I'm also here.

Posted by notsosure
Ofcours she still cares!!!!

Was that ever a question?

Mostly when women say, that they are not ready for a relationship, they actually mean it. Not sure how it works with guys.

She´s just trying to focus on herself, but ofcours she still likes you and cares.

Facts.