Astrology Is Getting Old...

Im in a lousy mood so venting seems like a good time as any. One of my pet peeves anymore is people relying too much on or having barely knowledge of astrology but is used anyway for dating.

I understand the appeal of astrology and yes, when you look at someone's chart it can describe them to a point. After to that is empty generalization. A persons upbringing and emotional maturity level defines them more than a chart.

For example, Ive got a lesbian friend whos Sun Aries, Sag Moon, Sag Mars and Venus? You would think that may make her a huge player or adulterer right? Wrong. She's been together with her partner for over 17 years. Never once has strayed.

Look you cant blame someone's infidelity, commitphobicness, jealousy, abusiveness on signs. It really does boil down to what happened with their parents, and other emotional traumas. Psychological traumas inform and mold our character.

I can understand turning to charts for protection against potential heartache. Someone can have the perfect chart, but still be pieces of dogsh-t. And also people who just go by sun signs and dismiss someone out of the equation for dating/relationship material because of the stereotypes for being the wrong one are f---ing ignorant.

Whatever happened to just getting to know someone? Learning their quirks/tics? It seems anymore people just go on and assume the worst when telling them your sun sign. "Oh you're a Scorpio, has to be a nympho" Yes I may indeed be a nympho, but thats because of being a dude. Most guys are highly sexed, its a thing called testerone.

I get tired of being judged for the negative actions people associated with my sun sign do. So what if you've been screwed over by every Gem, Cap, Scorp, Cancer, etc on the planet? Nobody's the same, there is a reason individuality exists.

Yet we continue and dump our previous emotional baggage onto the next person who happens to share the sun sign. Ive had more than my fair share of bad experiences with status climbing, gold-digging Cap females. But guess what? Their hunger for the right person with social status had nothing to do with being a cap. Its because they're empty, hollow people. Oh and also because 90% of the women in my city are made up of golddiggers.

As weary I already am of Cap girls, not going to hold it against them for my previous experiences. And nobody here should either. Bottom line - get your head out of the stars

Posted by FlyingBurritos80

Whatever happened to just getting to know someone? Learning their quirks/tics? It seems anymore people just go on and assume the worst when telling them your sun sign. "Oh you're a Scorpio, has to be a nympho" Yes I may indeed be a nympho, but thats because of being a dude. Most guys are highly sexed, its a thing called testerone.

It is still here. When you don't see enough of that then he/she does not want much from the other. I don't believe Scorpios live for sex. Sex by itself--its core is quite empty and really only a biological imperative. Scorpio is about intensity--the lethal poison in its stinger. I believe sex to a Scorpio is an outlet in which he/she can link and give the powerful emotions that he/she has waited for some time to share.

Posted by FlyingBurritos80

Im in a lousy mood so venting seems like a good time as any.

You're always venting? Burritoess

Posted by ellessque
My parents were a gem/scorp pair. It was awful. but i'm sure environment/upbringing/education/etc had more to do with it than sun sign.

I'm naturally attracted to cap & virgo, but taurus not so much. I think taurus women are the best of friends but taurus men, meh.

I'm thinking that with my aries moon I should explore the fire signs more, with the exception of leo. there wouldn't be enough space for both of our ego's in any standard sized room.

they say our natural mates are other water signs but I don't like all the sappy emotions a cancer or pisces may bring to the table. if i knew what i know now, i would have tried to date a pisces or a cancer when i was much younger...that may have helped me out as I aged because my main relationships when I was younger had been with a harsh earth sign (cap)...maybe I'd more "feely" if things would have worked out differently.

air signs...i just don't "get" them. it's as if they speak an entirely different language sometimes and I'm left scratching my head in confusion.

uh you do have venus in libra and libra is an air sign so how dont you understand the language if you have a air placement.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Scorpio males are such bitches.

Amen to that.

Awww.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Scorpio males are such bitches.

I love scorpio males! Would never have a relationship with one, but they have been some of the best friends I have ever had, been all bad experiences with the females though lol

First and foremost, the original post is very interesting and well written. 🙂

I agree with much of it. I wouldn't rule out a girl based on her sun sign - I think that's really putting yourself out of something that could potentially be amazing and life changing. I also find that despite being interested in Astrology, I don't really bother to find out people stars signs. When I first became interested I was curious to find it out - just to see what they were - but over the last few months I haven't really cared about that. I think I like the mystery more - and I sometimes think that certain people will let someone's sign judge their thoughts and opinion on that person. I really do believe that.

