DEFINE: Good/real man

People throw/toss around the term "good man/woman" the same way they do with the word "love" "real" "manhood" and/or lots of other words that people really don't know the true meaning of.

Lots of women every day claim they're looking for a "good man" or a man whose a "MAN" & not a "boy." Well, define "man." Define a "good man." Define a "REAL man."

My 1 male friend cringes every time he hears a woman say, "He wasn't MAN enough to...." & it's b/c he feels that what/how women define manhood is different than how/what men define it.

When you walk around saying, "I want a REAL man" or a "GOOD man," what exactly do you mean? What is REAL? To a guy, if he's got testicles, is over the age of 18 & hasn't knocked up & left anybody yet, he considers himself a "man." But women see it differently sometimes.

Posted by krysrenee7
When you walk around saying, "I want a REAL man" or a "GOOD man," what exactly do you mean? What is REAL? To a guy, if he's got testicles, is over the age of 18 & hasn't knocked up & left anybody yet, he considers himself a "man." But women see it differently sometimes.

Lol at this^^ To me, a real man doesn't sweat the small stuff, is kind to the elderly, children and animals..respects women but is not a pushover or weak. He will protect his lady, appreciate her and make her feel safe. He respects himself enough to not cheat with every thing that passes his way. He does not have to be handsome, but he should dress nice and keep himself groomed and clean. He is not loud and obnoxious in front of women to get their attention. His aura shows he is all man, he doesnt need to prove it. It would be nice if he arrives on a white horse, but then I might be asking for too much..lol

I think the best you can hope is someone whos on your side and you can get through problems with, cause life is fucking full of them.

I think the best you can hope is someone whos on your side and you can get through problems with, cause life is fucking full of them.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
A lot of that applies to *real women these days, give or take a few.
If not they're just lazy freeloading fatbabies who'll just do as they please come hell or high water, then decide "I want/deserve a provider".
Pssshhhh.

Yes, but we are discussing men here, don't try and turn it around to the woman Mr Cowboy dude...🙂

Yossarian, you single?

Seriously.. where can I find me one of those?

Love what Yoss said but most of it is bullshit....Real men don't do any of that, a man that has been trained by society would though, when he's trained to be nice and tuck his balls and throw away his masculinity and come over to the womans side then it all makes sense.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
It doesn't matter if we do all these thing or believe in them. Women will find a way to be a bitch with you and take advantage of your kindness. I am done with being the nice guy 🙂

You can all just suck it.

Haha your not nice 😛 What are you worried about?

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Posted by THEKingofLibra
It doesn't matter if we do all these thing or believe in them. Women will find a way to be a bitch with you and take advantage of your kindness. I am done with being the nice guy 🙂

You can all just suck it.

Haha your not nice 😛 What are you worried about?

I donno.. waking up in an icetub missing a kidney?

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lol...silly Libra

Good woman me. Good man *pointing to huge dude*. Der. That sums that crapola right up I do believe. *dusting off hands*

That and Yossarians description absolutely, hands down, bar none ROCKS.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
It doesn't matter if we do all these thing or believe in them. Women will find a way to be a bitch with you and take advantage of your kindness. I am done with being the nice guy 🙂

You can all just suck it.

There's 1 thing you're forgetting. REAL men don't entertain little girls. Real/good men find their equal, which means finding a partner who WON'T do the very things you just described. Behind every real/good man, there's always a good woman.

Being the "nice guy" may not work for all women, BUT they particularly don't work for the women that weren't seeking a REAL man to begin with. So you have to take that into account

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Posted by THEKingofLibra
It doesn't matter if we do all these thing or believe in them. Women will find a way to be a bitch with you and take advantage of your kindness. I am done with being the nice guy 🙂

You can all just suck it.

Haha your not nice 😛 What are you worried about?

I donno.. waking up in an icetub missing a kidney?

lol...silly Libra

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Lol ya never know

🙂 And I yours LibraLuv. Mutual respect is not only good, it's great. Quick woman, let's do the 'Wonder Twin Powers Activate' fist bump. I shall go out on a limb and assume the form of a cow, yours is on you. 😉

LOL Have a lovely evening LibraLuv. 🙂 *snort* Old lady indeed. Who struts it, who rocks it? Oh yehhhhhh. 😄

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Posted by krysrenee7
When you walk around saying, "I want a REAL man" or a "GOOD man," what exactly do you mean? What is REAL? To a guy, if he's got testicles, is over the age of 18 & hasn't knocked up & left anybody yet, he considers himself a "man." But women see it differently sometimes.

