Has this happend to you too?

Have you noticed that when you're "looking for love," & are single, that no good prospects come your way? The guys you want don't want you or they keep hitting you with the "Just give me some time" line?!

BUT yet when you finally get in a relationship, THAT'S when all the old flings come back! That's when all the guys who "needed time" in the past, suddenly are "ready" for you now! That's when you start meeting other guys who appear to be the whole package, but you're mad as hell b/c you wonder where all these prince charmings were when you were single & looking!

Has this ever happened to anyone else?!

This is off topic but I notice the same thing happens with jobs. When you're unemployed & going to fill out 100 applications, it's like NO ONE on earth is hiring. But yet when you finally get a job, that's when all the jobs you REALLY wanted start calling you back! Ugh!!!!!!

It does seem to happen that way. When you are not seeking it seems to hit you upside the head with a ball bat. As to the other, I like to poke that in a file called "Murphy's Law and his Mother In Law". You consider yourself taken, off the market ( insert phrase of choice ) then every male in a 50 mile radius is a flirt. That's when you just smile, shake your head, and withdraw.
Ain't nuthin' goin' on but the rent suckahs!
As to the wondering about the other Princes, I figure they obviously did not recognize a Queen when they saw one, passed her up. So back it up boys, cut the "No, it's MY tractor" sandbox stuff and step aside. I got this. Problem? Talk to that man over there. The one gazing intently at you like he'd like to shred you with his teeth. 😉 LOLOL

"Have you noticed that when you're "looking for love," & are single, that no good prospects come your way? The guys you want don't want you or they keep hitting you with the "Just give me some time" line?!"

That's why I DON'T look. The "just give me some time line".....well, that could work both ways. A man/woman may truly need that time to sort out how he/she feels about his/her relationship/life and the direction it may be headed in. Some won't commit to something 100% unless they are absolutly ready mentally, physically, financially, or emotionally. On the other hand, the "just give me some time" line could also just be a way to let someone down easily to spare their feelings.


I think that too many people have too many expectations and standards. Don't misunderstand, I am not saying that standards and expectations are wrong, but at least be realistic about them! I have a few friends who have high standards/expectations, so much so, that they are MISSING out on what is directly in front of them and you know what........they are STILL SINGLE wondering what it is they are doing "wrong"! I use "wrong" in quotes because IMO, who am I to judge? (I get the image of Will Smith in "Hitch" crying at the window over the girl he lost) and they don't realize that THAT is what they are doing that is "wrong"

"BUT yet when you finally get in a relationship, THAT'S when all the old flings come back! That's when all the guys who "needed time" in the past, suddenly are "ready" for you now! That's when you start meeting other guys who appear to be the whole package, but you're mad as hell b/c you wonder where all these prince charmings were when you were single & looking!"

This is why I like being a "tumbleweed in the wind" 😛

Posted by Archimedes
"That's why I DON'T look. The "just give me some time line".....well, that could work both ways. A man/woman may truly need that time to sort out how he/she feels about his/her relationship/life and the direction it may be headed in.

I don't think there's anything wrong with "looking." Why are people nowadays so ashamed to admit that they're ready or looking for love? That's a natural desire. As with anything, too much of anything in excess can ruin things. Looking too/SO hard that you end up being the overly picky B who can't figure out why he/she's still single is 1 thing.

But before you know what you want, you've gotta be honest about where you're going. And it's kind of hard to get in a car & just sit there, expecting for the car to drive itself. Any time you're open to finding love, you were already looking, even if you didn't get on an online dating website or stand pretty in a bar waiting on someone to approach you.

I get that some people truly aren't ready. That's fine. BUT what I have a problem with is those who know they can only give 45% to a cause that requires 90% +. In other words, the guy whose not ready for love shouldn't be the main 1 playing house or acting like he's in a relationship with someone, only to look confused when the other person sticks their hand out & asks for a wedding ring to seal the deal!

When you're ready, your actions & dedication will reflect that. The same goes for when you're not ready. If you're not ready, don't go sit in the room that's made for individuals who ARE ready. And that's what I'm seeing alot now. If you're not ready, your actions should reflect that you're not.

Yea it's odd

I made a thread about this a while back. I'm kind of in this situation now, except I'm not in a relationship. I'm single and I haven't really been looking, and I have like 4 different guys talking to me. This doesn't happen to me when I'm single and ready to mingle lol.

Yes, they do always seem to show up after you've moved on, dont they? Just had this happen. Kind of sweet justice to be able to say 'well, guess you should have known what you had when you had it.'

But yeah, I'm getting tired of looking when all I find are men who don't have their shit together. Going to attempt to refocus on my horses/career/etc. I kind of suck at that though, when I do want that fairy tale of an American dream.

Posted by Skykomish
Yes, they do always seem to show up after you've moved on, dont they? Just had this happen. Kind of sweet justice to be able to say 'well, guess you should have known what you had when you had it.'

But yeah, I'm getting tired of looking when all I find are men who don't have their shit together. Going to attempt to refocus on my horses/career/etc. I kind of suck at that though, when I do want that fairy tale of an American dream.

What exactly do you "suck at"—

Aries head butt for putting yourself down. Bad Skykomish.

lol RNAP. I suck at letting go of my desire for a relationship and focusing on only myself. 😛 And I still say I suck at it.

well then focus on your horses if you have trouble focusing on you?
do they love you? I bet they do.
So you are loved - we have that one covered - only a matter of time before some human guy sweeps you off your feet.

Make the most of being a Single Skykomish while you can! Get in all those lazy baths, nights when you can just have pop tarts for dinner, girly drink sessions, long rides when you don't have to be back home til it suits you.

Have you got a cute vet? farrier? feed guy? fence repairman?