Get a backbone! Sheeeesh!

A friend of mine recently found out that the guy she was dating not only:
1. Lied about his real name (he gave her a false name b/c he didn't want her to look him up & discover he has 7 5th-degree felonies!)
2. Lied about his birthday & age
3. Had 2 other girlfriends on the side (1 for 6 months & the other for 2.5 years)
4. Lied about being in school (he told her he was in graduate school)
5. Had been trying to impregnate his REAL girlfriend (of 2.5 years) just a few days before him & my friend made it official
6. Got into a relationship with her (my friend) 2 days after he broke up with his REAL girlfriend (2.5 years)(when he got out of 1 relationship, he literally jumped into another)
7. This guy put a brick through his REAL girlfriend's car last week just to steal her phone (b/c he was scared she was possibly messing with other guys after they broke up)
8. This guy got his other girlfriend (of 6 months) pregnant--she is 7 1'2 weeks
9. Gave an std to his REAL girlfriend (+ she kept getting yeast infections! Ugh)
I could go on & on!

What makes is WORSE is that when my friend finally talked to the "real girlfriend" she expected the real girlfriend to be just as done & ready to move on from this guy, but NO. The real girlfriend thinks this is a competition & told my friend that she "wasn't going anywhere." All I can say is WOWWWWWWW!

*Ladies, who cares who got lied to MORE; in a situation that involves cheating, EVERYONE has been lied to (even the cheater himself lies to himself at some point).
*Ladies, if a man knows he can do the WORST to you & yet you STILL take him back, he will NEVER respect you. A man will eventually look at you & realize how weak/desperate you are; trust me, if the tables were turned, he would NOT stay with you!
*Ladies, enough of this, "I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him either" attitude. Let him go be with his mistresses! Stop holding on to someone who can't respect you behind closed doors! If there's anyone who should look/feel dumb, it oughta be the women (not you) who are still putting up with it!
*Ladies, when a man makes the DECISION to lie to you and/or betray you, that decision is usually FINAL. It doesn't matter how many years you've been together; somethings are UNNACCEPTABLE! Screw that "ride or die" stuff! Being "ride or die" aint worth a shxt if the other person isn't the same for you!

Point is: GET A BACKBONE! Sheeeesh!

I'm so disappointed in how some of you ladies handle being betrayed/cheated on! Instead of leaving the bastard, some of you ladies hold on tighter just for the sake of making sure he doesn't end up with any of the women he's cheated with. It's sad, pathetic & ridiculous!

Who cares if the other woman is prettier or better than you. What difference does it make?! All that matters is that he made the DECISION to take the risk of losing you; base your decision to leave on that vs. staying all to prove a point to another woman that no one else can have him. I mean seriously ladies, get a backbone!

Listen to yourself sometimes! Don't go all out trying to convince another woman of how much of a dirty dog YOUR man is if YOU aren't even strong enough to leave him yourself! All it's gonna do is make the other women think YOU'RE the biggest idiot! Obviously if he was THAT bad, YOU wouldn't still be with him; it makes the other women want to hold on tighter too.

When a man does the unthinkable/unforgiveable, STOP letting him explain & make excuses for his behavior. He knows EXACTLY what he's doing. A man cannot change what he refuses to acknowledge! Stop asking him WHY he did it or WHERE he did it or with WHOM. It does NOT matter. It won't make you feel any better, trust me!

You TEACH people how to TREAT you. No, it's never your fault that someone betrays you BUT if you give them the impression that they can KEEP betraying you & yet still have you, it IS your fault

Ladies get a f'ing backbone! Men who truly love & respect you will NOT mind you having a backbone! TRUST ME!

"I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him either"

This is by far one of the stupidest things I've ever heard come out of someone's mouth but I've heard it before. I don't get it at all, I just don't understand it.

Wait baby, I can explain. It wasn't me.

It

Wasn't

Me

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I sometimes think the actual men are irrelevant to certain women. They're more concerned with competing with other women and the men are merely toys to collect. I get this vision of women who are so busy looking into the eyes of their competition that they don't even see the men standing next to them so it doesn't really matter what they're doing.

At this point it becomes an ego thing. Some people can't stand the fact that they got rejected or cheated on, so they try and make the man stay just because their ego can't take the blow. They think if they can get the man to stay, "oh he really does love me & I am worth something."....hence the ego gets re-inflated. It's like they pull wool over their own eyes rather than facing the rejection and moving on.

Posted by cappysweetie
"I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him either"

This is by far one of the stupidest things I've ever heard come out of someone's mouth but I've heard it before. I don't get it at all, I just don't understand it.

Agreed. I just don't get why people have to be like that.

Posted by QLIbraMale
@krysrenee7 you got some pretty sad girlfriends, they need inspiration on their self-esteem.

Well I think some of you guys are mistaken. My friend (the one whose only known him for a couple of weeks) did NOT stay around once she found out everything that was going on. She is NOT the 1 competing and/or looking for ego-inflated reasons to stay around. It's the guy's actual REAL girlfriend (of 2.5 years) that's competing & saying things like "I'm not going anywhere." The min. my friend found out the guy lied about his real name, she was done.

This post wasn't about my friend being dumb; it was about the other 2 women in this situation (the girlfriend of 2.5 years & the other girlfriend of only 6 months) who are competing and fighting over this man. My friend can't control nor could she have predicted that she was going to be lied to. She was like most of us...she started dating a guy she really liked, he had good/smooth game & hey, eventually they took things to a relationship level. It was just her LUCK that only 2 weeks after being with him that she found all this stuff out! My friend didn't even get the chance to get in deep with this guy; it had only been 1-2 wks before all this shxt came out!

