comment on this...

so i had a "friend" say to me this morning...

"Happy Valentine's Day! Hope you have a good one. Although it is a shitty time of year for those without partners."



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You're thoughts on this?

too bad he didn't hold his greeting to "happy valentines day!" i think there is alot of artificial pressure and standards on this day for many folks, coupled and uncoupled alike. maybe on a day such as this, the best thing we can do is remember, kindness matters. hearts and a big hug to you CP!!!

lol@jrussou
definitely NOT dating this friend. though there was a point where he wished.
the thing is, there's no pressure whatsoever for me. i thought there might be about a month ago, but lordy... it aint no thang at all. and to hear others imply that there should be.... gah! basically, i ripped him a new one for this blasphemy. not because i took it personally, though it would seem like it, i just dont like that notion. and to think... all for a silly commercialized holiday. yes it's a day to take make an opportunity out of, but that opportunity should ONLY be to make the important people feel good. he tried covering it up with... 'i was trying to care about you' pffff... im no idiot. granted i dont think it was entirely malicious, but just plain careless.

on a brighter note... i just dropped by the high school to have a bouquet of flowers delivered to my lil sis'. with any luck she was both embarrassed and smug about it.

indeed... kindness does matter. an excellent thing to remember xoxo tripod! 🙂

and... yes i might have gone off on him more than necessary. apparently it's something i felt strongly about. it just seemed like such a damn thing to say. we have since apologized. sheesh... what a morning. lol

Sorry CreepyPants, I can't say I see a whole lot wrong with what he said.

Unless you just broke up with someone and he was being supremely insensitive?

he sounds like one of those passive/agressive types. those folks will say they didn't really mean it,but that's not the truth. cut through their bs, you are doing them a huge favor!

whether i just broke up with someone or not, its presumptuous to think single people should feel like shit around v-day. and yes... i did in fact just break up with someone. and i am in no way, what-SO-ever trying to deaaal with any hardship around that break up. it's long been dealt with. right now... i CHOOSE to be single. there is no longing in my heart for some seat to be filled. i'm not looking for a savior. chocolates, flowers and red hearts everywhere are NOT a constant reminder of singleness... in fact, they are simply ideas as to what i can do for the family and friends around me that i still love and are very close to. i have feelings still for my ex, but they are what they are. i'm not wallowing in misery over anything. i'm a very happy person. some people have even gone so far as to say that i must be coldhearted by the way i've quickly gotten over things, but it's not even true. i just know how to deal with it. in this case, live with it! anyhow... this 'friend' of mine... he was the first to know about the break-up. and he is indeed the type to self project his own insecurities. lets put it this way, after 'correcting' him, he tried to dump me as a friend... accusing me of being there for him only when he was down as if i was trying to use him to feel better about myself... wtf, ya know? so apparently it's a BAD thing to be there for a friend when they need you the most? and he definitely made a point of neglecting every other time he and i have hung out when life was just fine for the both of us. like i said, we've apologized... and i'm sure he knows what he's sorry for. though i dont think he quite understands himself and because of that... he doesnt understand the kind of friendship i offer him. he pulls this kind of bull all the time... accusing me of being a 'fake' friend. not so encouraging really. his place in my heart creeps further and further outside of my affection after everytime he does it. eventually i'll be moving from this area, and i already dont think i'll be keeping in touch with him.

and btw... he IS in a relationship.

in a relationship? wow, that makes his comment suck even more!

and thanks Ldy. 😛 no need to punch him. it was kind of funny, cuz i did cut through his bs, tripod. he said,
"sorry, i was trying to care for you and failed. poor choice of words. come kick me in the balls why dont you"
i said, "ya i think i will... repeatedly ...until i get tired of it"

for one, grow a brain. two, use it. three, own up to yourself and dont try to play the victim. four... 'care for me'? haha! by insinuating that i should feel like something is missing in my life right now (and this is even interpreting his phrasing nicely)... because of a quasi holiday? five ...*slap✨ 😛

it's the principle of what he said that crossed me. Valentine's Day is a 'holiday' for EVURRREEEEEONE!

anyhoo, i get worked up when i think about it still. but we have already, for the most part, knolled it all out. 'til next time! and bless his trying heart i know there will be.