@TheLizWiz
5 Years
If a guy is 31 and his girlfriend is 45, is that a big age difference?
Understanding Age Differences in Relationships
A relationship with a 31-year-old and a 45-year-old is a common age gap and can work well if both are compatible. Age differences do not determine relationship success. Focus on shared values and mutual respect rather than labels like cougar or cub.
It varies from person to person. If it is OK for you both, so it is OK, and vice versa, if you find it not OK, so it is not for you.
63yo Madonna and her 27yo boyfriend
Yes. They're either in it for the money or some other selfish motive.
I can not see such a relationship going anywhere past 3-4 years' mark at best.
It varies from person to person. If it is OK for you both, so it is OK, and vise versa, if you find it not OK, so it is not for you.
63yo Madonna and her 27yo boyfriend
Now I love Madonna, but we all know this relationship is strictly because she wants to stay out of the grave LOL!
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Lol!!
Yes it is.
I don't have problems with people dating someone younger than them as long as both are consensual adults and happy.
Personally, the youngest dude I dated was 25 and I was 31 then. I can't date anyone more than 6 or 7 years younger than me.
What she said..
I don’t necessarily think there’s anything “wrong” with it, it just doesn’t work for me and there is no attraction to younger men from my end. At this stage in my life I am attracted to emotional stability and in my experience, men tend to mature emotionally later in life than women do. All the game playing, toxic manipulation tactics and “wyd” texts does not appeal to me. 🤷♀️ Lol On the other hand, they say that men who dare younger women live longer lives. Women who date younger men don’t 🤣😂 so, there’s that.
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You Scorpios and your obsession with death. *smh*
14 year age gap is a lot IMO
I notice the maturity levels, life lessons, etc
I think so. But she’s almost 2 generations older than him and men already need to catch up maturity wise for a women.
She must be very youthful, if she was willing to try out a relationship. This doesn’t seem lasting at all. She’s too old for him.
Yes it is.
I don't have problems with people dating someone younger than them as long as both are consensual adults and happy.
Personally, the youngest dude I dated was 25 and I was 31 then. I can't date anyone more than 6 or 7 years younger than me.
What she said..
I don’t necessarily think there’s anything “wrong” with it, it just doesn’t work for me and there is no attraction to younger men from my end. At this stage in my life I am attracted to emotional stability and in my experience, men tend to mature emotionally later in life than women do. All the game playing, toxic manipulation tactics and “wyd” texts does not appeal to me. 🤷♀️ Lol On the other hand, they say that men who dare younger women live longer lives. Women who date younger men don’t 🤣😂 so, there’s that.
You Scorpios and your obsession with death. *smh*
😂😂😂 no there was an article that was circulating on Facebook about a study that was done that showed that men that marry younger women tend to live longer lives.. i thought it was interesting so read into it more. Then found it even more interesting that it doesn’t change for a woman, whether we marry a man our age, older or younger.
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Probably cuz the younger woman fucks more and that burns more calories leading to healthier heart and arteries for the man.
It rarely works out but I guess there are some exceptions.
My older sister dated a guy who was younger than me(her and I are 11 yrs apart in age). It was weird. She almost married him. He had his own money so it wasn't a money situation...think it was more of a sexual one tbh. He was an ass hole tho and I'm glad she didn't marry him...but from what I hear they are still friends.
The Virgo I'm dating was dating a woman who was like 15+yrs older than us(we are the same age) before I met him. I still kind of make fun of him for it when I get the chance. I think he was around 31-33 when they met and she was like late 40s or early 50s I'm not sure exactly I just know she was way older than him and was basicly a cougar who didn't want him to work cause she had money. 😂
Yes it is.
I don't have problems with people dating someone younger than them as long as both are consensual adults and happy.
Personally, the youngest dude I dated was 25 and I was 31 then. I can't date anyone more than 6 or 7 years younger than me.
What she said..
I don’t necessarily think there’s anything “wrong” with it, it just doesn’t work for me and there is no attraction to younger men from my end. At this stage in my life I am attracted to emotional stability and in my experience, men tend to mature emotionally later in life than women do. All the game playing, toxic manipulation tactics and “wyd” texts does not appeal to me. 🤷♀️ Lol On the other hand, they say that men who dare younger women live longer lives. Women who date younger men don’t 🤣😂 so, there’s that.
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Yes and married women die earlier than single women but married men live longer than single men.
Once I read about it here: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand style /2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert
Yes and married women die earlier than single women but married men live longer than single men.
men already need to catch up maturity wise for a women.
Lol wrong messenger. You aren’t the brightest. You can’t distinguish woman from women. You say a lot of dumb stuff on here. I am certain you agree with me on that.
Of course it’s a big age difference. I believe that both parties in those type of relationships are together for convenience. I’m sure money and/or status are the root.
