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Dianasart
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I don't know how to react to the situation I'm in right now.
Last night while my younger brother was moving out, and we were arguing, he said harsh things like "now you're free to bring *boyfriend* here and fuck all you want." He confessed to having come across pictures on my Aries's phone of me. 😢
My boyfriend and I have always been decent in public and give no reason for anyone to judge in any way. He's a serious guy too, who doesn't let people use his phone or computer so that no one really can come across these private things. But I can't find myself to trust him the same way.
A week ago we were hooking his laptop up to a projector and while going through the properties his friend accidentally found one of my pictures. And his phone being private isn't entirely true either because one of his brothers uses it sometimes.
I didn't think much of it until last night, and can't help but wonder who else has seen these pictures. I don't even know who to blame: me, for letting him take the pictures, or him for begging me to let him? It's not as if he forced me.
I told him not to contact me for a while. He says he's deleted all the pictures off both his phone and laptop. His angry at my brother for looking at his phone at all without permission. But I'm angry at him for the chances of any of his friends or brothers seeing the pictures too.
Right now I don't want to see anyone; not my brother, not his friends and brothers, and definitely not him.
I can't stand the idea of anyone having seen me in such nasty, porn-like ways.
Aren't I right for reacting this way?
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krysrenee7
@krysrenee7
17 Years5,000+ Posts

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Think about it. A sibling asking another sibling to use a phone isn't irrational at all.

It may only start to seem irrational or suspicious if the owner of the phone actually has something to hide in that phone.

You should've never taken those pics or stored them in a phone to begin with.

Even if your brother or anyone else hadn't come across those pics, it's foolish of you to assume that anything you store in a phone is hidden from the rest of the world.

Your man could've just as easily & accidentally dropped/lost his phone, leaving it vulnerable to strangers or people who'd do the wrong thing with those pics.

And no offense, but if my brother found sexual pics of me in a phone, he wouldn't think it was funny, laugh it off or be comfortable either. 1. He's your brother so of course him seeing you in a sexual way oughta be uncomfortable. 2. He, like everyone else, knows the dangers of people storing nude pics in cellphones, so his criticism probably stemmed from those 2 things. It's just that you took it a little bit more personal, but not b/c he did something wrong but moreso b/c/ you're embarassed

When you take nude pics, you take the risk of others seeing them & using/showing them in however they please behind closed doors. Yes, the person whose crazy enough to expose the pics is in the wrong, BUT so is the person who naively took & store the pics in the 1st place