For example, I sometimes see people on here constantly having digs at a certain sign because they had a bad experience. Certain people definitely sound like broken records. I find it all a little bit amusing and immature, if anything, I mean how can you judge someone that you don't even know? And if you go with the mindset of hating a certain sign then you will never give anyone from that sign a chance. Which again, is just a weird approach in my eyes.

In life you will have good and bad experiences with PEOPLE. If I had a bad experience with say, a Capricorn, I wouldn't then go ahead and show my dislike for anyone that has that as their star sign. Just because I had one bad experience. That just isn't my school of thought.

Compatibility chart's are also something that I find interesting but I would never use to decide any relationship. I think that I still have the same approach as I did before I became interested in astrology - I just don't take anything as a rule and I like to keep my mind open. Astrology is a good guide and it has so much good information - but I really think that you are responsible for your own decisions and that you should make the decision yourself and not allow websites or others to dictate what choices you make.

I think the problem is that people don't incorporate all the other factors of life when they speak on astrology. Everything has to be in moderation.

Yes, astrology is not scientifically proven, BUT we have to admit the incredible amount of coincidence in it! We can't ignore it b/c most of it is spot on.

But, at the same time, other factors like race, location, childhood, experiences, maturity, etc. play big roles in how each person turns out too.

Astrology is nothing but a bunch of big pronouns used to describe people according to birthdate/birth location. Problem is, everybody doesn't accept certain "general descriptions" of themselves. People never stop growing, plus certain personality traits don't come out until much later in life. So a 15 year old Scorpio learning about astrology for the 1st time may not agree with the "possessiveness" trait for example b/c they are not yet fully delevoped in their personalities. But yet, 10 years later, that same Scorpio might finally agree that they can be a tad possessive. Being aware of self is important

I couldn't agree more with the original post! People will use astrology to feel better sometimes. They look to it to help them understand something they can't understand. When was the last time you saw a happy person who knew nothing about astrology suddenly want to look up the sun sign of their significant other so they can understand why they get along so well? It doesn't usually happen. They look to it to understand why they're not getting along in some way with their partner. (I'm guilty of all of this.)

Thats not to judge all people that are into astrology. I know many others were fascinated long before they got into a crappy relationship. 🙂 I'm only referring to suckers like me.

I also don't like the judgements people make immediately based on a persons sun sign. People have said the dumbest shit to me because I'm an Aqua. As if they know something about me based on that. I can understand maybe having some ideas about who I may be, but damn! At least attempt to find out if you're right or wrong by talking to me before acting like an asshole. I don't even bother trying to correct people that make those kinds of mistakes. They're just close minded. Its no skin off my back.

I dont use astrology to get to know someone. I use it as fun way to understand why they are acting a certain way. I would never disregard a potential relationship because of their starsign, basically because I dont need to find out their starsign. I dont get on with them and then I ask their bithday and then I understand. Same with people I like, I dont go hunting down my astrological matches, I meet someone feel a spark then find out their sign.

I think when most people say they wouldnt date a certain sign they dont really mean it. I have said a million times how I would never date another Cancer and once again I am with one lol. Just above I said I dont want a relationship with a scorpio but that doesnt mean I would turn down someone I got on really well with just because of their birthday. Anyone who did that would be crazy!

Also agree about certain people who REALLY need to get over their grudges. Not every thread needs a "_______(insert sign) are all ho's/tramps/bitches because I once got my heart broken by them" post. Get the hell over it!! lol

I agree with what you say about judging people based on their sign. I also agree that a persons upbringing determines their character more than a zodiac sign, however, I do believe that certain characteristics are shared with people of the same sign/element, but that's definitely not enough to judge or write-off a person.

Now with that being said, back to Caps. Capricorn women may be status-seeking and a bit materialistic, but I wouldn't call even the lowest of us shallow or empty. We are some of the realest women you will ever meet, real in that we understand. Pull a Cap to the side and talk HONESTLY and OPENLY to her and you will see another side. People make sacrifices in this life, and some Caps sacrifice unconditional love for security. If the opportunity arose to choose love, we know we could do our part, but you can never really put 100% trust in someone else. That can be our issue. Maybe those Cap women you've had bad experiences with didn't feel you were being open enough. We need full exposure for that facade to fade.