Revenge....Good, Bad, or Ugly?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by fore on Tuesday, September 2, 2008 and has 16 replies.

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@fore
18 Years

By sheer happenstance, stumbled upon information that would likely injure sworn foe. Use to my advantage or no? Comments please.

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@fore
18 Years

Information will tarnish his social reputation and will possibly harm his business. He's been doing the nasty with his friend's wife for more than one year; now the wife and husband are in nasty custody battle in divorce. Info will likely impact wife's $ $ $ recovery in divorce. Also, the divorce is touchy subject as wife/husband are beloved in circle of friends; everyone sad about divorce. Circle not realize wife's been stepping out; thought it was just marriage of 15+ years not working out.

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@fore
18 Years

Wife/husband are longest married in circle; marriage thought be bulletproof. Everyone in 30's. My sworn foe not know a) he is my sworn foe , or b) that their elaborate scheme of switching vehicles for sleepovers has been compromised.

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@USCTaurusGal
18 Years1,000+ Posts

You reap what you sow.I don't see how you putting this information out there is a good thing and actually could potentially backfire on you. Trust me, everything always comes out in the wash. Why dirty your hands with this situation. Sometimes the high road is the best road to take. Just my opinion though.

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@fore
18 Years

True; generally take the high road. It's just that the low road is wayyyyy too tempting. (tip would be done anonymously to husband) Ever want to just bury someone? Not nice; just human.

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@USCTaurusGal
18 Years1,000+ Posts

I'm always careful about stuff like this, there is an expression "when you point a finger there are 3 more pointing back at you." I'll say this, I hope your back yard and glass house are always free of anything you wouldn't want people to know about. As GB said, we are ALL human and revenge is nice, but fleeting and momentary. But, as he also said, do as you like.

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@fore
18 Years

USCTaurusGal: I can think of a lot of expressions. "let he who is without sin cast the first stone" "you shall not commit adultery" "you shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife..." "you shall not steal" etc etc etc.
Ain't nothing in my glass house or backyard I don't want anyone to see. Obviously not an easy decision for me; that's why I'm putting it out there. Guess I'll just use my GPS and see what the best route is, maximizing it for traffic and weather conditions LOL

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@USCTaurusGal
18 Years1,000+ Posts

I liken it to the police. I don't have anything in my house, but I still don't want their a $ $ in my house. Glad that you live a morally non corrupt life. Wish I could say the same ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck to whatever decision you make and that if you choose to "anon" the info, that you get that feeling of vindication/revenge/trampling that you must want! All the best.

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@CanTaur
19 YearsTaurus

I'd like to know what the foe did to fore LOL I can feel the hate for the foe through the computer CRAZY! I've had some people do some shitty things to me in my life but I can't recall a time that I wanted to destroy someone and not only them but all that surrounded them.

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@fore
18 Years

CanTaur: You feel it too? LOL What did foe do? Guy's a tool; slick. Did some business together; did not pay me all the $ $ $ owed. Stole my time and my money. Foe went out with friend of mine; more crazy crap. For the sake of circle unity high road's the only route taken until now.

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@dogsbody
18 Years1,000+ Posts

It's Only my opinion but:
providing theres no way it can come back to you
"DO IT"

If someone does something nasty to me intentionally (not happened often)
It May take days, it may take months but they "Pay" in the end.

DONT GET MAD, GET EVEN

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@Perfect Gem Angel
18 Years500+ Posts

Best revenge is success, personal success.

What I get from this, there is a person(s) gonna get hurt that dint do the taking, but maybe getting taken from in the most personal manner possible, their marriage/intimate relationship(s).

I wouldn't do it, sometimes, the consequences are not well thought out, what if this shatters just one human life for your revenge? what price do you put on that?

Can you live w/yourself if one of these people pull off the side of the road and kill themselves?

Really, think about all the people who get hurt and are there children involved in any of these relationships?

I say don't do it, and move on, and let karma come back to them, the best revenge is success!