Scorpio man and commitment

Wasnt sure how to title the post. I myself am very happily married to a scorpio man who was very straightforward when it came to taking the next step in a relationship. Moved in together after 3 months, proposed in another 6 months. Now its been over 2 years and we both made the right choice.

This scorpio man im talking about is someone i know who is dating a girl i care very much about. So a littlw history:

She is 29, he is 38. Together for a year and a half. All they talk about is when they are married blabla. They know where the registries will be, who the bridal party will be, how he will be asking her dads permission..these conversations are on a daily basis in front of anyone and everyone. And its been that way since they met. He wants kids and a family and a house etc but doesnt seem to be going forward w making the move (though the cost of yhe ring he is going to buy her has been discussed in public also). They do fight a lot but its the bickering kind of fights, no slamming doors or walking out on each other... they seem to be happy in their roller coaster of a relationship. He wont live w her cuz he believes if u live w someone before marriage, marriage will fail (so ridiculous but whatever) so the only next step is getting engaged

My husband asked him a few months back, following one of their conversation about geting engaged, if he was looking at rings and if hed like to be referred to a jeweller....the guy looked at him and was like what?!?!?! Im nowhere near shopping for rings. And its been 6 months dont think anything changed

Im told this guy has always been this way w every girl he meets. It just doesnt seem possible to me but im starting to believe that. He had told her when they met that if they r not engaged by this time she should dump him.

My questions are - does he know that about himself that he will never make yhat step? Wil he ever? Is it just the wrong girl? Is any of it scorpio like behavior?

He is born first week of november and other than this and lack of sex (no sex drive) he is a 100% scorpio.

Posted by AzureRose
About living with girl before marriage, some guys did this to have respect for the girl maybe due to his religious or cultures view. I wont say this is nonesense. It depends on people so I cant much about it. My thought is always this- living together or not, if he/she didnt meant to be for you they'd gone sooner or later.

I understand the religious/cultural aspect and respect that usually also (though I cant understand or relate to it), but his reasoning is that he had lived w his gf before (for 3 years i think) and he thinks that their relationship didnt work out cuz they lived together before marriage. THAT is nonsense. Im not sure how it happened and how it makes sense in his head (obviously if they got married and then started living rogether it would still not have worked out lol)... but thats the case

Thank you for your input btw... i don't think they are concerned with cheating or thing of that nature. i just think that it's unfair and cruel that he leads her on with his words and has no intent to actually follow through. so i was wondering if anyone ever had a similar situation w a scorpio and how it turned out eventually

Lack of sex drive spells trouble





I know, especially being young like this. and its soo anti scorpio. My husband thinks he is not attracted to her enough, she is very pretty, gorgeous face and eyes, but she is about 60 to 80 lbs overweight and though he himself is far from being in shape, my husband feels he would have had more sex w her if she was more fit. if that makes sense

Posted by dolluxe
No sex drive?! A Scorpio?!

Oh boy..

Yes!!! thats so weird. I commented above on the whole being attracted... shockingly his previous gf he broke up with cuz she never went down on him and also wouldnt have sex.... go figure

What does that mean?

Oh you mean this guy is total douche bag. Capital D.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Oh you mean this guy is total douche bag. Capital D.

I dont think he has a mean intent. Thats why im lost. Ive seen a ton of Dbags... he isnt one. So im not sure if he talks the way he does about being married cuz he thinks thats expected of him, if its a nice idea for a very distant future? i dont know. he acts like a 16 year old a lot. i dont think he realizes he is almost 40

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Posted by EE

Lack of sex drive spells trouble

I know, especially being young like this. and its soo anti scorpio. My husband thinks he is not attracted to her enough, she is very pretty, gorgeous face and eyes, but she is about 60 to 80 lbs overweight and though he himself is far from being in shape, my husband feels he would have had more sex w her if she was more fit. if that makes sense



Yes the not attracted is issue





So, as a friend I am not sure if i should tell her that. she constantly talks about working out and losing weight but in the 1.5 years she actually gained 20 lbs. partially cuz he doesnt eat healthy and doesnt exercise, i think she is one of those that needs a partner to work out to be successful

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Oh you mean this guy is total douche bag. Capital D.

I dont think he has a mean intent. Thats why im lost. Ive seen a ton of Dbags... he isnt one. So im not sure if he talks the way he does about being married cuz he thinks thats expected of him, if its a nice idea for a very distant future? i dont know. he acts like a 16 year old a lot. i dont think he realizes he is almost 40

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I don't care if he is bill Gates but it's just too much immaturity and douche because he doesn't like her looks as is. And then someone else comes and says when's the big day. And changes like whoa.

Posted by Impulsv
He is conflicted probably meets what he's looking for but not attracted to her enough. Best they don't get married way this is going

So as someone she confides to I am lost at what to tell her...

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

Posted by EE

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Oh you mean this guy is total douche bag. Capital D.

I dont think he has a mean intent. Thats why im lost. Ive seen a ton of Dbags... he isnt one. So im not sure if he talks the way he does about being married cuz he thinks thats expected of him, if its a nice idea for a very distant future? i dont know. he acts like a 16 year old a lot. i dont think he realizes he is almost 40

I don't care if he is bill Gates but it's just too much immaturity and douche because he doesn't like her looks as is. And then someone else comes and says when's the big day. And changes like whoa.

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So i guess bottom line is has nothing to do w scorpio behavior, its just him

Posted by Amethysst
The way I see it, if he means it, he'll do it. If he doesn't mean it, he won't do it. They go by actions a lot more than words.

My Scorpio isn't the type to say cutesie words but he will go out of his way prove his love instead.

If his drive is low he maybe getting it somewhere else and/or the chemistry isn't there for him.

well actions do speak louder than words. she is nearing 30 and wants to start having kids, so there is urgency.

and he absolutely is not cheating. i think its a combination of low energy from eating poorly, not being as attracted to her bcuz of her weight and her overeagerness.

my scorpio is usually not vanilla either, but he acts vanilla if u know what i mean. above and beyond. so its just odd to see another scorpio act the way this guy acts

I didn't read anything past the opening you are f***** hope you're happy because you are now committed for life that's just the way it is what's Scorpios and it's hard for us to open up and be honest if you're Scorpio male felt like he can open up and move in with you and stick with you this long is a lifetime commitment for him and even if it doesn't work out you're stuck with him so love him for who he is and hopefully most likely if you can take all his bumpy ups and downs mood swings just like a Scorpio males have to take all the other bumpy ups and downs which we do with full stride you will be alright