Scorpheartbreak24
@Scorpheartbreak24
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Is he cheating with his ex? or is she stalking us?
You do realize that someone can delete their own responses in a text thread, right?
However, she needs to back off, regardless. She's clearly in a relationship and so is he. Nobody owes her answers anymore. She made her choice to break it off with him.
However, she needs to back off, regardless. She's clearly in a relationship and so is he. Nobody owes her answers anymore. She made her choice to break it off with him.
Shes not the issue. Your boyfriend is. He has obviously not established clear boundaries.
Posted by DMV
Shes not the issue. Your boyfriend is. He has obviously not established clear boundaries.
+1
Why isn't his ex on BLOCK? Not to mention it wasn't your (talking to OP) place to have words with his ex...it was HIS with you present. smh
You sound very dramatic .... there's no doubt in my mind that you're getting off on it
They're not completely done with each other.
They've still got unfinished business. In the least, he's giving her the impression that they do.
Sounds like he deleted his own sent messages. Sounds like she keeps bringing you up as an issue b/c although he's talking to her behind closed doors, he's not willing to discuss you. To an extent, that's good, but to her, she knows him probably better than you & is taking his unwillingness to be honest about you as him holding back info b/c he somehow still cares about her feelings.
She's not talking to him b/c she just HAS to keep him as a friend in order to survive. She's being nosy & he's making her more and more curious the more he deflects & refuses to answer her questions. And she's right. If he's gonna break boundaries & talk to her, he might as well tell her what's up. Him not willing to tell her what it is tells me that he's hiding you.
He's afraid to let his ex know that he's serious about someone else b/c he still sees her as plan B & doesn't want her thinking that he's completely gone and over her mentally....just in case they decide to go another round in the future, some ex's do just enough to find small manipulative ways to keep the other at bay, "just in case."
If you're just insistent on getting to the bottom of this & since you've decided not to fully trust him, ask her for screen shots. Can't fake those. If it turns out he's been lying, get out early & move on. I'd be willing to bet you though that you're sharing him. If not sexually, definitely mentally, which is actually worse
Actually, forget all that I just said. You and I both know your gut already gave you the answer to your questions. Follow that thing called 'intuition' & 'warning bells' that you keep trying to ignore.
They've still got unfinished business. In the least, he's giving her the impression that they do.
Sounds like he deleted his own sent messages. Sounds like she keeps bringing you up as an issue b/c although he's talking to her behind closed doors, he's not willing to discuss you. To an extent, that's good, but to her, she knows him probably better than you & is taking his unwillingness to be honest about you as him holding back info b/c he somehow still cares about her feelings.
She's not talking to him b/c she just HAS to keep him as a friend in order to survive. She's being nosy & he's making her more and more curious the more he deflects & refuses to answer her questions. And she's right. If he's gonna break boundaries & talk to her, he might as well tell her what's up. Him not willing to tell her what it is tells me that he's hiding you.
He's afraid to let his ex know that he's serious about someone else b/c he still sees her as plan B & doesn't want her thinking that he's completely gone and over her mentally....just in case they decide to go another round in the future, some ex's do just enough to find small manipulative ways to keep the other at bay, "just in case."
If you're just insistent on getting to the bottom of this & since you've decided not to fully trust him, ask her for screen shots. Can't fake those. If it turns out he's been lying, get out early & move on. I'd be willing to bet you though that you're sharing him. If not sexually, definitely mentally, which is actually worse
Actually, forget all that I just said. You and I both know your gut already gave you the answer to your questions. Follow that thing called 'intuition' & 'warning bells' that you keep trying to ignore.
One thing you need to remember with guys who have "crazy" girlfriends- there's a really, really good chance he's causing the "crazy."
Are there crazy ex/girlfriends out there? Sure. But don't forget, that's also a way a lot of guys deal with fucking around- they blame it on the chick. He does/says stupid things to string her along leading her to believe things are one way, when they really aren't. When he fucks around and she calls him out on it, suddenly she's "crazy." It's a tactic some losers use, unfortunately.
That said, I agree with what else has been said here- I don't think he's being entirely honest with you. I think he is texting her, he just deletes his responses in the text threads, and he has not set up boundaries at all. I feel sorry for you and her boyfriend for being sucked into their immature drama. Neither should be dating, tbh.
