Posted by Candeh15
This may have been addressed before, but I don't think I really understood the reasoning for this. In several of my relationships, I got dealt the "I'm going to disappear instead of actually tell you we're over" card. While this sucks and all, I pack up and move on after a bit; however, I'm a rather straightforward person. I lose respect for guys when they do this because I would much prefer if the guy actually said to me that he wasn't feeling me anymore and wanted to stop. Heartbroken, sure, but I would have felt better about moving on. I'm usually left confused (and since I over-analyze everything) rather hurt by this gesture. Now, I've done this before too, although, I never waited a couple of months or so to pull a disappearing act. I usually did it very early on when nothing was becoming established (like, after a week or two), but generally I tell the guy if I feel like we aren't work out. This often happens to me after seeing the guy for a few months. This isn't a rant out of bitterness and spite (okay, maybe a little), but I generally want a little light shed on this and what is going on through a guy's mind when he decides to do this. And what are the tell-tale signs of a disappearing act about to happen?