Dis or dat (help needed).

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Recently started communicating with 2 girls, have no idea who would be the right one for a relationship. Decided to turn to dxp for help b/c I need advice and have no idea what to expect. (Personal chart - Aqua sun, Aries moon, Venus in Pisces, Gemini rising, Mars in Scorpio)



Girl 1 (The one who has shown interested in me and would be the easiest option) -

Gem sun, Cap moon, Venus in cancer, Mars in gemini.

Girl 2 (She previously dated one of my good friends but they didn't click, would require for me a lot of time and effort) - Libra sun, aqua moon, Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Virgo.



If neither one of these work, I will maintain friendships and avoid any kind of serious relationship unless anything changes. Can bring up full charts of you lads need it. The first option might be inaccurate in some areas.
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Posted by jane84
Hmm wondering who you feel would be a better option depending on your conversations with them..

I know a lot of Aqua/Gem and Aqua/Libra couples.

The Aqua/Gem are crazy and fun. They look like they really enjoy the company of the other.

The Aqua/Libra seem more stable, have children together. They seem very much in love.

What are you looking for in this relationship?
A relationship that doesn't demand much and isn't particularly serious (I'm not even in 20's yet). I have rather limited time and either option will be an infrequent relationship until summer.

A few side notes: both of them are the best friends with each other and the 2nd option could damage my reputation within a group of friends right now, but it won't affect anything if I wait for a while.
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Posted by jane84
Hmm wondering who you feel would be a better option depending on your conversations with them..

I know a lot of Aqua/Gem and Aqua/Libra couples.

The Aqua/Gem are crazy and fun. They look like they really enjoy the company of the other.

The Aqua/Libra seem more stable, have children together. They seem very much in love.

What are you looking for in this relationship?
A relationship that doesn't demand much and isn't particularly serious (I'm not even in 20's yet). I have rather limited time and either option will be an infrequent relationship until summer.

A few side notes: both of them are the best friends with each other and the 2nd option could damage my reputation within a group of friends right now, but it won't affect anything if I wait for a while.

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Lol I'd say neither then..
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Don't date if you don't feel like it and don't even risk until you really found someone you are interested in.

Honestly, if I were you in this situation and i feel like dating, i'll go with the person who has shown me interest.

If it's by chart, I'll go with girl 2 cause the signs link better.

But overall, I think i'll stay as friends since dating under 20's with limited time seems troublesome and i'll rather be free lmao
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Posted by Jubileeee
Don't date if you don't feel like it and don't even risk until you really found someone you are interested in.

Honestly, if I were you in this situation and i feel like dating, i'll go with the person who has shown me interest.

If it's by chart, I'll go with girl 2 cause the signs link better.

But overall, I think i'll stay as friends since dating under 20's with limited time seems troublesome and i'll rather be free lmao
Interesting. I guess staying as friends is the right way to go, considering some limitations here and there.
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Posted by Alieness
Who calculates in such a manner to start a relationship?

Why exactly do u HAVE to have a relationship?
1. Judgement is up to me, it's just that I want to hear dxp's opinion on the matter. Just because I posted this doesn't mean I will do something until there's the right time.

2. I want to have a relationship b/c I need some kind of emotional closure and I could really use someone who would listen to me. I live in a very limited environment, which means there will rarely be a choice when it comes down to life-related stuff and the only way you can get out of this situation is by migrating to another place (which is at this point looked down upon in 9/10 states, let's be real).
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Who calculates in such a manner to start a relationship?

Why exactly do u HAVE to have a relationship?
1. Judgement is up to me, it's just that I want to hear dxp's opinion on the matter. Just because I posted this doesn't mean I will do something until there's the right time.

2. I want to have a relationship b/c I need some kind of emotional closure and I could really use someone who would listen to me. I live in a very limited environment, which means there will rarely be a choice when it comes down to life-related stuff and the only way you can get out of this situation is by migrating to another place (which is at this point looked down upon in 9/10 states, let's be real).
Still...we go for relationships when we really like someone already. Not by carefully looking at pros n cons and comparing prospects. And ... regarding no 2. A close friend is sufficient..

I mean ok you r young n all that but that is even more crazy because at that age one THINKS before relationships rarely. But well..I personally like the second chart ...I think it goes well with your chart ..if understanding and "emotional" needs r to be met..coz ur sun is conjunct her moon. And ur Mars conjunct her venus. Also, expecting warmth frm a gem sun with cap moon maybe met with disappointment..so u can try with the former first lol
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I prefer to avoid trouble or rejection.

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DIS or DAT 😄?! Hahaha!!!!

Not sure it's just your age, I could imagine my 50 yrs old Aqua Ex (also Aries moon, Pisces Venus) making "romantic" decisions in the same way....flip a coin?

So...avoid troble or rejection...tick

Get some emotional "closure", probably closeness...tick

Get someone to listen to you......tick



The G Searcher........what you really need is a dog!
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Posted by Undine
DIS or DAT 😄?! Hahaha!!!!

Not sure it's just your age, I could imagine my 50 yrs old Aqua Ex (also Aries moon, Pisces Venus) making "romantic" decisions in the same way....flip a coin?

So...avoid troble or rejection...tick

Get some emotional "closure", probably closeness...tick

Get someone to listen to you......tick



The G Searcher........what you really need is a dog!


Don't have time for a dog. Would also take a toll on my budget.
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Posted by TheGreatSearcher
Posted by Undine
DIS or DAT 😄?! Hahaha!!!!

Not sure it's just your age, I could imagine my 50 yrs old Aqua Ex (also Aries moon, Pisces Venus) making "romantic" decisions in the same way....flip a coin?

So...avoid troble or rejection...tick

Get some emotional "closure", probably closeness...tick

Get someone to listen to you......tick



The G Searcher........what you really need is a dog!


Don't have time for a dog. Would also take a toll on my budget.

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Then it stands to reason you don't have the time or budget for a girlfriend.
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Posted by yupvirgo
I really like you lol.

You remind me of myself when I was younger.

Both of them don't seem suitable for you if you're looking for less drama, low maintenance and low budget. But if you're just gonna be playing around, go for the first one who is interested in you and easier.
Will take your advice.



UPDATE: I ran through both of the charts and I feel like I will be better off with the 1st option. I want to thank all who contributed to the discussion.