You need to get to the bottom of this and write him off if you find he hasn't been entirely forthcoming. You don't need to start off a relationship battling against an ex for emotional space.
Are there crazy ex/girlfriends out there? Sure. But don't forget, that's also a way a lot of guys deal with fucking around- they blame it on the chick. He does/says stupid things to string her along leading her to believe things are one way, when they really aren't. When he fucks around and she calls him out on it, suddenly she's "crazy." It's a tactic some losers use, unfortunately.
That said, I agree with what else has been said here- I don't think he's being entirely honest with you. I think he is texting her, he just deletes his responses in the text threads, and he has not set up boundaries at all. I feel sorry for you and her boyfriend for being sucked into their immature drama. Neither should be dating, tbh.
You need to get to the bottom of this and write him off if you find he hasn't been entirely forthcoming. You don't need to start off a relationship battling against an ex for emotional space.
Three options:
1. Break it off and dump the drama.
2. Don't comment on it. Ignore it and observe. If he keeps bringing it up, then he's not over her and that actually gives you more information than what you would get by asking questions. No comments, just let him talk and see how often he brings it up.
Or,
3. You can be bold and aknowledge and support their friendship and suggest a double date. Then you can really observe their interaction.
1. Break it off and dump the drama.
2. Don't comment on it. Ignore it and observe. If he keeps bringing it up, then he's not over her and that actually gives you more information than what you would get by asking questions. No comments, just let him talk and see how often he brings it up.
Or,
3. You can be bold and aknowledge and support their friendship and suggest a double date. Then you can really observe their interaction.
Option 3 is like calling the bluff. Lays the cards out on the table for everyone to see - including her new boyfriend.
Posted by krysrenee7
They're not completely done with each other.
They've still got unfinished business. In the least, he's giving her the impression that they do.
Sounds like he deleted his own sent messages. Sounds like she keeps bringing you up as an issue b/c although he's talking to her behind closed doors, he's not willing to discuss you. To an extent, that's good, but to her, she knows him probably better than you & is taking his unwillingness to be honest about you as him holding back info b/c he somehow still cares about her feelings.
She's not talking to him b/c she just HAS to keep him as a friend in order to survive. She's being nosy & he's making her more and more curious the more he deflects & refuses to answer her questions. And she's right. If he's gonna break boundaries & talk to her, he might as well tell her what's up. Him not willing to tell her what it is tells me that he's hiding you.
He's afraid to let his ex know that he's serious about someone else b/c he still sees her as plan B & doesn't want her thinking that he's completely gone and over her mentally....just in case they decide to go another round in the future, some ex's do just enough to find small manipulative ways to keep the other at bay, "just in case."
If you're just insistent on getting to the bottom of this & since you've decided not to fully trust him, ask her for screen shots. Can't fake those. If it turns out he's been lying, get out early & move on. I'd be willing to bet you though that you're sharing him. If not sexually, definitely mentally, which is actually worse
Actually, forget all that I just said. You and I both know your gut already gave you the answer to your questions. Follow that thing called 'intuition' & 'warning bells' that you keep trying to ignore.
this.all.damn.day
you knew it from the getgo but maybe your curiosity got the better of you.
whats your boyfriends sign?
Posted by rockyroadicecream
One thing you need to remember with guys who have "crazy" girlfriends- there's a really, really good chance he's causing the "crazy."
Are there crazy ex/girlfriends out there? Sure. But don't forget, that's also a way a lot of guys deal with fucking around- they blame it on the chick. He does/says stupid things to string her along leading her to believe things are one way, when they really aren't. When he fucks around and she calls him out on it, suddenly she's "crazy." It's a tactic some losers use, unfortunately.
That said, I agree with what else has been said here- I don't think he's being entirely honest with you. I think he is texting her, he just deletes his responses in the text threads, and he has not set up boundaries at all. I feel sorry for you and her boyfriend for being sucked into their immature drama. Neither should be dating, tbh.
You need to get to the bottom of this and write him off if you find he hasn't been entirely forthcoming. You don't need to start off a relationship battling against an ex for emotional space.
+1
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