how do I show a libra man that I'll be there for h

Me and my 1.5 year bf just broke up last week. It came out of the blue. We were in a long distance for about 9 months. We always texted each other and try to make skype call everyday.

About 2 months ago I suggested him that he should move back to him hometown which I'm living in. But he's now in my hometown and want to continue travelling. But he wants to continue going to another country and continue this long distance relationship. So I suggested that he should move back here for awhile then he can go to another country and I'll go with him.

He thought it's a good idea but he needed time to think about it and I gave it to him.

2 days before the break up he felt lost and sad about he doesn't know what he wants in his life. He said he's confused. I'm there to support him on skype and he said he wants to discussed it with his mum.

The conversation was normal apart from hes still confused about his life and he still reassure me that we will work on the relationship together.

He talked to his mum on skype while I was waiting to support him after the talk. But that ha never happened he starred to blocked me on everything. I tried to call him but I can't get a hold of him. Then his mum called me to tell me that he wanted to brake up with me and he's just very emotional right now and he wished not to speak to me.

I decided to fly back to get to talk to him as I think I deserve an explanation and I know him that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. We were like best friends and partners.

I waited for him at his work and weve got a sit down and a talk. He seems really painful. It physically hurt him when I asked him what happened. He shaked and crying, which is unexpected he's never cried. While we see each other hes the one who can't connect to his emotions and now it's just so overwhelming for him.

He told me in the past year he has been trying to make me happy make sure that I'm happy because itbhurts him to see me upset and crying when we had an arguments. When hwent out with his friends he always worry if I'm going to be upset and be home late to skype with me.

I know that it my fault to make him think like that. But for over a year I've changed I trusted him more and I actually want him to go out with his friends. But he said he's too worry anyways he knows that I wa sanctuary fine but he can't get the picture of me crying and upsetting, they haunted him evrytime he knows that something could make me unhappy.

He told me

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He told me that he wasn't confident enough to be himself and tell me about the problem because whatever problems we had we always discuss them together. And this is his problem that he feel not so confident to be true to himself.

The idea of me being upset of him breaking up with me killing him and the best way to do it is cut me off in every ways. He knows that he can't stand to see me calling him he never open any emails I sent him. He afraid that he would want to talk to me. He said cutting me out of his life make he wants to throw up.

It hurts me to see him being like that and never talked to me about it. I just wish he told me so I could be there for him. And work it out together.

I asked him if we could hang out like friends and he said he's not ready to hangout with me and when I asked him the question he started to shake and crying that I needed to hold him and tell him everything is ok which normally he's the one whdoes that.

I was so calm and understanding but I just wish we had a chance to fix this together. I have to fly back next week so I emailed him about that I'm glad we get to talk and I totally respect his idea. But I want to see him as much as i can while I'm here just for a week and I dot. Think I'll ever see him again or talk to him again when he's ready to unblock me

He emailed me back that we can go gor lunch together and he will meet me at the restaurant he asked me if I want to do the relationship talk or just hanging out. I didn't reply to that question b hi r I think I'll try to stay far away from the relationship talk. Since eim here I told him that of course I need to hear the explanation but the main point I'm here is to be there for him as I know that he would need his close Friend.

I still want to get back with him but I think this is not the right time to do it because I know that it wouldn't work until he understand what he wants I'm his life and to forget the picture of me being upset when he can't make me happy ( which he said that it impossible for hom to forget) he said he doesn't think we could be back together even in the future because he thinks that it won't work out. So I'll just leave that for awhilefor him to be himself and find his confident again

I just wonder what can I do for the best while I'm here for a week and what things to do or say when I meet him and to reassure him that I'll always be there for him but not forcing him to feel like I'm

HE GOT HIS MOM TO BREAK UP WITH YOU FOR HIM.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Holy shit, that's a new one!

What a loser. I'm sorry, the only thing that pained him was that he had to confront you and confrontation is oh so scurry.

This guy is full of shit.

Take time away to figure yourself out and cope with all the emotions. Don't try to be friends right away. Do you and revisit that friendship idea later.

This guy doesn't know what he wants, but he does know he doesn't want it with you.

Posted by dolphinjoy
"Take time away to figure yourself out and cope with all the emotions. Don't try to be friends right away. Do you and revisit that friendship idea later."

^ Pretty much what rocky had in store for ya advice-wise, the rest is usually her general reaction to any libra man story lol 🙂

To be honest, I'd follow it. Take care of yourself first. If he comes back around with an explanation or more, take it from there. But right now just think about your own emotional and mental well-being.

Also, what's your sun sign if you don't mind me asking?

Dude, him getting his mom to break up for him isn't a typical Libran story thing. It's a pussy man approach and so freaking LOL worthy. Gawd. Wtf is wrong with people? haha

I mean really OP, please do focus on yourself as he's not thinking of you at all. HE GOT HIS MOM TO DO HIS BREAK UP FOR HIM. He's being absolutely passive aggressive as fuck and isn't being considerate toward you at all. You shouldn't be offering to be there for him, you should be heading for the hills! Only you is going to take care of you here, not him, not his mom. It's all you.

My sun sign is Sagittarius

I think it's very coward of him to have his mum to do it as well.

So why are you trying to "be there" for someone who's being such a tool?

Move along, nothing to see here.

There's a few things wrong with this situation:

1. Why is his mother reporting to you about HIS feelings? How old are we, like 5?! Having your mom do your dirty work for you is the equivalent of breaking up with someone on Instagram. Tacky. Spineless. He needs to man up!

2. When a person says they need space, that's not code for "Let me gravitate more towards you!" I get that you feel powerless, but trying to force yourself on him will just increase his anxiety. It'll only push him further away. It'll only make him take longer to come back out of his shell. When a person tells you that they can't handle 'us' right now, they mean it. All the crying/begging in the world won't matter if a person has made up their mind to block you out temporarily. The only possible result from that is you annoying him with your smothering.

3. He's got some severe emotional problems. Problems that were there long before you. Problems that you can't fix b/c you didn't create them. He's not emotionally mature enough to maintain a relationship with you or anybody. If his 1st resort is to run, then how in the hell were you 2 supposed to get through relationship issues (inevitable issues that every couple has) later on down the road?? If running is his strategy when he's stressed now, it'll always be his strategy. Come down off of cloud 9 for a second & pay attention!

4. Stop trying to play therapist to him. He's got demons that overpower & outweigh his love for you, hence the reason his issues had enough weight that it made him feel like shutting you out was best. I get that you wanna be supportive & show him how supportive you are to him, but again, don't overdo it. Be supportive and loving from a distance. Trust me, he's listening & paying attention to all that you're doing. He's probably half-flattered by your persistence and half annoyed at the same time.

I'm not saying you should move on for good. But at least do so for now. No need in crying over spilled milk if you're in a situation that you can't control. Let him work through his own emotional issues. Him coming back & opening up to you according to when HE is comfortable should be HIS idea, not yours.

We had lunch together yesterday. With normal conversation like when we were together. We talked about memories and share lives like we used to.

About the relationship part, I told him that of course I'd want to be with him but I am not ready and he's not ready. But I don't like the idea that he think that we will never be together again. If we cross path and we are different people in the future I hope it works out. He said yeah if it meant to be. I'm still the person that he cares alot.

He said he will unblock me in a few months. But he will email me to update his life.

I offered to drive him home but he said he will go home by himself as he need to process his thought. We agree to meet again on Friday before I fly back on Sunday.

He emailed me to say thank you for choosing the nice restaurant and he had a great time with me.