How should I deal with this guy?

I decided to go back out there to see what it's like to date following my failing marriage. But it's been so long, I don't know how to deal with this situation.
We met through a friend, he's smart and funny but he's also kind of a flake. I think. We've been texting almost every night and we talked on the phone a few times. We live about an hour from each other, but this is California, that distance is normal.

He asked me on a date twice now and I said yes, but only if he could drive. Snow storm warning where he lives and me living by the coast.
Twice now he said he couldn't drive because of the snow, only to learn that he had been driving to see his friends in the city. Twice now, I changed my plans for him for nothing. One of those night being tonight. He told me snow could fuck our plans, and he told our common friend he was going to his his buddies.

I wanna send him a "sorry it won't work out" text but I have no idea what to say exactly! Help!

Let him go. Games are for children!

I agree with Scorp and Mag...Drop him if he's a flake.

Do not send a sorry it's not gonna work out text to a flake which only displays a hint of desperation as if you were betting on him to come through as if he's your only option.

Don't give it a second thought.

Next time he contacts you let him be very low on your priority list.

Try not to continue a text messaging pattern with him and that alone will tell him he's lost his chance with you. His loss.

Lastly if a man is NOT making an effort of any kind to call you and your voice which includes HIM setting up the date, place and time and following through then he's not that into you because men that are into they are focused and when they are focused they try, they follow up, they follow through, they persist and make an effort.

Posted by CarRiderGirl
I decided to go back out there to see what it's like to date following my failing marriage. But it's been so long, I don't know how to deal with this situation.
We met through a friend, he's smart and funny but he's also kind of a flake. I think. We've been texting almost every night and we talked on the phone a few times. We live about an hour from each other, but this is California, that distance is normal.

He asked me on a date twice now and I said yes, but only if he could drive. Snow storm warning where he lives and me living by the coast.
Twice now he said he couldn't drive because of the snow, only to learn that he had been driving to see his friends in the city. Twice now, I changed my plans for him for nothing. One of those night being tonight. He told me snow could fuck our plans, and he told our common friend he was going to his his buddies.

I wanna send him a "sorry it won't work out" text but I have no idea what to say exactly! Help!

Don't take things seriously for a while. Just get out there and date, get your feet wet. Enjoy it and have fun. Don't worry about his cancellations, don't take it personally. Go out and do something else. Date lots of different people and find yourself again.

Posted by tiki33
I agree with Scorp and Mag...Drop him if he's a flake.

Do not send a sorry it's not gonna work out text to a flake which only displays a hint of desperation as if you were betting on him to come through as if he's your only option.

Don't give it a second thought.

Next time he contacts you let him be very low on your priority list.

Try not to continue a text messaging pattern with him and that alone will tell him he's lost his chance with you. His loss.

Lastly if a man is NOT making an effort of any kind to call you and your voice which includes HIM setting up the date, place and time and following through then he's not that into you because men that are into they are focused and when they are focused they try, they follow up, they follow through, they persist and make an effort.

Good to see you posting Tiki!!! I've missed you!

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Posted by CarRiderGirl
I decided to go back out there to see what it's like to date following my failing marriage. But it's been so long, I don't know how to deal with this situation.
We met through a friend, he's smart and funny but he's also kind of a flake. I think. We've been texting almost every night and we talked on the phone a few times. We live about an hour from each other, but this is California, that distance is normal.

He asked me on a date twice now and I said yes, but only if he could drive. Snow storm warning where he lives and me living by the coast.
Twice now he said he couldn't drive because of the snow, only to learn that he had been driving to see his friends in the city. Twice now, I changed my plans for him for nothing. One of those night being tonight. He told me snow could fuck our plans, and he told our common friend he was going to his his buddies.

I wanna send him a "sorry it won't work out" text but I have no idea what to say exactly! Help!

Don't take things seriously for a while. Just get out there and date, get your feet wet. Enjoy it and have fun. Don't worry about his cancellations, don't take it personally. Go out and do something else. Date lots of different people and find yourself again.

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how many people did you date before you came across your aqua guy?

I get that he may be saying a lot of sweet things to you behind closed doors, but all of that doesn't matter if what he's showing you is that he's not that into you.

He's not putting in the extra effort & taking such a dangerous chance on you b/c he's not that into you. He may like you, just not enough to be consistent & take the same risks for you as he does with others.

If a man knows he's not getting the cookie, on top of him not being that into a woman, he damn sure won't go the extra mile to see her. Just sayin'

His actions show that he's not that into you, so make your decision according to that fact. Your street smarts are trying to tell you what's up, so listen.

She's freshly out of a messy marriage.