A Real Man—

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by DeeLovesRed on Friday, August 26, 2016 and has 9 replies.

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@Silvuh
10 Years500+ Posts

Definitely disagree..

If my SO decides to spend his money on me fine.

If we're married, not expecting anything more than his share of the bills. Anything else is a plus.

Demanding kind of takes away for me.

And I'd need for my man to have his own. It's an indication of stability and responsibility.

I have my own bank account.

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@DeeLovesRed
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Posted by Silvuh
Definitely disagree..

If my SO decides to spend his money on me fine.

If we're married, not expecting anything more than his share of the bills. Anything else is a plus.

Demanding kind of takes away for me.

And I'd need for my man to have his own. It's an indication of stability and responsibility.

I have my own bank account.

See the way I took it at first was..

Well sometimes you have those men who aren't great with managing money and they're very impulsive.. For instance: If the kids say they want a new bike, and the water bill hasn't been paid yet.. He'll buy the kids a new bike...

So When I seen it, I was like well I know I am a very responsible female.. I organize my money, I pay things in advance, I save A LOT, and I'm not an impulsive shopper/spender...

So off first thought, I said agree.. b/c I wouldn't want my SO to be impulsive... ESPECIALLY w/ $ $ $ $ $

But you brought up a good point, A Man who has a sense of responsibility, Someone who will think twice before being impulsive... & Now you I'm reevaluating my answer..

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@Silvuh
10 Years500+ Posts

Posted by DeeLovesRed

Posted by Silvuh
Definitely disagree..

If my SO decides to spend his money on me fine.

If we're married, not expecting anything more than his share of the bills. Anything else is a plus.

Demanding kind of takes away for me.

And I'd need for my man to have his own. It's an indication of stability and responsibility.

I have my own bank account.

See the way I took it at first was..

Well sometimes you have those men who aren't great with managing money and they're very impulsive.. For instance: If the kids say they want a new bike, and the water bill hasn't been paid yet.. He'll buy the kids a new bike...

So When I seen it, I was like well I know I am a very responsible female.. I organize my money, I pay things in advance, I save A LOT, and I'm not an impulsive shopper/spender...

So off first thought, I said agree.. b/c I wouldn't want my SO to be impulsive... ESPECIALLY w/ $ $ $ $ $

But you brought up a good point, A Man who has a sense of responsibility, Someone who will think twice before being impulsive... & Now you I'm reevaluating my answer..

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Yeah i wouldn't want my dude buying compulsively either i get that haha

But ultimately, there's gotta be some trust factor there. I should trust you're responsible enough to decipher whether or not you've got financial leeway to buy the babe a bike.

I don't want to ration the money you make. I have no desire for control that way.

It's actually emasculating to me, I find that kind of incompetence gross ?? haha

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@lisabethur8
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Posted by DeeLovesRed
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What do you all think??

Agree or Disagree?

to be very honest, I like that my husband keeps a SECRET stash for himself away from myself 😆 😆

hahaha.

I need him to FEEL SECURITY to the max.

and he knows i'm gonna inherit a lot. lol

ok, seriously, it all goes into the family pool anyway.