14 year age gap is a lot IMO
I notice the maturity levels, life lessons, etc
Box of viagra and false teeth on the side table give it away.
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No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
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She runs a restautant too....amazing energy! I think she’s late 40s.
Cougar term applies to women in their 40s + with younger men.
Is it a big age difference? I guess that's all relative really.
It's okay.. but technically, maybe not.
Different sex drives
Different goals
Way different maturity level may hamper the relationship as well
It's okay.. but technically, maybe not.
Different sex drives
Different goals
Way different maturity level may hamper the relationship as well
Older women+younger men = same sex drives 🔥🔥
It's okay.. but technically, maybe not.
Different sex drives
Different goals
Way different maturity level may hamper the relationship as well
Older women+younger men = same sex drives 🔥🔥
Only if the guy's younger than mid 20s and the woman is menopausal.
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Is that a thing?
I don't believe in the terms like milf, cougar, cub etc. It's just the pornification of culture which has been invented to hypersexualise people.
That said yes. It would be the equivalent of an 18 year old dating a 32 year old. It depends on your goal, if you don't want children and you enjoy each other's company it's fine.
Exactly.
Yet, older women seem to think it’s flattering to be called a “cougar”, and allowing patriarchal thinking label them as such, because it’s vanity/desire over the dread of being an aging undesirable.
It's okay.. but technically, maybe not.
Different sex drives
Different goals
Way different maturity level may hamper the relationship as well
Older women+younger men = same sex drives 🔥🔥
Only if the guy's younger than mid 20s and the woman is menopausal.
Is that a thing?
One article said peak for women was in their 40s, another said 17 for men. Quite a few said early 20s for both.
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Ive heard a good few women say their sex drive peaks after 35/40
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No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
She runs a restautant too....amazing energy! I think she’s late 40s.
She's living a good life 😭
What are their signs? Lol now I'm getting all nosy. 😂
I wouldn't be surprised if the young guy is an Aqua or a Sag.
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No prob 😀
She is a Sag and he a Libra
She’s the more dynamic of the two.
Once I read about it here: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand style /2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert
Yes and married women die earlier than single women but married men live longer than single men.
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Sorry Som but that link didn't come up for me.
Wow, I did not know that the Leo Madonna does not work with Scorpios: https://www.justjared.com/2020/10/04/madonna-refuse-to-make-an-album-with-david-guetta-because-hes-a-scorpio/
I remember that once she wanted to do a collab with the Scorpio Björk, but Björk refused, not Madonna!
It varies from person to person. If it is OK for you both, so it is OK, and vice versa, if you find it not OK, so it is not for you.
63yo Madonna and her 27yo boyfriend
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
What about a toyboy?
I'd be a hypocrite if I say sex with a much more virile, younger guy wouldn't be tempting. 🔥
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Go for it 🔥
14 year age gap is a lot IMO
I notice the maturity levels, life lessons, etc
Box of viagra and false teeth on the side table give it away.
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I used to be attracted to younger guys but the maturity level is extremely noticeable.
Plus, they’re usually just started their careers and don’t have funds to date me
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
What about a toyboy?
I'd be a hypocrite if I say sex with a much more virile, younger guy wouldn't be tempting. 🔥
Go for it 🔥
I did.. And it was a headache.
Maybe things will be different now that I'm pushing 40 though. We'll see 😁
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Give it another blast 😃🔥
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
What about a toyboy?
I'd be a hypocrite if I say sex with a much more virile, younger guy wouldn't be tempting. 🔥
Go for it 🔥
I did.. And it was a headache.
Maybe things will be different now that I'm pushing 40 though. We'll see 😁
Give it another blast 😃🔥
Younger men can always give it another blast. Two in a row, twice as nice. I swear down you just set these up for me.
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Dxp’s answer to Vic and Bob
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
What about a toyboy?
I'd be a hypocrite if I say sex with a much more virile, younger guy wouldn't be tempting. 🔥
Go for it 🔥
I did.. And it was a headache.
Maybe things will be different now that I'm pushing 40 though. We'll see 😁
Give it another blast 😃🔥
Younger men can always give it another blast. Two in a row, twice as nice. I swear down you just set these up for me.
Dxp’s answer to Vic and Bob
We ain't that good. Maybe Cannon and Ball on a good day.
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😂
Or The Krankies?
Which one are you?
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
What about a toyboy?
I'd be a hypocrite if I say sex with a much more virile, younger guy wouldn't be tempting. 🔥
Go for it 🔥
I did.. And it was a headache.
Maybe things will be different now that I'm pushing 40 though. We'll see 😁
Give it another blast 😃🔥
Younger men can always give it another blast. Two in a row, twice as nice. I swear down you just set these up for me.
