Dating someone who canNOT have children

This question is moreso towards MEN:

Guys with NO kids: Would you date a woman who cannot medically have kids? (assuming you know UP FRONT)
-Sure there are other methods to obtaining kids that would NOT be biologically yours, BUT truthfully, how much would this factor influence/sway your decision about potentially being with her long-term?

Guys who ALREADY HAVE children: Would you date a woman who (UP FRONT) told you she could NOT have biologically have children? Let's say you want MORE children in the future---

And in both scenarios, let's just naturally assume that this woman is a GOOD catch & someone you already like/love ALOT!

So basically the question is do you want kids or not?

I'm interested in the answers. I cannot have any more children myself.

It would not factor into it at all for me. I am a custodial single father and would like more children (maybe).

I guess the same question could apply to LADIES as well:

For the ladies that DON'T already have kids: Would you continue to date a man that told you up front that he didn't want any children at all?

For the ladies who ALREADY HAVE kids (and want more in the future): Would you continue to date a man who claims he doesn't want any kids at all?

From a woman's standpoint (my own of course) I would NOT continue dating someone that didn't want kids in the future or perhaps even a man who couldn't medically have kids. Now of course (before you all jump down my throat) it would all depend on how long I've known him BUT my question is geared more towards JUST MEETING someone & finding out they can't/won't have kids in the future.

If I'm already in love with someone & have already made the decision to want to spend the rest of my life with them, perhaps a man not medically being able to have kids don't necessarily run me away BUT this will be a topic of compromise that will be discussed until we both come to a medium. BUT if If I'm on a 1st date with a man, which whom I know barely anything about & yet he tells me he doesn't want kids/or can't have them medically at all, I'd probably choose to not date him anymore. And I don't think me choosing to walk away would be exactly considered "shallow" either.

If I was dating a man who already had kids & yet he figures he doesn't want anymore, I'm sure down the road (if things go that route) opinions/viewpoints can change as they always usually do. It's not to say that I'd discriminate against any men who couldn't biologically have children, BUT it would be a MAJOR factor in my decision making as to whether or not I consider him a long-term potential.

These things can often be deal breakers in relationships. Thats why both parties have to be honest from the beginning.

If I was allot older, like, in my 50s and in the dating world again for what ever reason I don't think I'll worry about kids but more so of having someone the spend the rest of my last 50 years with. But being young, in college, I do see myself falling in love and filling a home with one or two sweet babies. But if I was older, whether I already have full grown kids or not, and I'm single, because I never marries, or I divorced or ... my husband died :/.... then I'd be more focused on myself and the rest of my life. Being young I don't have to worry about the rest of my life so I can go on years without a lover and be good, friends and family, but at a certain age I wouldn't expect to have single friends without their own families, and my own parents and siblings, they'll be dealing with their families, or getting old....


I have a friend who's old enough to be my mother. She had an operation about 10 years ago and it's complicated but she's not the healthiest person. Nor very attractive. And believe it, she's a virgin till this day. Her sister has a husband with two kids, her brother is getting merried in a few months, her parents still go to bed together holding hands and she has no one by her side. She's one to be interested in having kids, but just having someone in her life would be good enough.

@Diana...aww 😢 that sucks about your friend not being able to find companionship.

It sucks but hey, people nowadays are very shallow & place a high amount of priority on the way they choose someone based on sexual attraction 1st. And if these men are not finding themselves to be sexually attracted to her at all, it sucks that they're probably not even allowing her to get past stage 1 with them.

It's true that sometimes people don't start craving for companionship and/or that "family life" until they are literally surrounded by friends/family that already have that. Whereas a person can be fine w/o a man when she's single & associating with lots of friends that are also single, it might be a whole 'nother story when that very same person is single but yet is constantly surrounded by people who have found mates. It's kind of like the influence of human nature. People naturally want to experience what other people are experiencing, even if the examples aren't necessarily good example.

A friend of mine was single for about 5-6 years & at first, she was completely content with it b/c she was focusing on finishing her education. BUT the minute all of her peers starting hooking up, getting married & starting families, she all of the sudden wanted to stick her hand in the "find a man" jar too. Problem is, all her friends that were in relationships weren't necessarily in GOOD relationships, BUT that didn't really matter to her. All she wanted was to be in a relationship just for the sake of being able to say she had someone. Sad

I don't want kids so I wouldn't have a problem with it. Fortunately my GF doesn't want them either.

I recently found out I was infertile\impotent and could not have children. I left my girlfriend that I had been with for over 8 years as I felt it was unfair on her as she really wanted kids.

Dating new people hasn't been easy as it's always in the back of my mind. Its not the easiest thing to approach when looking for a new partner.

Thankfully after many searches on fertility I managed to bump into a website that caters for people like my self. I would recommend you pay Babylessdating.com a visit. If find yourself in a similar situation there is no easier way of meeting someone without worrying about baby's and children.

Posted by krysrenee7
I guess the same question could apply to LADIES as well:

For the ladies that DON'T already have kids: Would you continue to date a man that told you up front that he didn't want any children at all?

For the ladies who ALREADY HAVE kids (and want more in the future): Would you continue to date a man who claims he doesn't want any kids at all?

I honestly don't know what I would do until I came to that crossroad. See, I do have a child of my own. I can still go either way. I'm cool with just my one but I could potentially see myself having one more later. Although it's not a deal-breaker for me if he doesn't. Just as long as he could accept the responsibility of helping to raise my son then all shall be well.