Cheap eh?

I'm noticing that more & more people nowadays are starting to answer the "What RELIGION do you follow?" question either blank OR answer by saying, "Non religious." This gives creedence to the fact that many men/women NO longer believe in celebrating certain holidays that stem from religious beliefs.

Same goes for holidays that aren't associated with religion/moral in any way: Valentine's Day, Sweetie's Day, birthdays (each person's birthday SHOULD be considered a holiday to them!), anniversaries, etc.

MY QUESTION: Is it fair to consider those who refuse to give their partners gifts OR celebrate on certain holidays/occasions, "cheap?"

1 of my male friends NEVER buys his girlfriend anything for her birthday, Valentine's day, Christmas, Sweetie's Day, NOTHING! Him actually buying her something isn't so bad BUT he doesn't even spend any time with her OR celebrate certain days that mean ALOT to her, with her.

Some say it's b/c people are cheap. They figure that if it means alot to the other person (whether you personally believe in it or not) that you should give in & compromise celebrating for your partner.

I'm 1 of those people who believes this to an EXTENT! I don't care if you don't buy me a $ 5,000 neclace on Valentine's day BUT since the day means alot to me, I would appreciate lots of extra love, affection or SOMETHING sentimental on this day. Who needs expensive gifts?! Not me. And if the guy is cheap, surely he shouldn't be complaining if he has to buy me a $ 1.99 Hallmark card!!! Or hell, even writing me a poem or something! Haven't guys learned that we chicks like things with sentimental value MORE than monetary value?!!

Ugh!

Hell, I sacrifice & support men watching ESPN throughout 40% of their lifetimes! I even watch sports with them even though I hate doing it! Why? B/c if it means alot to my partner, it's worth sucking it up & compromising sometimes! So is him showing/giving me a little "extra" love on certain days that are sentimental to me, too much to ask?! SHEESSSSH!

I've heard some guys claim they don't celebrate certain occassions b/c they don't believe in them OR straight up think it's silly how so many people only focus on the monetary value of things. Hey, that's all true, good & well! BUT, I find it quite suspicious when a guy is willing to celebrate the 4th of July, Labor Day, HIS birthday, etc. & basically any occasions/holidays that society usually doesn't give focus on to one's companion!

In other words, it's quite funny AND highly SUSPICIOUS that he always "stops believing in it" in or around HER birthday or Valentine's day--those days where showing HER some love is the point! Cheap bastxrds!

Ha! I knew it! I knew I wasn't crazy! It amazes me how people decide to "believe" in special occasions when it doesn't involve buying/doing anything for their partners! They conveinantly claim not to believe in holidays/birthdays/special occasions when it's time to pull out the wallet or atleast creative side of their brains! Cheapskates!

I'm not a gift buyer, nor a reciever. On special 'occassions' anyway. I don't like the fact that I'm supposed to/expected to. I love buying things for people at random times of the year when I'm feeling extra appreciative of someone or i just see something i know they'd like. That stuff feels good to me...not birthday/Christmas gift giving. I just can't participate.

I do not celebrate commercial holidays. I have never and will never buy anyone a valentines day present. I show my love all year round and buy gifts when I want to, not on one specific day when everyone else is doing it. I'm also not in to christmas either. Only day that I feel is special is someones birthday. I will never miss anyone I care abouts birthday, large gift, and always get graced with my presence 🙂

I agree, I hate the feeling that someone will hate me persay I don't get them anything or if I don't get them exactly what they wanted. But when it comes to relationships, compromise is important sometimes. And if my partner is used to gift giving (especially if the gifts are sentimental) I'd give in. After all, I may not like it all the way BUT at the same time, it's not gonna kill me either to do something he likes and/or is used to.

I'm more about spending that extra time with my partner OR atleast giving them something that has more sentimental value (vs. monetary) if it'll mean alot to my partner.

Now if my partner wants me to decorate the house green on clover day, THAT might be a problem! lol but hey, it won't kill me to compromise on certain occasions especially since most of us claim we are doing those very same things every other day of the week, right?

I don't typically celebrate most commercial holidays either BUT if certain holidays carry huge value in my partner's family, oh what the heck, it's not gonna kill me & break me to give in & compromise. If giving love & appreciation to our partners every day isn't an issue, then I don't believe in making it an issue on a national holiday strictly devoted to those kinds of things.

i don't think it's "cheap". i think it's emotionally stingy. it shows a lack of emotional investment in the relationship.

when i was younger i was "against" those holidays. then i got older and actually dated more, and i really wanted the cheesy cuteness of it. i don't believe in doing something big or expensive, but if someone won't do anything at all i think they just don't care.

Posted by curious visitor
i don't think it's "cheap". i think it's emotionally stingy. it shows a lack of emotional investment in the relationship.

when i was younger i was "against" those holidays. then i got older and actually dated more, and i really wanted the cheesy cuteness of it. i don't believe in doing something big or expensive, but if someone won't do anything at all i think they just don't care.

I agree. It's 1 thing to not support commercial holidays b/c of the lack of geniuneness is some of it (in other words, would we be so "giving" persay those holidays didn't exist?) but then again, when people are so against it that they act as if doing so would kill/break them, that's when I start giving them the suspicious eye.