Dxp’s answer to Vic and Bob
We ain't that good. Maybe Cannon and Ball on a good day.
😂
Or The Krankies?
Which one are you?
I don't own a schoolboy uniform. Fandabidozi.
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I do 🙃
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Children's entertainers The Krankies have disclosed that they used to be swingers who enjoyed a life style wilder than rock stars. Ian and Janette Tough, both 64, confessed that they each had a string of lovers in their 70s and 80s heyday and shared an "anywhere, any time" attitude to sex
14 year age gap is a lot IMO
I notice the maturity levels, life lessons, etc
Box of viagra and false teeth on the side table give it away.
I used to be attracted to younger guys but the maturity level is extremely noticeable.
Plus, they’re usually just started their careers and don’t have funds to date me
What are you eating on dates Lobster and Caviar?
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I’m allergic to shellfish.
But yes, my taste is up there.
A coffee date ain’t gonna do it for ya girl
No its not a big gap
A couple who live close to me got married when she was 42 and he 28. Theyre very happy together and have been together for a few years, they adore each other. They have a lovely little girl now ❤️
Wow. Happy for them but I can't imagine having a baby in my 40s. I feel like the constant tiredness/sleeplessness will kill me for sure.
What about a toyboy?
I'd be a hypocrite if I say sex with a much more virile, younger guy wouldn't be tempting. 🔥
Go for it 🔥
I did.. And it was a headache.
Maybe things will be different now that I'm pushing 40 though. We'll see 😁
Give it another blast 😃🔥
Younger men can always give it another blast. Two in a row, twice as nice. I swear down you just set these up for me.
Dxp’s answer to Vic and Bob
We ain't that good. Maybe Cannon and Ball on a good day.
😂
Or The Krankies?
Which one are you?
I don't own a schoolboy uniform. Fandabidozi.
I do 🙃
🥴🤣
Children's entertainers The Krankies have disclosed that they used to be swingers who enjoyed a life style wilder than rock stars. Ian and Janette Tough, both 64, confessed that they each had a string of lovers in their 70s and 80s heyday and shared an "anywhere, any time" attitude to sex
TBH it was still a lot more wholesome than some TV presenters at the time. Apart from you know who and the other Australian one, Hughie Green was a sleazy fucker. Who's your daddy? Indeed.
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Yes sleazebag Hughie
Who was the Ozzie one?
From my observation, younger guys like the challenge of an older women, they say, they like that they aren’t demanding and insecure and know what they want. These guys look after themselves physically which is the appeal to older woman however, they lack worldly experience and substance.
Older men, let themselves go and no longer try. A great deal don’t care too much about appearance yet still chase the hottest women in the room and can have issues downstairs… or they are committed/married and are looking for a fling.
Still looking for a happy medium myself.
Of course, I’m generalising but this ^^^ through my experiences and that of a few single friends.
A 30 year old is Adult enough to make up their own mind, I don’t know anyone that has a relationship with this age gap… either that or you just don’t notice with couples. Oh yeah, my ex husband and his wife, she is around 14 years younger I think. Wouldn’t know at all. They have a beautiful daughter together and are in it for life. I don’t think there was any issues about theirs ages from the beginning.
Jason Momoa (42) and Lisa Bonet (53) married since 2017 and started dating in 2005 when he was 26 and she was 37.
Joan Collins 88 and Husband 56
~32 year age gap ~
Married for 2 decades
I wanted to post them here, but forgot about it. Thank you!
When someone asked Joan about their difference, she joked: "Look, I'll tell you about the age thing - if he dies, he dies!"
Joan Collins 88 and Husband 56
~32 year age gap ~
Married for 2 decades
I wanted to post them here, but forgot about it. Thank you!
When someone asked Joan about their difference, she joked: "Look, I'll tell you about the age thing - if he dies, he dies!"
Joan Collins 88 and Husband 56
~32 year age gap ~
Married for 2 decades
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Yes I heard her say that lol .... she is some feisty woman!
Rawwwwwwr 😀
It varies from person to person. If it is OK for you both, so it is OK, and vice versa, if you find it not OK, so it is not for you.
63yo Madonna and her 27yo boyfriend
Holy moly, Madonna looks amazing for 63!!
Hugh Jackman and wife
She: 65
He: 52
Married for 25 years
Sexy Tina and her younger man🔥
16 year age gap
Married for 7 years
All the hot sexy women getting themselves younger men 😍
Been there, done that
May do it again 🔥😀
Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (12 years her junior)
21 years together
Two children together
Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (12 years her junior)
21 years together
Two children together
She is gorgeous....loved her in White Palace, older woman with younger James Spader ..... so red 🔥together
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Like would it count as one of those cougar and cub relationships?