What is a Platonic Friendship?

Yes.

Pardon the simple question but what constitutes a platonic friendship?

Because I'm either a friend 100% or a boyfriend 100% ...and I hear lots of people here having "platonic friendships" with other signs, especially with Aquas, so I'm just curious...

Is it like having friends with benefits? Is it just like having crushes on friends?

Just wondering...

No sex...platonic is used for opposite sex friendships mainly.

Hi Lady M!

So, is just friendship with the opposite sex? Oh...so in that case I do have many platonic friendships I guess! =) I have friends who are girls, that I would never ever cross boundaries with...do that makes them my platonic friends? I guess so!

Thank you!

P.S. I think me and Ms. may be getting back together pretty soon...not sure 100% yet, but getting there...she's winning my heart back little by little...Ms. Libra has been making some choices that haven't helped her out much...so we shall see LadyM...we shall see 😉

Hi VLL!
Nice to hear from you. Im happy for you and Ms. Aqua.

Mr. Libra is still around.
I think he's geting kinda attached, but we'll see how that goes too. 🙂

Platonic can be hard, as we all know its not always easy to be JUST friends with the opposite sex, but I think it can work. I hope so, I love having guy friends, waaay better than girls.

Lady M,

Oh, I didn't know Mr. Libra was still around...
I'm telling you, when Libras like you, you will know it! lol They can be quite the charmers and soooo easy-going, but they do tend to be a bit flirtatious too...
I like Libras though, sweet people =)

My Libra has been around even after I broke up with her. I just couldn't deal with the Ex-Aqua situation...and didn't thought it was fair for any of them. So, I stayed friends with both...thinking that was the one fair thing for everyone.

Somehow, they both kept on persuing things...so then I had to kind of observe how serious they were...and I have to say, I'm not 100% of getting involved with either...since Libra has her things just as much as my xAquas...
Sadly, I feel very attracted to both of them physically, so it's hard!

BUT, I've managed to behave well until now, so I think I'm coming to a decision pretty soon.
I think although I fear the risk involved...my heart deserves to be happy once again...so I'm measuring things to see what I need to do next...

Aquas and Libras are trouble for Virgos...or are we for them 😉

Hope all is wonderful today LadyM, keep me posted with your Mr. Libra situation.

Your platonic friend!

VLL

Thank you for the input Kris...I've never really understood that...now I kinda am =)

Oh Thanks...im a platonic friend huh...but you havent met me in person...😉

Well aquas and libras are actually pretty similar...Ive been noticing this lately.
I think aquas and libras are trouble for anyone. 🙂

I get the libra so its not that bad, HE says im confusing...but thats just me I cant help it LOL. I like him, but im cautious too. Like you said we shall see....

yay...you and the aqua may get back together...how fun!!! i am glad to hear that...
hopefully everything works out for the best for the two of you like it did with my aqua and i... 🙂

ladym,

you didn't say anything about any requirement for a face-to-face encounter to count a friendship as a platonic one, so it's too late...because i consider you my platonic friend and every is entitled to agree =)

yeah libras and aquas have some commonalities...must be the air things...they do some things that make me wanna dance the square dance in their faces with no shame...lol...i love how my libra always comes up with the "what did i do?" like me ex-aqua comes with the "i didn't mean to"...lol

i could see a future for those two signs...i know one couple so we shall see...keep me posted!

moonchild,

yes, we are "talking" right now.
i read your posts in the aquas section the other day and truly valued your honest heart.
i hope things are great for you too.

my aqua has been doing much better...we aren't officially back together, but we have been talking about it lots.
i'm still torn, because the libra i was seeing is really sweet...but...she has a little kid...and i don't know that i'm ready for that.

meanwhile ms. aqua is free and single, and yes a pain in the butt at times, but truly needs all that i could give right now...i'm just afraid to get hurt again...by her or anyone i think.

i mean, i'm talking to both, and they both know about each other and they are both still interested in a relationship with me...so i must look like i'm the bad guy here...but truly i'm just scared...that's why i'm just being a friend with both.

i think i could make it work with either one of them...but i'm trying to figure out what is that i need and can give...how are you feeling about your relationship these days?

and

dyrstr8z,

lol, woah...maybe some guys have a different meaning for that kind of friendship huh.

i'm not patience enough, so either i date them or not =)

vll...i am doing very well right now with my aqua, but of course i still wonder if i will get hurt again. that is my choice though, so if i do get hurt one day then i will have to deal with it...i am just hoping that everything works out for the best for the both of us!

the hard part for me is that my aqua told me he was going to do things a lot different and grow as a person for the better, when we first got back together. he told me he would do whatever it takes to improve our relationship and makes "us" happy. he has been doing a lot better, but there are certain things that will never change within him, even though he made promises. and, i truly believe that he wants to change his ways for the better (so i don't think he was just saying those words)... but it is not that easy for anyone to just change. that's just not how it works...
so, of course now that he has gotten comfortable with me again, his old ways are showing again...which i do sometimes worry about. but, i must continue to love him for all that he is if i want to stay with him.

"but it is not that easy for anyone to just change. that's just not how it works..."

Ah...c'mon moonchild - you don't really believe that do you? If we WANT to make a change - we will. If we don't want to, we won't. Very simple.

