Is flirting cheating?

Some said that it is.... Depending on if your in a relationship. Others said it's harmless fun. What do you think?

I'm a flirty person just in general, but it is just harmless. When it's with intent it's in a completely different manner.

As long as it is just harmless flirting and there is no intent behind it, I would say no.

I suppose it all boils down to trust at the end of the day.

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Posted by LadyOfRebirth

Posted by MadMarchRam

As long as it is just harmless flirting and there is no intent behind it, I would say no.

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What's also important imo is how appropriate the flirting is.

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Anything referring to sex, innuendos, touching anything other than an arm I would consider inappropriate.

Any of the above I consider flirting with intent.
With me it's more light hearted banter which a lot of people consider flirting.

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Posted by MadMarchRam

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Posted by MadMarchRam

As long as it is just harmless flirting and there is no intent behind it, I would say no.

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What's also important imo is how appropriate the flirting is.

Anything referring to sex, innuendos, touching anything other than an arm I would consider inappropriate.

Any of the above I consider flirting with intent.
With me it's more light hearted banter which a lot of people consider flirting.

The difficulty with a term like flirting is how each person defines it.

I'm personally far from a flirt, but I do give compliments to men when I think they have done something to deserve it. Some see that as flirting as well.

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I was actually going to say that but was to fast to post last comment lol

Everyone's perception of what qualifies as flirting is different.

Posted by tiziani
There are some people who flirt by ignoring the other person.


So if you're going out with a woman who's flirting style is to ignore you, then every time you see her out and about completely not talking or taking notice of other men, she's obviously seeking a gateway to cheating. You gotta nip that in the bud before it gets out of hand.

Can never be too careful with these things.

Lol I've personally never understood this method.

If I ignore someone it's because I don't like them. If I'm ignored it puts me off and I'm more than happy to return the favour and forget that person lol

Some people just like the challenge though I suppose lol

Flirting is cheating especially if it's being done behind the significant others back.

Don't care for flirts myself because they love to tease but run when the other person is actually trying to take it to another level.


People who flirt cross boundaries so fast they can't be trusted and overall are just impulsive annoying greedy brats (shrugs)

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Posted by tiziani
There are some people who flirt by ignoring the other person.


So if you're going out with a woman who's flirting style is to ignore you, then every time you see her out and about completely not talking or taking notice of other men, she's obviously seeking a gateway to cheating. You gotta nip that in the bud before it gets out of hand.

Can never be too careful with these things.

that's honestly fucked up to me. lol..are people too scared to just gtfo a relationship if it isn't right for them?

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weird people

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cause and effect


It's not JUST the deed you do ... it's the intention behind the deed


Flirting is an effect of something else. It's this (something else) that has to be considered as to whether it's cheating or not.


THAT someone does something means zilch.

How superficial !!!

Yes, let's discuss superficial bullshit and call it important.


::::: shakes head :::::

Questions like this are so absurd ... just like ones about love.

"cheating" has no definitive meaning

"flirting" has no definitive meaning



So pretty much, most of the people here are surface dwellers, so that they can fill up their life reacting, rather than thinking about practical values.

Just like the topic's creator .... the only reason this topic was created was to submerse the self into - vicarious thinking exercise - for purposes of attempting to feel what it would be like to have been exposed to, and betrayed by - an imagining.

Imagine all the people living in a world of peace !!!


No, you create an imagining of being treated poorly, so that the feeling of betrayal is created.

You don't want to hear anything other than how bad this feeling is.


Seriously .... none of you are actually getting that you are that person you don't want. And the reason is because you are calling this shit to you. You're making all of this shit.

Look at topics like this .... you actually want to embrace feelings of suffering. And you're not alone in your smallness - it's probably realistically like 95% of you people who don't really realize what you do to yourself, and blindly go through life thinking someone/something else is doing it to you.


