Uncertainty is bothering

So I've been dating long distance this wonderful Pisces for almost 3 years. I love him to death he is my best friend and my first love, and we've been considering marriage for a while. We recently hit a rough spot and currently we are "separated". Since we didn't seriously date anybody previous to our relationship and he thinks we should see other people and test if it is infatuation or love. Neither of us like this, but it has to be done.

He loves me but wants to confirm it, because he literally woke up one day with an empty feeling and this is causing him to second guess us; And this is really bothering him considering he is a pisces.
As for I know where I stand, I love him. I know it's not infatuation, I am confident of it. Life asked me questioned my love, I gave my answer and proved it.


—If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.??

Posted by katica
" he thinks we should see other people and test if it is infatuation or love"

this is bs talk from a man that wants to play the field...
pisces are prone to boredom...both in life and love...
if it's not working for them...it's move on to the next exciting thing...

No it's not boredom because we would be talking about boredom. And he isn't doing this for just the hell on playing on the field or moving on to the next exciting thing. He wants to know is what he has real or not, for most pisces reality and fantasy are two things that will always conflict them.

Uncertainty just sucks. Full stop. I wish you the best in your relationship Tiny, I really do.

Posted by LovelyScorp

Posted by TinyTaurus
We recently hit a rough spot and currently we are "separated". Since we didn't seriously date anybody previous to our relationship and he thinks we should see other people and test if it is infatuation or love. Neither of us like this, but it has to be done.

Okay, what was the "rough spot" and how did it come about?

Who proposed the "seeing others" test?

If I was involved in a long distance relationship and put 100% commitment into it and was told that we should see others to confirm that it was "love" or infatuation, I would have to assume that someone has peeked his interest and he's weighing his options.

If it was his advice, then see others, date, have a good time. Do you.

What do you have to lose? The absolute worse thing you can do is sit and wait for hime to "come around".

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Well he woke up with something missing in him. It's been bothering him that he could feel like that, because you shouldn't feel empty in a happily ever after relationship. This has led him to second guess everything even my feelings. So he proposed the test.

I agree with the "it's better to do something than nothing" it's been a life philosophy for me. But As for dating other people, I'm not sure if I should. Because I know dating other people would be fruitless, because I already found what I was looking for.

Yeah that is horrible. I can feel you because the virgo I like is long distance as well. I am very uncertain about him. But here is my advice because I am uncertain I consider myself single and I tell him that he is single too. Now maybe you two are past that phase but it would appear that you are not there yet. So be single and date other people. You don't have to sleep with them. However date them enjoy there company since your fish is out in the sea a great distance. Hopefully after you two have really seen whats going on out there you two will be able to become certain.

If just so happens you meet someone new then hey! Is that really a bad thing? Especially if he wanted to see other people first?

This makes no sense at all ...


First of all, Pisces HAVE to be in close proximity of thier partner .... everything in our entire lives is dependent upon the energy we pick up .. you know, the whole environment thing. To be in a LDR, the Fish will NEVER be commited to a person because they cannot feel this person on a daily basis, to even develope the relationship.

Second, if he is uncertain and needs clarity to see whether the relationship is the right one, then he'd be moving TO you, not away from you ... regardless of where the sun was when he was born.

Any person, man or woman, in this situation ... if they truly wanted to have clarity about whether their LDR relationship is love or infatuation .. they would move closer.



In most liklihood ... he's lying his ass off.

psh. pisces is the sign of delusion. maybe he really believes what he said, but that would only mean he's deluding himself too. a lot of times, pisces won't tell people (or themselves) the real reasons they do what they do and want what they want...instead they'll tell you what you want to hear, what sounds the nicest, what makes it easiest for them to slip away without a scene. plus, they like to be able to come back if they want to, so keeping things open with you will mean that you stay available to him. at least in his mind. the reality is more likely to be that you get hurt so bad that you hate him, and the bridge is forever burnt, but they are significantly less empathetic than they think they are, so they'll expect you to act how they would act.

there's a good chance he's already met somebody...the empty feeling is the knowledge that he isn't free to be with her. pisces males tend to have a lot of female friends, and in a way it's sort of like having a harem. i'm not big on staying friends with guys after things "don't work out", but i basically told the pisces who hurt me to fuck off when he tried to be friends. i saw how flirtatious his friendships all were. no way i'd want to let him linger and toy with me like that. like some kind of king deciding who he'd bless with his "royal sceptre". lol. ugh.

there's also a chance that he's one of those pisces guys (many, but not all) who want their woman to be a little "dirty". they like damaged goods (think kurt cobain and courtney love for a very public example of this). she's kinda trashy, kinda slutty, maybe she has a drug problem, maybe she's had abortions or been treated for stds (or even given him one), maybe she cheats, maybe he goes out of town frequently and she has a drinking problem and just keeps forgetting how to say no. i'm guessing it's because they like to see themselves as the jesus who forgives and/or a victim. (i HIGHLY doubt that jesus was a pisces, but pretty much every pisces male i've known has wanted to view himself as a christ-like figure, even though most were more busy being criminals than simply associating with them.)

i recommend you just plain end it. they tend to find their way back eventually anyways, even when you don't want them to.

ouch!

date other people. now! the next time you're out and about and a half-way decent dude offers to take you to dinner and a movie...go! do NOT hesitate a response, say yes.

taurus has difficulty reversing course so take it from a fellow bull, the quickest way to adjust to this change in your relationship is to FORCE changes yourself. in this case, dating. other people isn't so much about finding a love connection or having sex, it's about shifting momentum. go out and enjoy yourself with person(s) of the opposite sex...or same sex if that's your thing. let 'em feed ya. it's just food and conversation. try to look at it as meeting a new platonic friend. if you're uncomfortable with the "date" aspect, go dutch.

you've been in an LDR for three years so you have to be starved for affection to some degree and enjoying the company of someone you can actually see can work wonders to snap you out of the LDR fog.

i don't care what you're telling yourself right now, you are NOT willing to wait. if you knew now that "waiting" meant that it would take 15 years for the pisces to swim his way back, would you wait? of course not.

given you don't know when he will man-up, why allow him to make such a critical life decision for you? yes, you know he is your one and only and it's fine to remain resolute in this "fact" but in the meantime...change.

if he makes his way back, if the feelings are still mutual, it's all good. but if he doesn't, you will have waited in vain...CRAP! now i'm going to be humming marley all night...

^ speaking of waiting...pisces are a lot more likely to show back up once you've started to move on and heal and be happy without them. they're more likely to open up old wounds. that's their thing. if you actually wait for him, he'll never show back up.

like i said...harem. they like having a harem available to them. so if you are available, that's enough. they don't need to have you. so they'll only be around once you aren't available.