Sex questions for your partner

Whether committed or not, which signs/placements do you think are more honest when it comes to answering things like:

"Have you been sleeping with anyone else (casual partner)?"

"Have you been sleeping with anyone else (suspicions of a committed partner)?" (I guess this one would most likely be lied about given the situation).

"Have you been tested/are you clean?"

"How many partners have you had?"

Or anything related to the area of sex and wanting to know specifics about your own sexual health safety and the like.

And how bad is it that our society is so fucked that people can try to be open and honest about sexual history and some will still not know whether to believe the other or not because some people can be so prone to lying about it?

...which is sad. They say have "the talk" or try to anyway, but what's the point if the other isn't being honest or fudges the truth a bit? It would depend on the individual and what your gut is telling you, wouldn't it?

That said, what's your experience/view on it, and what signs do you think are more prone to lying about this aside from a personality flaw of being a skeezy douche? Because regardless of sign, some people are just skeezy douches. :/

Personally, I am not sure if anyone can be truly honest when answering these questions, because people can't handle the truth. That has been my experience, anyway. People (read:men) can't handle the truth and it does not pay to be honest. So most people feel the need to lie.

I have usually been 100% honest in the past about number of partners and the like. When I was dating around, I said so. I know not everyone is that way.

I have had my share of partners, comparatively though, not that many. Still, men do not like to hear it.

I really don't see how or why it is relevant. If you know you have been tested and are clean, and you use protection. Of course you should use protection unless you are in a committed relationship. Even then you probably should use protection, people cheat all the time. You have no way of knowing if and when someone is going to cheat, you can only trust them or take them on their word.

The Scorp's twin brother recently dated this girl for a few months. I guess when he found out how many sexual partners she had been with (over 50) and past sexual behaviors (multiple partners at once, etc.), he decided that was a deal breaker. She was a pretty nice girl though, she was a Scorp too though (and she is a day older than him so they have a similar chart, same moon and venus sign, etc).

I kind of understand his feelings on one hand but on the other hand, if they got along and she was able to be faithful to him and was free of disease, I don't see why it should matter. She could have lied and he would be none the wiser.

Posted by capgirl69
Personally, I am not sure if anyone can be truly honest when answering these questions, because people can't handle the truth. That has been my experience, anyway. People (read:men) can't handle the truth and it does not pay to be honest. So most people feel the need to lie.

I had asked a partner if he'd been sleeping with other women since we weren't in a committed relationship. I wanted to know so I had an idea what kind of risk was being taken/if frequent testing was necessary. He told me no, and I was inclined to believe him. Nothing really told me otherwise and my gut wasn't picking up bs. I knew his views on sex and all that so it lined up with those views. However, it did come to mind that despite my gut, he COULD be lying regardless. You just never know with people anymore. ...which is sad. It'd be nice to take the word of what your partner says, but people are ridiculous. It's kinda fucked that everyone's nether bits are at risk because someone was a self absorbed douche and couldn't be honest in regard to sexual health.

Despite what he said, I still got tested. I try to keep it semi regular despite commitment level. Even when I was in a committed relationship, whenever I had check ups/refills for birth control and was asked if I wanted to get tested, I went ahead and did it. Rather be safe than sorry.

The Scorp's twin brother recently dated this girl for a few months. I guess when he found out how many sexual partners she had been with (over 50) and past sexual behaviors (multiple partners at once, etc.), he decided that was a deal breaker.

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Eh, I don't blame him. It's come up with partners in the past mostly out of curiosity. Asking would be relevent because again, it gives you an idea wtf you're up against. They could come across clean, but there are a few STDs that can lay dormant for awhile and not show up til later. When the number is that high, I don't blame anyone for being wary. Ending a relationship over it? Meh. One guy I was with admitted to 11 partners and he was in his early 20s at the time. While I was a teeny bit wtf, I just made sure the proper precautions were in place.

In the Scorp's case, 50 guys for that chick is a bit excessive. I'm all for women going out and scratching that itch, if they so choose, but dayum. That's just kinda gross. :/ I guess it would depend on her age,

I guess it would depend on her age, too. But compared to averages, that's still really freaking high.

I heard about some study recently where the average partners over a lifetime was much smaller than most people imagined. It was a bit higher for guys if I remember right, but the overall numbers between the sexes was like in the single digits. It was surprising since our society pushes a whole other agenda on the topic.

http://www.iub.edu/~kinsey/resources/FAQ.html#number<BR>
The entire page has interesting info on the actual stats reported.

Haha, I was gonna say...


The one that was weird and shady with me was a Cap. But he was a control freak psycho. Wanted to know all about my business but he kept his under wraps.

Posted by Arielle83
ewww i mean i am a cancer, def not a pisces.

Not all the pisces are the same,pisces gets along very well with cancers.

Oh at least they spoke with you because pisces are very discret and silent ( shy) but they are not that bad xD

I do this to each guy I meet. After the initial few dates or few months. I am a one man women. So I know who I sleep with, and also know who would give me something. Then there's going to be a big problem to deal with. I just hope since I am honest with everyone you would be to with me.