You guys wonder why I get so frustrated .... look how stupid you people are. Look where/how you put your thoughts.

you are literally what you think

Posted by Gemi9

Posted by MadMarchRam
I'm a flirty person just in general, but it is just harmless. When it's with intent it's in a completely different manner.

As long as it is just harmless flirting and there is no intent behind it, I would say no.

I suppose it all boils down to trust at the end of the day.

So how is the person you flirting with supposed to know if it is harmless
and you do not invite him deeper?

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To be perfectly honest with you at some point a blatent comment would be made letting the person know I like them.
My flirting with intent is pretty obvious and I'm quite a straight forward person. I have no problem in saying what I want.

I don't consider it cheating, but I don't consider it okay and perfectly acceptable to do when with you're already in a relationship with someone. Like, why??

"Give them an inch and they MIGHT (keyword) take a mile."

Dxpnet needs to come up with
A way to not only block a user, but to block that user from posting on your thread also.

P angel, if you don't like what I post, stay off of my thread. "like the creator" lol, negative, bitter bitch you don't know me. You've commented on every last thread that I've posted.

For your information, this thread was created because of a question that I saw on yahoo answers. so, I decided to post it here. It isn't because of me, like you're saying. Stop saying shit that you obviously don't know about. Dxpnet is not just made for people to ask questions about things that is going on in their lives, but it's also a place for people to interact. If you have shit that's going on within yourself, that's on you, but don't come in here and take it out on others.

Yes. Its cheating. Giving that kind of attention to someone other than your SO is inappropriate and wrong. What is he point of being in a relationship if youre still gunna act like community dick/pussy? Isnt a relationship about being exclusive and committed to one person? If only the person's body is committed to the relationship and not their mind, there's no point in the relationship. It's essentially like having one foot out the door.

People have really lowered their standards. Allowing their partners to get away with this mess then turn around and be mad when he/she catches feelings for the person they were "just flirting". Yeah okay. But what do i know? Im chronically single cuz i have no time for games and loose men. Be loyal or be gone. Only silly people stick with disloyal lovers.

Haha. Im never getting married. The thought of giving my all to someone only to have them do shady shit like this behind my back is terrifying. I was born in wrong era. Lmfao so sad

Stupid ass fucking people .... imagine something that would hurt your feelings really bad ...



... now go relish in it by making conversations about how aweful it makes you feel.



Seriously .... what dumbasses. Women especially LOVE to wallow in suffering. In fact, if they get emotional injured in any way, they can't wait to talk to as many people as possible about the pain so that they can enjoy the misery.

It appears that the only topics made by this creator are based around her negative energy.

This dumbass moron. I posted proof as to why I posted what I did. If you want to sit here and still continue with your bitter ass bullshit, that's you. And I'm creating negative energy—? When you're the one who is ALWAYS making negative comments? Bitch get a life and stop worrying about what I'm doing. Damn. Talking shit and you don't even know me. I'm done.... I'm not feeding into anymore of your bullshit. *blocked*

Posted by Gemi9

Posted by P-Angel

Stupid ass fucking people .... imagine something that would hurt your feelings really bad ...



... now go relish in it by making conversations about how aweful it makes you feel.



Seriously .... what dumbasses. Women especially LOVE to wallow in suffering. In fact, if they get emotional injured in any way, they can't wait to talk to as many people as possible about the pain so that they can enjoy the misery.

It appears that the only topics made by this creator are based around her negative energy.

How can you forbid someone to enjoy misery?
I am reserving my rights to enjoy my suffering! Back off witch!

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Who says I'm miserable? Smh.... Don't listen to that dumbass bitch.

Posted by P-Angel

Stupid ass fucking people .... imagine something that would hurt your feelings really bad ...



... now go relish in it by making conversations about how aweful it makes you feel.



Seriously .... what dumbasses. Women especially LOVE to wallow in suffering. In fact, if they get emotional injured in any way, they can't wait to talk to as many people as possible about the pain so that they can enjoy the misery.