IF he wants to change his ways for the better and he has said these words to you - kuddos to him and I certaintly hope he does...the truth however will be in his actions. Observe...observe and observe.

There are many a man who will say "anything" to keep a woman on a string (I am not implying that he is doing this to you) if he does what he says...he will be building TRUST with you - if not, he is who he is.

I have a very good friend who I spoke with who has authored three books on relationships...he shared a story with a few us about himself. In his younger days - married to his first wife - he would go out, stay out all night doing whatever he wanted...he would then come home and tell his wife he was very sorry for his behaviour...she would accept his apology only for him to do it again, again and again ( see the pattern?) He said after so many years of doing this it became "normal" UNTIL one night...he came in like usual and said, "honey, I'm sorry" Her reply was, "FCUK sorry! you want to make a change? then change your FCUKIN behaviour!"

He said that was the moment the light bulb came on for him and he learned a great lesson from his former wife and will forever be grateful for what she said to him.

So, if it is our desire to change - we will.

Moonchild, if you are happy with him and he pleases you and lights you up making you more of who you are then by all means stay with him - he is a gem.

Any man that makes a woman feel bad is not worth keeping....PERIOD!

Oh VLL
I do consider you a platonic friend...we'd have to be, we are online...but I dont know if that would be possible offline...*shameless flirtation* 😛

Well hopefully your decision will become clearer soon...you know where I stand. I dont think your such a bad guy, since you are just friends with these ladies and are VERY honest with them both.

Hmmmm, maybe I could experience a Virguy oneday...

Later.

moonchild,

"so, of course now that he has gotten comfortable with me again, his old ways are showing again...which i do sometimes worry about. but, i must continue to love him for all that he is if i want to stay with him"

true. if you DO want to stay with him, you will have to learn to love him inspite of his sillyness or clueless ways at times...but if you DO decide that the hurts are more than the peace your heart desires...then of course you have the right to evaluate things...

i understand the unconditional love you have for him...and i'm sure he loves you very much too. just make sure that you are always trying to be fair with both of you though....his heart and well being and yours. you know as an aqua, he's pretty aware of his needs, make sure you do the same with yours k...i know is hard when we want for things to work.
i'm very happy that you are taking a new chance to give that a shot again, maybe you need that...maybe it will work out forever, maybe it won't. give time to see how things change or not...and if YOU will be willing to change as well.

if the theory doesn't fit, then change the facts...i read someone said that once, and it is so true. stay in touch my friend.

lady_m,

haha, you are great! your shameless flirtation is actually cute! it made me smile.

let's be glad for some of the benefits of the internet these days then...i don't know that the world is ready for another virgo-aqua encounter or is it?!

and yes, i'm honest with both, of course still struggling a bit with the whole situation. my human side wants to do whatever it feel good for me, my my complete being as a whole knows better than that...so i know i'll have to make a decision pretty soon...and this time do everything i can to not cause cognitive resonance in my mind.

how is the lucky libra doing these days?

also, do you think my aqua and i will still have the chance one day if i decided to end any chances with her now? i'm just afraid to let her go, i think, because i may see a future with her, but i dont know that i can see an inmediate one...because her work schedule...the long distance...her busyness...i think i may love her...but as you know love isn't enough sometimes...

meanwhile, ms. libra does give me the time and attention i need...and i'm growing in care towards her...

it is just so important for me to share part of my life with whoever i decide to date...and with my aqua...

with my aqua is like..i adore her for who she is and her little aquaness...but i fear i will miss many memories i want to share with her because of so many factors that are important for her right now...

hmmm...maybe i should tell her all this this week. i'm seeing her few days from now, so we'll see what she says about that. i know she really wants to work things out...but she has so much going on...and i ideally want my gf to become my best buddy you know...i don't know.

meanwhile, cute libra is caring more and more for me too it seems, so i really need to make big decisions soon...

anyway, i hope all is well with you. i need to get some sleep now.

have a great tuesday!

vll... i think when you get involved with an aqua, it is inevitable that they become the main focus. aqua's have the ability to become a fixed thought in your brain!!! whether you like it or not, they are able to do that somehow.

and in your case this shows... you seem to be quite content with your libra, yet you still keep wondering about the aqua ex. it's like you are looking out for her best interest rather than your own, and i know that with an aqua it is very easy to do that...trust me, i know! i just think you need to do what makes you happy, which could be to stay with ms. libra for the time being and let ms. aqua do her own thing. if you and ms. aqua were meant to be, then maybe one day you two will reunite. but for now, you seem to be very happy with ms. libra and i don't think that you should ruin that for yourself. and don't keep ms. aqua lingering in your thoughts too much 😉

YES, its our goal to have that affect on people MC 🙂

platonic friendships/relationships are for people who are

..afraid of commitment
..afraid of getting hurt
..lost (doesn't know what they want for a partner or most likely they know what they want from a partner but they can't seem to have it)
..too cautious when/why/how to give emotional investment to their partner
..not ready to be responsible for loving a person

it's when two people are both on a safe track wasting each other's time 'coz the relationship they have won't get anywhere.

^^OR he's gay and your a girl.

Maybe you just enjoy each other, but dont have any feelings like that for each other...I think its very possible, heck I have many of them.