Lol at this^^ To me, a real man doesn't sweat the small stuff, is kind to the elderly, children and animals..respects women but is not a pushover or weak. He will protect his lady, appreciate her and make her feel safe. He respects himself enough to not cheat with every thing that passes his way. He does not have to be handsome, but he should dress nice and keep himself groomed and clean. He is not loud and obnoxious in front of women to get their attention. His aura shows he is all man, he doesnt need to prove it. It would be nice if he arrives on a white horse, but then I might be asking for too much..lol

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Agreed, and a prince charming would be nice 😉

Ah LibraLuv, this good woman will do anything for that good man. Wait, assuredly. And why? Because he is worth every moment of it. And you better believe if I'm feeling it, he's knowing it. 🙂

Yossarian, please. You're stepping on my crinoline again, it's dragging at my chemise and corset strings. I came by to tell you your Lady requires your presence at the gentlemans room. Cigars and brandy I do believe. Now sir, this is silk, have a care.

Absolutely. It has become far too simple to say "Well, if it doesn't work out..", it's not in my vocabulary. I am indeed divorced, been through that wringer of delight. But did I let it sour me, make me any less optimistic for the institution itself? No. Relationships take work, and a lot of it. Damned hard work. Being respectful of another person, taking into account that things will not be all sanded horehound drops, lucky clovers and rainbows, knowing the honesty of things. Communication, and I don't give two fig newtons that I'm *here* on an internal map. If it's there, it's there. Plain and simple. It's wanting someone in your life because you cannot imagine them not there.
Nor will it always be a non-stop carnival ride. The moments you treasure really are indeed the most simple. A sunny day and a BBQ, snuggled up together watching a movie with the rain pattering down, the way a mouth feels when it smiles under your own; arms pulling you in tight. All of these little things are like strings attaching one heart to another. Build things on up. Brick by brick, making the foundation solid. If you do that, it will withstand any storm.
You have much to give LibraLuv, a man would be lucky indeed to have you at his side and at his back. I am stating pure and honest fact. You know how they say one is an arse and the other not? Perhaps in some cases, but not all. I think when two stand as one it radiates outward. United front, the pack against the world. It seems that way to me. I very much want to be laughing my fool head off at the geezer chasing me round the bed, and not because he's forgotten why he's chasing, but because I REMEMBER.
Yes indeed. I want to be one of the two holding a hand, shuffling along the sidewalk when the autumn leaves spiral down. Have younger couples smile and nod a head in our direction and wish that is what they have, what they strive for. This is what I believe in. That love does indeed make all things possible.

Posted by LibraLuv
Well my dear, I do believe you just baked the hell out of the many layers in that cake and iced it too. 😉

Might have at that. Buttercream on mocha cake, must be a Taurus. 😉

Is it fair to say the people that consider themselves good are really not high up on the food chain, not really desirable as in mainstream desirable so a lot of those women and men get left out of the dating pool. I notice a pattern of attractive men and women (the 10's plus 10's) are not really worried about meeting a good mate nor concerned about the definition of a good person, moreso concerned about other qualities.

Just a thought...

Posted by tiki33
Is it fair to say the people that consider themselves good are really not high up on the food chain, not really desirable as in mainstream desirable so a lot of those women and men get left out of the dating pool. I notice a pattern of attractive men and women (the 10's plus 10's) are not really worried about meeting a good mate nor concerned about the definition of a good person, moreso concerned about other qualities.

Well, I don't think it has to do with the level of attractiveness someone has. Moreso that certain types of people allow their qualities to speak for themselves, thus that's why you never see them off with these huge standards lists. Those who have non-negotiable standards, those who follow those standards no matter what (they never allow their emotions to substitute for logic) & those who know their worth kinda sorta do have that edge about them...almost as if they could care less whether someone "Wants" them or not b/c they know deep down that just b/c 1 million guys are approaching you every day doesn't mean that every single 1 of them is worth it

I've noticed that the people who generally "talk" about it all the time are usually the ones who never deliver. They're all words & no substance. They lack inwardly the very things they demand or require out of others.

On 1 hand, we're ALL taught that we're worth it, especially when some douchebag tells us that we're not good enough. But then again, we all do have the right to feel that someone is not ENOUGH for us, therefore not right for us altogether.