It appears that the only topics made by this creator are based around her negative energy.

They're addicted to their own anxiety so they need to feed it. You're not an enabler, I get it. You're perception and emotional maturity is really good, how did you get like that? you obviously have lived it or are already doing it now and are dealing with it which is why you're able to identify it.....Its really interesting that people don't even see their own intentions behind the questions they ask.

To me its cheating because it distorts and poisons the image of my lover in my head and i god dammit I need that image because I'm 70% living in my head hahaha.....I'm an imperfect man and I get scared sometimes....Id like to think that if we were in love that would be enough, but realistically if I didn't kill the other guy I may as well be handing my prince over, chariot and all..

Flirting isn't cheating its just an easy tell tale sign that your relationship is on the rocks and everyone knows except for you.

Posted by Noreallynow
Some said that it is.... Depending on if your in a relationship. Others said it's harmless fun. What do you think?

It isn't cheating but it can be

srsly disrespectful.

Flirting is not cheating if you'd do the same flirting with the person in front of your significant other. If you wouldn't...then don't, your looking for trouble or to stray.

*** Hallelujah *** Magma!! so true ;}

Personally, I'm 1 of those people who believes that you can answer questions like these with a simple statement: Don't say or do anything with another woman when I'm not around that you wouldn't do if I were standing there, watching from afar, or listening to. If you know it'd bother me if you did it in my face, why would it suddenly be ok if the deed was done/said behind my back?

It says nothing about me that I wouldn't agree with a 2-faced partner, as it actually speaks volumes about a partner who would argue or fight to be that way, when cornered (and looking for a way to turn it around on you or shame you for disliking them flirting).

However, everybody's definition of flirting differs.

I'll say this though. Although I'm inclined to believe that cheating & flirting are 2 separate things (although they can both happen together), I acknowledge though that both CAN create similar feelings of mistrust, resentment, insecurity, doubt, & misunderstanding with their partner. This is why plenty of relationships have started the process of going downhill to hell. People aren't being honest about the real reason they flirt, nor are they being honest with themselves or their partners about the fact that YES, it freakin' bothers them!

I wouldn't dare shame those who don't give their partner's a pass to flirt b/c who am I to tell another woman or man that they oughta be ok with something that makes them uncomfortable, irregardless of the fact that others may not have taken it so hard?

Plus too, there are different levels of flirting. Everybody who cheats flirts. But everybody who flirts doesn't necessarily cheat.

There is nothing that your partner should be dying to do with the opposite sex to the extent that they're willing to make you uncomfortable or question their loyalty or integrity. And anyone who fights for their right to be able to flirt is suspicious to me. If it's gonna kill you to keep the suave guy shit to yourself then be single.

I've never been 1 to think that being a flirt is just simply who you are. Bullshit. Who you are & what you do are two different things. Who you are doesn't stop or turn off regardless. Or at least it shouldn't. But what you do changes, is turned up or turned down based on your audience, therefore flirting is definitely something a person can & should control.

Flirting is not an involuntary action or statement. It's calculated & thought out.

Doesn't mean that you wanna be with the person. Just means that there's something about them or within yourself that makess you feel it's worthy to fish in dangerous waters, even if just for 30 seconds.

It's all fun & games though until your partner doesn't think the shit is as funny or as innocent as you do :-p

Rules don't have to be followed.

My rules & those who share them work for us. They don't have to work for everybody. But my mentality & way of going about things is mine & I am unapologetic about it.

I made a post long time ago asking is Physical Cheating and Emotional cheating cheating? Would you leave your SO?, and got alot of different responses. This applies to Cheating too just add that next to emotional...But I do believe alot of Air, Mutable, and Cardinals are Kings of flirting..A wondering eye.. Which can or may activate my possessive trait

Which signs do you believe to be the most flirty?

If you are in a relationship and your partner is flirting with someone...how would you feel and would you consider that a betrayal of your love? Whatever you would feel, think that should apply in the reverse.