When you're angry at your partner....

Do you think your partner realizes you're angry when you go silent or only when you confront them with it? I read an article that said men aren't stupid and know when they are wrong and your silence is enough, but as a person who likes to be heard, I kinda shook my head at this advice, but maybe I'm wrong.... so let's hear it dxp world, do you even notice if your partner goes silent suddenly, like ignoring texts, etc? Do you prefer the actual conflict, get it on the table, so to speak?

And please state your moon and mars

Yes if I've gone silent they notice. Usually I've gone silent to sort it out with myself before bringing it all to the table, and it does always get there.

I think communication is really important, and though sometimes I've had to shut the other out to balance this conflict myself, make sense of my emotions, and calm down, I'm usually always ready to clarify and pacify the situation.

But I think silence at first really does help me. I'm not really doing it with malicious intent

I have a Gemini moon and Leo Mars 🙂

Also, this kind of helps in avoiding the typical conflict i think you're referring to. I don't like conflict at all.

So it helps not to be so reactionary, but I would never be silent and sweep the issue under the rug forever. That article sounds suspect haha

Aqua Moon, Cancer Mars. Yup I know something is up in the air and I'm willing to give some space. I'm usually like "It seems like something is bugging you, Imma give you space, so you can bring it to the table in your own way, unless you wanna let it out now."

As an Aqua moon I'm objective about someone's anger, in that I don't presume it's me, unless they actually say, it's me. Which brings me to my next point:

"Yo, I'm not a mind reader, I'm not going to read your mind like Professor X and know that your pissed at me for whatever, so be open and honest, and I promise not to flip shit like a crazy person."

I personally don't care for the silent treatment, as a form of punishment. I try to break my partners of that habit by saying something similar to "U mad? Ok be mad but don't act like such a princess with a dick about it, I'm trying to enjoy my show." That usually enrages them to break the ice, I get my information, and really expressing yourself, is it soooo very hard?

Mars in Cancer - invented psycho bitch meme

Aqua Venus - Makes psycho bitch mode charming 🙂

Posted by TaurusinTexas
Do you think your partner realizes you're angry when you go silent or only when you confront them with it? I read an article that said men aren't stupid and know when they are wrong and your silence is enough, but as a person who likes to be heard, I kinda shook my head at this advice, but maybe I'm wrong.... so let's hear it dxp world, do you even notice if your partner goes silent suddenly, like ignoring texts, etc? Do you prefer the actual conflict, get it on the table, so to speak?

And please state your moon and mars

I know when my partner is upset as I notice everything. If I choose to respond or not (e.g. ask what's bothering him) will depend on if I'm in the mood to deal with his sh*t and immaturity that day. I have many talents. Mind reading isn't one.

Say what's you need to say or I'll decide when we talk about it, which may be never.

Wishy-Washy Moon/Can't stand passive aggressive behaviour Mars.

I went silent in my last relationship, when I stopped caring and I don't think he even noticed, that's why I was SMH at this advice to be silent, also even if I'm wrong I feel better saying how I feel, glad to know others see silent as damaging too.

In the beginning Ill go silent.

Then Ill start to confront.

Lastly, I'll start pretending nothing happened.

I found myself doing this recently, although I was still upset about the entire situation.

I don't think it's the right move, but I think some things are past confrontation or silence, which is most likely the beginning of then end if I get to a point of ignoring the offense.

Posted by TaurusinTexas
Do you think your partner realizes you're angry when you go silent or only when you confront them with it? I read an article that said men aren't stupid and know when they are wrong and your silence is enough, but as a person who likes to be heard, I kinda shook my head at this advice, but maybe I'm wrong.... so let's hear it dxp world, do you even notice if your partner goes silent suddenly, like ignoring texts, etc? Do you prefer the actual conflict, get it on the table, so to speak?

And please state your moon and mars

I go silent if I either:

1. Haven't figured out why exactly I'm upset / haven't found the words to express it, or

2. I don't trust myself to share / my partner to hear it without getting overly emotional.

If they ask what's wrong before 1 and 2 have been resolved, then i tell them "Im upset, but (see reasons above). I am not yet ready to discuss it."

Cancer Moon

Leo Mars

My boyfriend always knows when I'm upset, almost immediately after he's said or done something I don't like. So I would say silence works. I think some guys just play dumb because they rather not deal with it.

He's Libra moon, Gemini mars

Welp...I used to lash out when I was younger, and I was told a lot that I was ultrasensitive, so I just learned, in time, to just bottle things up.

I also learned while I'm in the process of shutting down, I will dissect why I am feeling that way I am. If it's logical, if I actually have that right to be pissy or if I'm just being a pisces.

It depends why I'm upset, but I usually keep the lines of communications open, but I don't want to talk about the offensive, perceived or not, until I have time to fully look at it. Then I will decide if I'm just being stupid, then I would completely drop it, because the problem lies with me or I will bring it up and be calm, cool and collected. I will say when I'm pushed to say what's going on before I have that time to look internally, I will most always say something I regret.

This process messing with people's minds. I dunno... I guess the aren't used to someone trying to be logical with anger. *shrugs*

Pisces sun

Taurus moon & venus

Leo mars

Posted by TaurusinTexas
Do you think your partner realizes you're angry when you go silent or only when you confront them with it? I read an article that said men aren't stupid and know when they are wrong and your silence is enough, but as a person who likes to be heard, I kinda shook my head at this advice, but maybe I'm wrong.... so let's hear it dxp world, do you even notice if your partner goes silent suddenly, like ignoring texts, etc? Do you prefer the actual conflict, get it on the table, so to speak?

And please state your moon and mars

I can tell when they go angry. I'm a good communicator so I like to know what's up. Doesn't have to be right at that instance. I can give a little time for the person to get it together & put it into the correct words to tell me. Not too long though because that will only frustrate me.