First time sex and orgasming

This topic isn't a situation I'm in but from a discussion I had with a bunch of friends over several bottles of wine. The answers varied as I expected but I still found myself surprised with certain friends of mine 🙂

Ladies, when you're going to have sex with a guy for the first time (Not your first time having sex), how important is it to you that he brings you to orgasm?

We're not talking one night stand situations. We're talking someone you have found interest in or have feelings for. Someone you'll be spending time with and seeing again romantically (either casual or seriously).

Does that connection via orgasm the first time with him drive you to pursue the relationship more than if he had not?

i say bringing me to orgasm the first time isn't important, um but I never had a guy I was interested in bring me orgasm the first time so I can't really say if it will make me pursue him even more but I can imagine it would be a bonus, its like icing on top of a cake haha

Well, I would love it if it happened the first time with someone, but it rarely does. This is not the fault of the man, though. It takes me awhile to get physically comfortable enough with someone to reach ma peak. 😉

Does that connection via orgasm the first time with him drive you to pursue the relationship more than if he had not?

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NO

If I do not have feelings for the one, I won't enjoy doing any thing with him.

Getting physical happiness is easy compared to creating personal, intimate bond with some one.

Well being that it is a person you know and possibly have feelings for then you have probably had plenty of conversations. At sometime sex will come into the convo(well at least most of the time from my experience)which is usually a time for feeling out each others likes and dislikes and of course boasting sexual abilities. I know many may not have orgasims on their first encounter with a peson but why wouldn't you? Especially if you know most of the details of how to with this person and have the equipment and abilities you have talked about.Its kind of like a first impression sexually or maybe more like an interview got to make it count, blow my socks off. If you don't it doesn't mean the situation is doomed but I expect to have one ( practice what you preach..I know i will).

Its not hard to make a girl cum if you are not selfish partner and if you take your time and know female anatomy!

Its not hard to make a girl cum if you are not selfish partner and if you take your time and know female anatomy!

The mental aspect is enough to make me have an orgasim so if you include that with your encounter than your chances are better at getting the big O.

I pretty much agree w/ashgang and Keva too. Sex is important to me, and if we are compatible I will have no issue having the big "O" if I am into him, i will stick around to see if it was first time issues or is that what it is? If after that it is still a problem, well, there would be less interest on my part in pursuing more, if it works it works and its not a difficult task to get the Big "O". I must say, one person, he is selfish in my opinion, and it has caused me to be stronger about the "he must go" aspect of the relationship.

you should always give them one first, then worry bout yourself..
*shrugs*

I like you already ian 😄 Are you new? 🙂

Posted by strawberrykush
It's semi important. Getting him off is my focus

This. For the first time at least.

Mine would be in the back of my head, but not a primary focus since that takes a little more familiarity. I don't hold him to it. If he does though, bonus!

And chances are if I'm having sex with someone I'm already in/ seeing myself in a relationship with them. So if I don't reach climax the first time I'm not automatically cutting them off or prioritizing

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by strawberrykush
It's semi important. Getting him off is my focus

This. For the first time at least.

Mine would be in the back of my head, but not a primary focus since that takes a little more familiarity. I don't hold him to it. If he does though, bonus!

And chances are if I'm having sex with someone I'm already in/ seeing myself in a relationship with them. So if I don't reach climax the first time I'm not automatically cutting them off or prioritizing

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