At some point, they ALL got played but what's even more sad is that the very women who should've been the QUICKEST to run (the girlfriend of 2.5 years) actually didn't. She stalled. People love to say, "Oh well it's easier said than done." Bullshxt! In this kind of situation, it wouldn't matter how much in love you were with the other person or how long you've been together. What he did was NOT ok & ALL the women in this situation should've ran like hell w/o even a 2nd thought. Sad thing is, 2 are still sticking around trying to prove a point to the other that they are going "anywhere" while meanwhile MY friend is at home in disbelief at how desperate & pathetic they all are

Posted by QLIbraMale
@krysrenee7 forgive my skimming lol bad habit anyways those ladies are dumb and "it only happens because you let it".

=)
I know it's quite sad. I'm sure that guy is at home laughing it up & loving the attention. Since when does the villian get away with murder while the victims are at home going at it with eachother? Oh man, he's lucky! He can do all of those things & yet STILL come out on top! Smh

Whoa...she'd be an awesome TV talk show host! Lets make that happen. Krysrenee...you game?

Posted by Shadows
Whoa...she'd be an awesome TV talk show host! Lets make that happen. Krysrenee...you game?

HA! I've BEEN ready! Bring it on!

Posted by PandorasBox
Yeah..

Krys what do your Geminiac placements look like anywho? You have alot of cool wisdom to share w/ the world

Sun: Aquarius
Rising: Pisces
Moon: Cancer
Venus: Capricorn
Mars: Aries

Now you guys know why I'm so amazing =P

LOL! You're awesome. Hmm...is Mars important? Here's my crap below. I never paid much attention to anything other than my sun, moon and venus. Probably cause I could relate to them.

Sun: Aquarius
Rising: Gemini (is that bad?)
Moon: Aries
Venus: Aries
Mars: Taurus (eh?)

We could at the very least begin a daily talk show on here, no? You should start in the Misc. section or something. Do a 'Todays topic: —??' Right? That would be fun, no? You could call on certain guests and whatnot! Hehe, how much fun would that be! Damn...I need fun.

OMG, that would be awesome, PandorasBox! We can all chant JERRRRY! JERRRRRY! (Not sure anyone outside of the US will understand that joke.)

lol Oprah?? More like Tyra.


Everytime she unnecessarily capitalizes words, I imagine her blinking her eyes the way Tyra does when shes getting all serious and intense haha

😛

Hehe, I've picked up on that capitalization thing too. Probably because I tend to do it.

You're only 24! How the hell do you remember Jenny Jones?!? 🙂

Posted by ellessque
wait 2 weeks and it goes into "relationship" status? Yes, your friend may be having some issues too. sorry to say. 😢

Well she had sort of known him for a while before they officially started dating. She just didn't start paying him full attention until he officially wanted to date her.

I def. think she should've waited to get to know him before getting into a relationship with him, but in her mind, she felt that things were right & to her, she can be an "in the moment" type of girl. She's never jumped into a relationship with someone that fast before. I think she thought, oh what the hell..I like him & we seem to have great chemistry so why not?! I think she was so surprised that he wanted to wife her up, especially considering most of the guys in her past have been commitment phobes. She was so taken back by the fact that he wanted her to be his girlfriend that she said yes on impulse rather than really thinking things through

On 1 hand, it's NOT good that she jumped into a relationship with him only after 2 weeks of knowing him, BUT on the flip side it's a BLESSING (lol oh hush you love my capitalization!) that she found out what she did in only 1 week! It takes most women months and/or even years to find out the kind of dirt she found out! Thank God she got out early!

Posted by ellessque
she is lucky. Most women who jump so quickly usually have glazed over eyes and only see the pretty bits and ignore the messy ones.

Perhaps this will teach her to take it a little slower on the next curve. i would be extremely leery of any man who sung "relationship" in just two weeks. that would set off my radar immediately and i'd probably resort to a full blow scorpioific investigation 😛

Very true. When she 1st told me he wanted to be with her I was like ummmmm are you sure he's right for you?! And I could tell she was a little hesistant. He kept feeding her all this bull about how people are dumb for ignoring their desires & purposely waiting all for the sake of being able to say they didn't rush. He brought up the ideal of how some people actually end up in long-term/lasting relationships even if they sleep together on the 1st night. In other words, he wanted to put to rest all the "rumors" about how taboo it is to rush into something; ya know, the whole, "If it feels right, go for it" bullshxt

She's def. lucky. He almost succeeded in getting her to think making decisions based off her emotions in the moment was the best policy BUT ha, if he took out the time to try to get to know her he'd know that she's Inspector Gadget; that suspicious/skeptical/investigative side in her will never go away. Thank goodness that side of her came out immediately; she couldn't suppressed it & allowed her head to remain in the clouds. But the minute she saw that something just wasn't right, she didn't ignore her intuition. She didn't necessarily walk away though until she had proof that her instincts were right.

Those other girls are looking/feeling dumb b/c they ignored their intuitions. There's NO way in hell the real girlfriend of 2.5 years didn't know her man was that coniving. With the shxt he was pulling, I REFUSE to believe that she didn't see some warning signs early on

If my friend saw those warning signs within 7 days, there's NO WAY IN HELL I can believe that those other women didn't see some of those "signs" early on too.

It's funny. People always love to go back in hindsight & say, "I should've known" or "I figured something wasn't right that 1 day when he...." & of course all you really can do is look at them & say, "Well woman, why didn't you run when you 1st suspected something wasn't right!!!!!?" Butttt of course, women love to use the excuse that they figured they were just being insecure, when it's conveinant.